No, having multiple channels of communication can be very weird in the beginning. I'd text her and set up a date. If you can fit it into the text without being too wordy, maybe mention you'll answer her question when when out together.

im really sick of seeing girls with 5 pictures, where each picture has 5 girls in it and I have to try and figure out which girl is "her" like some game out of a Highlights magazine.

this is prob the most frustrating thing in viewing profiles. I think I have that made up disease that YTF has a little bit(I couldn't tell Chandler and Joey apart for years) and it's just super annoying.

am i alone on this?

Nick,

I have no idea re: fakeness of profiles, but all the people I know on Tinder are in their early 20s and they say it's pretty good for hooking up, maybe the closest thing to a straight Grindr (gay dude dating/hookup app) so far.

The girl above texted me suggesting we potentially change up the movie to Ironman or Now You See me saying they are probably more to my taste than Gastby.

Was this a test? or is she just being considerate?

Which movie do you want to see? Go to that one.

meh, Swipe for droid seems glitchy as hell

The distance parameters aren't working really. Even at 51 miles it's still showing people from 70+ miles away.
Anyone else?

A test of what?

And if you just saw a movie, why see another one?

It can be annoying. What I really hate is when their profile pics are with friends. Profile pics should just be you. After that, I don't mind a pic or two with friends and it's usually not that difficult to identify them. It's nice, though, if they write which one they are in the caption. If all their pics are with friends, it's kind of stupid.

Yeah it sucks. Already burned through everyone in a 50 mile radius and a lot of duplicates.

Didn't see the movie yet, not going until Wednesday. I definitely wouldn't do 2 movie dates in a row LOL.

Just struck me as a bit odd given she was all excited when we set up the plans after our date yesterday. I'm leaning towards it being more just considerate since she is ridiculously nice. Just wasn't sure if maybe it was some weird girl test thing.

In the end it doesn't matter, was just curious what you guys thought.

Don't tell each other which movie you are meeting for and play the Nash Equilibrium game:

Nash on Dating

yeah i agree with this method. here's an interesting and random question (or two) regarding messaging girls.

1) is there a time period that you wouldn't message girls (ie. does the timestamp of your message matter?)
2) does viewing their profile while they're on twice (refreshing their page by accident) have a negatively viewed effect [for example sometimes i forget to message somebody but still want to later and reopen chrome]
3) is there such a thing as logging in too often (like a girl would notice that?)
4) is rating girls as dumb as it seems?
5) has anybody ever used/made work the geographic/proximity features on the OKC app?

all of these are probably fps'y next level questions, and most girls are probably level 1 thinkers, but i figured i'd ask because you guys give good advice.

is tinder the same thing as blendr? i used blendr a year ago and it was the most ****ed up experience ever (it was touted as the hetero equivalent of grindr.) i had a chick from wellesley ask for me to cyber with her then **** her in a park, a chick from BC who made up this fake story using pics from a person that was on the BC swim team (whom i knew). was a little scary. but tinder could be different

don't message girls during prime time weekends obv, especially when drunk

M,

No, Tinder is its own deal. I'm not familiar w/ blendr, but hookup sites/apps have traditionally had the problem of being too overt/direct, so most girls avoid them because they don't want to look slutty. Apparently the mechanics of Tinder are designed in a way that make girls more comfortable with being on it.

1) I'd say no but you can kinda get a feel for someone's lifestyle / schedule based on their message / log in times.

2) Without sending a message thereafter? Probably but it shouldn't. Girls have done it to mine a few times and I just assume there's something in my profile they wanted to recheck.

3) Do you want to date a girl who cares about this? For fun I cobbled together a script which tracks log in times and frequency. Girls don't seem to give a **** so you shouldn't either

4) Yes. I've never received an opener from a girl that I've rated, so what's the point beyond stroking their ego?

5) No

m,

I know a lot of attractive girls that online date (the vast majority of girls in SF are on, or have been on, dating sites). Most of them barely notice any of that stuff if at all, because it takes them too long just to stay on top of all the messages they receive.

If someone wanted to optimize, I think something like the following might have an impact. Run a script that logs when a hot girl logs in. Let's say her standard login times are bunched around Mon-Fri 3-6pm. I bet if you sent her a message around 2pm on a weekday, you'd have a much higher chance of a response than sending a message at night, simply based on being more likely to be near the top of her message queue when she logs on. The attractive girls I know on online dating rarely get through all their unread messages.

After sleeping with a date, what's the subtlest / best way to indicate to them that it's probably time for them to leave your place while minimizing hurt feelings / maximizing odds of doing it again?

Tell her it was obvious she just wanted to get laid because she was in your neighborhood shopping and kick her to the curb.

I'm 26. We're going out tomorrow night. Anything else you might consider as a response? My pics are recent, but I didn't think a question like that deserved a serious answer given my age.

Her: So how recent are your pics on pof?
Me: I look exactly the same except I now have gray hair

I told her that I was running on 3 hrs of sleep, have to wake up early and that I probably shouldn't have gone out and wouldn't have but because I like her I did. But I had to make the point in 5 different ways on separate occasions and she seemed a bit sad when leaving.

If it was the shopping girl on date #2 on a Sunday night, I think she'll get the hint if you just say I have to wake up early. The "I made time for you" is over the top IMO. Not worth worrying about though unless you really do like this girl.

Curious to see how others respond to this.

Yeah, not worried just wondering if there's some accepted standard that makes it gentle but clear that it's time to go. She didn't get the hint and it got to the point where I, knowing she'd likely decline, told her she can crash with me if she wants to but I really need to sleep.

Is that conversation over text? Just snap picture of yourself with your phone and text it to her. That would have been my response. And just say this is me 5 minutes ago. Then invite her to send you pics.

Yes, via text. I could still do this, but obv not doing a mirror shot b/c I'm not a douche. I'm assuming she's worried I got fat?

Just have a friend or co-worker take the pic. Lol, yeah no mirror or duckface shots.