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Originally Posted by TommyTrash
I get laid regularly, too, and I'd probably marry a girl if she was a 9 and really boring. Looks are extremely important to me and if a girl who was a lot more attractive than I was was into me and wanted to date seriously I'd do it regardless if her personality was meh.
I don't know if I'm in the minority but 8 with a boring personality is more dateable to me than a 7 with a cool personality.
I want to be that guy seen with the 8.
Lol I thought you were a troll but now I kind of understand you. You put looks on this huge pedestal to where you think it's an unconquerable deficiency for you because you don't think you're very attractive. What you don't realize is there are a ton of soft things that make up for this lack of looks. To put it in other terms think of it like getting a job. You are saying that you believe your resume is like a 7 and it is impossible for you to get a job at a company that is above your on-paper level. What you don't realize is there are a ton of other things that employers consider before hiring you like interpersonal skills, connections, experience outside your field, ability to think quickly, work ethic, etc. While yes, if you just graduated from a CC and have worked at Starbucks (a 1 in looks terms) you will never get a job at a top tier company. However, if you are in the range, these soft skills will make up for your lacking resume if they are outstanding.
Similarly, if you dress very well, are in great shape, have a lot of friends, great personality, have money, etc. as long as you get past the original looks test and are around her in looks your soft skills will make you more attractive to the girl.
It seems like you are into flash over substance and would rather have something that you perceive as "better" than you on paper, regardless of fit. To go back to the job analogy you would rather have a company ranked #46 on Forbes best companies list than #53 even though #53 is a better fit for your skills or #27 college on US news and world report over #38 even if they don't have your major, right?
Just like your resume for a job, or GPA and SAT scores for colleges, your looks will only get you so far with girls. Obviously if you are Mark Zuckerberg, got a 4.0 and 2400, or are Brad Pitt, these things supersede any soft skills. However, for the rest of us, these things are what allow less than perfect candidates to land dream schools/jobs/and women.