i had a fwb situation with the woman i reported directly to at work - it did not end well
we're hanging out all the time and kind of hooking up a bit - we're both seeing other people so it's no big deal
she books us tickets for a weekend festival - a big camping event in the redwoods that is social media related - not influencers or anything like that - just regular people who like sharing photos
we're there for work though, work is paying for the trip, we're a sponsor, we're providing all the kegs of beer - so we're there as reps for the company
i needed to be in San Francisco anyway for a bunch of meetings around that time, she sees this and she sets this up around those meetings
this is something she setup, I'm there because I was in the area anyway, I'm just there to help where I can, this is 100% her project
she doesn't want to take the bus that everyone is taking (it's literally a big part of the thing where everyone meets at the designated meeting place and gets on a bus) so we rent a car at the airport and drive up there directly
camp attendees are mostly strangers, small group of friends signed up and its on this bus ride where they are intermingling and getting to know each other for the coming week up in the woods
it's maybe a little more than 100 people - mostly SF tech related as well
we all get there late afternoon and everyone is just kind of unpacking stuff in their cabins and getting to know each other/socializing around the fires
I'm put in a cabin with a bunch of dudes, she's put in one with a bunch of women - i find her cabin with her, drop her off to deal with her stuff - say I'll meet her at the campfire where everything is happening and go to my cabin, drop my stuff off on the bunk bed and then head out to where everyone is
i spend a little bit of time socializing, don't see her anywhere so go and find her - she's sulking at the cabin - she was under the impression this would be glamping, not the literal rental of children's summer camp which it was - she's not having it, she was expecting a nice bed and shower etc and can't believe she's in a bunk bed in a cabin with 12 other women
she's never camped before and wants to leave now - i try to cheer her up, console her a bit, explain that she'll get used to it quickly and it's only for two nights - further explain how it's not going to look well if she just abandons her project - company literally flew her out here to network and we're providing all the beer and if she just leaves now it's going to not go over so well
she's not happy, a city girl from a wealthy family - never didn't have luxury amenities and doesn't know how to handle it, eventually i convince her to head over to where everyone is by the bonfire and get to know people - ie why we are here
she walks over with me but is too upset to mingle, so now instead of mingling I'm trying to console her, we're sitting at a picnic table about 50 yards away from everything (because that's the furthest spot she could find to sit) - she's just sitting there crying, unsure of what to do, i kind of scooch in and put my arm around her
mind you we're there as sponsors and it's going to be known to people we meet over this weekend that we are work colleagues representing a company which helped sponsor the event - so even though we've hooked up a bunch prior to all of this, I am not planning on doing anything of that sort while we are here for professional reasons
i feel like this "PDA" is not ideal but this is in not sexual in nature, if anyone took a good look they'd likely see it for what it was, cheering up someone who was upset and she's literally bawling out and crying - i can't just walk away or sit there across from her
besides, it's kind of dark, the bonfire makes it difficult for those at the fire to see anything going on elsewhere unless they were to walk away from it and people are drinking as well
she then starts blowing me, which i prevent because we're literally wholly exposed sitting at a picnic table 50 yards from over 100 people, but she is very insistent and keeps trying
so i do the logical thing, lead her into the woods about 20 yards away and then behind the treeline just absolutely rail her standing up as she leans forward and braces against a majestic redwood
this was the prescribed solution - after getting blasted, the tears are gone, she's now happy and smiling and actually wants to go and meet people and socialize a bit - so we go do that - it was actually one of the most memorable sexual moments I've had - against a redwood, in pitch darkness, a huge bonfire with hundreds of people within sight, huge risk of getting caught, etc
by the time we finally join the bonfire, most people have already left to go to bed and those who are left are quite drunk - we stay til the end with the 5 or 6 people remaining and then i walk her back to her cabin, head over to mine and go to sleep
at like 5 am she comes over to my cabin and crawls into my bunk with me - in the process she's woken up a few of the bunkmates - i try to explain to her this is a terrible idea, she agrees and heads back to her cabin - after she leaves, one of my bunk mates tells me she came in there drunkenly around 2 am and said "hey is rickroll here" and we told her no because none of us had met you and didn't know there was a rickroll in the cabin
a few hours later i head over to her cabin, see if she's up and wants to get breakfast, we head over, again, she doesn't want to sit at other tables with other people, she just wants to find an isolated spot with just the two of us - ok whatever
people are now playing volleyball, i convince her to go play with me, so we join, get to know a few people, after a little bit she's done playing and just wants to sit and watch - as an attractive woman she instantly gets a few guys come sit down next to her (attendees were mostly single guys in late 20s to mid 30s) "to watch volleyball" and then engage her in conversation - as you can imagine she's quite popular
she gets up and tells me she's going to go swimming with those guys - I'm ecstatic, i was thinking how much this weekend is going to suck spending the entire time catering to her and now that she was finally getting into the spirit of things, so could I
don't see her rest of the day - we're in a remote area so there's no cell coverage
i check her cabin periodically but she's never there, at the activities and events i don't see her, did not see her at lunch nor dinner
I'm now getting a bit worried, maybe something happened to her, or maybe she got a ride and left?
meanwhile the camp really sucks - all the social groups had already basically formed on the bus or the bonfire the first night - so I'm this solo person roaming about from group to group and it's just super weird and awkward, nobody is really welcoming me in or anything - it's more of a toleration - oh this stranger just approached and asked to get in on the settlers of catan game, i guess we'll let him join, etc etc - it's a very miserable weekend where i now spend most of it near everyone else but just reading my book - even thinking about the event right now makes me really sad - it's way more awkward than all of the most awkward situations in high school put together - it's an utterly miserable experience
she's not in her cabin when i check in before going to bed, she apparently didn't sleep there according to her bunkmates who haven't seen her, I don't see her at breakfast either
so now I'm getting worried, i try talking to some staff saying - look i don't want to cause any alarms or anything, but i haven't seen my colleague for about 24 hours and she didn't sleep in her cabin last night - they are like "lol"
when i don't see her at lunch, I go back to the staff and begin to press the issue a bit more, I'm not talking "we have a missing person" or anything, I fully acknowledge it could just be variance etc but if there's anyway to find out this is indeed a nothingburger that'd be a big relief - they are now finally taking it seriously and about to figure out how to go about this when i see her coming in with a bunch of guys just before lunch ends - i tell the people - oh nevermind there she is and then wave to her and call out her name to which she completely ignores as if we don't even know each other - so now i obviously look like a psychopathic stalker to all the staff
i go up to her, say "hey how are you I was looking for you" and she again just brushed it off and walked away to go to the buffet
apparently my "hey we're here to represent a company together, we shouldn't be sleeping in the same child's bunk in front of a dozen other dudes" did not go over well - she was very upset about that "rejection" and went and found some guys who were more than happy to bunk up with her
the rest of the day she completely ignores me and pretends like i don't exist - if i am doing an activity with other people where she's involved she literally acts like we're strangers - so this is a massive letdown as I am 100% the odd man out here, I didn't get to know anyone while people were doing that because I was taking care of her and I wasn't an attractive woman who would just get invited over to join in and hang out like she was - she literally knew half the guys by now and I figured hey at least now I'll be introduced and included in stuff - but nope
there's hundreds of pictures shared online of this event - the only photo I've ever seen that includes a picture of me is the group photo, where I'm obviously standing awkwardly off the side away from the main groups
later that night she's asked to come on stage briefly to be acknowledged as a sponsor who provided the beers - as she does this, again because most people have no clue we know each other openly talk in front of me saying things like "she's banged at least 3 different dudes at this camp already"
that evening as I'm hanging out with people, given that it's mostly single men, she's a focal point of gossip, they refer to her as the camp bicycle
the next morning she comes to my cabin with her stuff all packed and ready to go (we have a 3 hour long drive back) and acts like nothing ever happened, she once again acknowledges my existence and acts like we're best friends again (we were actually really close and hung out all the time previously - was actually really looking forward to this because I thought it would be fun to spend a weekend camping with her)
on the ride back i ask wtf happened, what that was all about - she doesn't really have any response. i mention how I'm not hurt that she slept with others as we are not exclusive, but i felt the way she treated me was a bit messed up and that hurt a lot to be treated like she didn't even know me - i also went on and on about how she needs to be more discreet about that stuff because she was the focal point of gossip, which is not a good look considering that we're a sponsor people go home, they ask how the event was "oh it was great, this company sponsored all the beer and me and 2 buddies both banged the rep from the company" - i talk about how if she were there on her own then fine, but she was there for work and with me and then just totally discarded me and made sure the company just gets laughed at
she basically sits there in silence the entire time, doesn't say a word
we just drive down coastal route 1 in silence - the views are gorgeous, we pull over a few times to silently stare out into the ocean
she didn't like that talk we had, decided that was the end of us, which i was totally fine with given how she recently treated me
she envisioned this a romantic getaway for the two of us, yet not once had she ever disclosed this to me, we'd spent weeks preparing for this, pitching it to the CEO, having a gameplan of how we were going to go about it to get maximum value out of attending - she thought we could do that as a couple on a romantic weekend where it was just the two of us - she never once disclosed that plan to me and thus my "hey we're here for work it'll be a bad look if we're cuddling in a children's bunk together" was not well received at all - she took that as a huge fu and rejection - had she simply told me beforehand this is the entire reason she wanted to do the trip then i wouldn't have been all like "hey this is not a good idea, we can cuddle in bed in two days at our hotel in SF" but instead have gone along with it knowing it looked bad but apparently we didn't care about looking bad at all - it was all just a ruse to spend a weekend in the woods together
and I stayed in the bay area another week for work while she went back
when i got back, she decided she loved me too much and it would be too painful to see me all the time so i needed to quit or she'd find a way to fire me - she said that over text - i told her it doesn't need to come to that, we can just work together amicably and still be friends - she says she's serious and will start moving forward to fire me, i invite her out for a coffee to chat it over - she says she's made up her mind, i point out that if she tries to fire me I'll show them that text - she apparently thought i was bluffing and i show up one day saying I'm being let go for bad performance, i point out that i literally just received a raise for good performance, they say that this girl disagrees and so i show the texts - company has no idea what to do - they'd already processed the dismissal and killed my email/login credentials/etc
they tell me to go home, that I'm not fired but should take some paid time off while they sort this out - i check in every Monday, am told they're still working on it, after a few months the CEO finally responds to the text that they've made a decision and I should come on in - they tell me that they've fired her for what she did and on a wholly unrelated matter decided to close my department and me and all my teammates have been let go - they assured me it was it unrelated, just a coincidence and gave me a generous severance package and let me keep my stock options (which i didn't exercise)
Last edited by rickroll; 05-04-2024 at 02:26 PM.
