I just got started with OKC. What are some specific strategies to use on this site? From what I remember browsing this thread:

-Don't answer too many questions and skip the really controversial ones.
-Quickmatch is a waste of time.

That's about it. Does A List provide any value? How important/accurate is match %? Should I be concerned about the reply rate thing on profiles I want to message or my own? Best ways to search and order search results?

I'm 26, oldest was 28 when I was 25. Youngest was 21 when I was 25.

Dating older women is fine. It's really enjoyable if you are up front with yourself about what you want and they get it also.

I was 19 with a 38 year old. At 24-27, I was with a 50-53 year old, had a 3 year relationship with her, I was out of town for most of it, so it was mainly convenience for when I was in town. She knew that I wanted kids and to be married eventually, she knew that she wasn't the one and didn't want another marriage or more kids.

Now, for the lower end of the spectrum, 99% of my relationships with females under 30 failed. Mainly because their maturity level/bs/drama were well beyond what I would tolerate.

Don't waste your time looking for a super serious relationship with any female who isn't level headed, doesn't have a decent paying job, or who has a ton of drama/flakiness surrounding them. Just do your thing, let relations go on, date who you want. Quantity is probably better than quality when you're younger.

It's very hard to find "that special one" in a strip club or at last call. Be real with yourself and don't be jaded. You'll be happier in the long run.

Having said all of that: if a woman seems flakey and backs out of plans for a first meeting, move on. Don't contact her, if she's interested, she'll contact you. And don't put emphasis on age, just read the signs. There are plenty.

I read a lot of posts here and a lot of the frequent posters are jaded in thinking. Being oblivious is the worst thing you can be.

Would you say there is an age where guys should start getting nervous about getting married or a serious relationship? Is there an age where women in their 20s start thinking the guy is too old? I know women have this biological clock. I'm wondering if a 22/23 year old women would be grossed out by dating a guy in his late 20s or early 30s, etc in general.

Seems like a completely standard age spread imo

I'd say absolutely not. Guys have it really good IMO, because women are down to date their age + older, and if you meet a knockout who was into her career and is in her early 30s, she won't mind settling down with a stable, established 25/28 year old. I'd even argue some women would prefer younger past 30 provided the man is mature. This is bc it allows them to feel young. I'd start worrying when you hit about 34+.

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Youngest - 18 when I was 24 (she lied initially and said she was 19, but was still in HS)

Oldest - 52 when I was 25 (really good connection, hot in bed)

I'm very surprised with these larger age gaps toward older women, and I thought my 38 year old was a large number.

It's interesting how there is still a connection despite such a large age gap. I couldn't imagine a 50 yo male and 21 yo female having a connection aside shallow areas or $$

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The 52 coug and I had the same sense of humor in regards to sarcasm and quoting Seinfeld/AD all the damn time, so that helped quite a bit.

Jack, burd:

Just out of curiosity, how did you even end up meeting these women so much older than you? 19/38 and 24-25/50 are some pretty wild age differences!

I'm grossed out by older woman tbh

so.. i chatted w this gurl for 30 mins or so and then asked her if she wanted to meet up some time. her answer was "maybe "

whats my play?

Tell her where and when you guys are meeting up. Don't make it a question this time. I don't usually advocate such a thing but it sounds like she's asking for it.

Provide Where and When

edit: slow pony

So I've been seeing this chick for like a week. We spent 5 of 7 days together hooking up since meeting. She knows I don't want a relationship since I just got out of one but she sees me on the dating site and is like why are you still logged into the dating site. She says she doesn't want to be two timed... I tell her I'm not looking for a relationship but don't directly say I'm not going to stop dating. She's a sweet girl and I may of led her on that I might want more but what else can you do? So I want to keep casually hooking up with her but don't want to stop dating. Obv I could just lie to her but I'd rather just cut it off than to lead her on any more. So what's my play just ignore her unless she wants a booty call? I'm trying not to be a douche to her but if I tell her I'm going on other dates it would prob just be over. The sex was really good so i think booty call is a good possibity. I guess most guys just cut it off at this point.

"What were you doing on there when you saw I was online? Exactly."

So I'm meeting up with a girl for the third time Sunday. Plan is to catch a movie and then hit a local bar for some drinks after.

I'm going to invite her back to my place when we leave the bar.

I play/played a lot of live poker, it's how I met the 50 year old. The other one was: I had a lot of friends who were waiters/bartenders - mutual friends/hang outs.

Just be up front with her. Tell her that you enjoy spending time with her, but you're going to continue to date others as well. She either gets on board or she doesn't.

Jackitos, and anyone else,

I met the 38 year old through live poker. How serious were you two?any advice appreciated. She's awesome and looks to want to be exclusive. If it wasn't for age barrier I'd be all over the idea. I just know the age gap could hurt one of us down the line. Im 24 in May

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You're young and being exclusive is fine, but and a huge but: you need to figure out if you want kids/be married. If those are an option for her, then sure try to make it work. If she doesn't, then just be up front and let her know that you do, so there will be a time that you will have to move on. Nothing wrong with being in a real relationship, though. Imo anyways

where do you go rollerblading?

Along the Waterfront trail in Toronto from the centre out to the West

She said she's open to kids, but I'd need at least 3 or more years to travel that route.... Then she's 42. And who knows what will happen then. I do know I want them, guess we'll see. How long did you date each?

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lol having a kid with a 42yo woman while in your 20s

Run far, run fast. This will not end well if that's the direction she wants.