Ashington,

Sounds like Toughmudder or Warrior Dash pics, which are now very popular races that tons of people do.

I thought I had pretty concrete plans tonight with 99%er. She's been extremely responsive via text message. I shot her a text this morning asking her to give me a heads-up on her work schedule, or if she's even working this evening... as she's indicated the timing of meeting up is dependent on that. No response. At what point do I assume that she's backing out?

Also, I have another woman on the hook and her last message to me included a phone number and "give me a call". If I want to meet her, am I obligated to call in this spot?

I have a close female friend who moved to Denver a few months ago and loves it. She also tells me that there are crazy hot, pothead girls out there who use okcupid all the time, so you have that going for you too

First and foremost I said slightly overweight, or at least meant to....second of all, I'm sorry that you've fooled around with fat chicks who gave bad bj's but in my experience, it has been great

i think most people assumed he meant:



dude why the **** would you ever message a chick who advertises that she is a radical feminist.

Alright tryin to keep it simple, one comment one hopefully interesting question. Last time I tried to be more of a PUA and think of the most clever/witty ****. Think I set a 15 minute limit which is still pretty ridiculous. Should be able to come up with something in 5 and don't want this **** consuming my life

Is there like a 1% chance girls read the questions? I was thinking about changing a couple answers but they might be hard to see.

Tiger Woods = black?

To hate **** them obviously
Also @the fat girls give better BJ.
Seems to be the case. They have to try harder cause they are not skinny.

i thought it was because they are hungry?

General question: do you guys think it matters what time of day you send messages? Obviously I'm avoiding like 3am HAI GURL but morning vs afternoon vs evening? Matter at all?

i'd think u wanna be sending as close as poss to whenever they are most likely to be checking. otherwise u end up at the bottom of their inbox underneath a zillion other msgs.

I only send messages to girls that are online.
Unless they are really really ridiculously good looking.

Yep, unless you have a super high match % with them, it's generally a good idea to wait until they're online.

In my experience- no, it doesn't. If they're online and insta-reply back, be prepared with some sort of routine to close them or you run the risk of losing them fast. I got into a IM like convo through messages with an older woman earlier in the week and since I was tired / thinking slow she just stopped responding.

Interesting question, in the past I'll just message whichever profiles catch my eye regardless of when they've last been online, but now I'm wondering if some of my messages might have gotten buried in their inbox whereas they might otherwise have been receptive.

For those that only message girls who are online, what's your gameplan if they insta-reply like ATF mentioned? Do you try and close right away or do you wait awhile to send your reply?

If you pay for A-List on OkC, this is not an issue as you can see when they've read your messages.

If the first few messages go well and I think it could lead to something, I usually say something along the lines of "hey I've got to get off of here you should text/facebook me" if I don't think they'd want to text or fb then before I say I have to get off I say something like "we should hang out sometime/we should grab drinks sometime"
And see what their response is, then tell them to text/fb

It depends on the type of woman and the vibe I am getting...

The older they are, the more likely I wait it out a bit before responding. This is because they seem to notice those details and the younger generation < 25 is probably more inclined for instant contact.

I'm 23, and in my experience, because I prefer dating older women when I'm not looking for a piece of ass, I take my time in between responses because it makes me "appear" more mature (like you have a life). Most women, the older they are, will be turned off if it appears you are ready to click the send button ASAP. As if you have nothing better to do.

I've never gone after a hot chick, it blows my mind to learn that "getting buried in their inbox" is a concern.

This New Englander thinks the transition to a Minnesota winter has sucked big, fat, elephant ass. New Enlanders think they know what winter is--they have no idea.

ytf,

It "blows your mind" that hot chicks get huge volumes of messages on dating sites? WTF.

Even unattractive girls get huge volumes of messages.

So my second online date ever was a former bartender at some hot/trendy place in the city. She opened with me online and I've been thinking about her entire approach. It seems almost optimal. The point is, she was a PUA I think:

1) Short open message complementing me by saying "No way you're 37"

2) two or three more msgs and then she opened again through the chatbox

3) some back and forth and she ships her number (edit: while in chatbox she writes "you don't ask a lot of questions" lol)

4) i text her immediately and we go back and forth until she says she's going to crash

5) she texts me pretty frequently - usually she'll reopen if i don't respond to her last text - for two days and she then randomly calls one evening

6) we have text and a few additional phone convos, always initiated by her, up until we meet a week later

7) she's super flirty on the date, pretty much initiating all physical escalation


Now I totally blow it on the date, obviously. I was still spun a bit from my first where I stuck my tongue down the girl's throat and her response was "I like to take it slow," this after she spent the prior week sending me sexy pics and engaging in some "sexts". I digress. My sister tells me not to be "that creepy online guy" so I'm super stand-offish with the PUA. Whatever, she got a free lunch and a coffee for her effort. I got a learning experience.

So, how would you rate her game?

Ain't nobody buying the mock surprise in this post, we all know YTF's schtick by now

ATF,

Wtf are you talking about?