lol at that avatar, it makes me think randy is the one on PoF.

r the dating sites good or what?

I don't know. If only there existed a thread where you could discuss them...

The answer really depends on if you have standards or not.

After this it seems that I have to try PoF. I think that I might pay to see Henry meet someone of that site and try and have a convo with her.

Second. But the date must be filmed. I'm sure he would have no trouble passing it off as just another documentary about him.

lol

I've mentioned this before but after one of my exes dumped me she unashamedly put a profile on match.com. This was around five years ago. She told me some pretty lol horror stories of guys she would meet. Aside from being entertaining it made me feel better about myself.

A female ex-roommate of mine used to go on a ton of dates, including guys she wasn't interested in but knew she could get a dinner out of (epic weaksauce). This was a full ten years ago and she wasn't bad looking, so whatever stigma supafrey claims (I've only read page 1 (50 p/p obv)) has almost certainly gone a long way towards diminishing since then.

Because I put a lot of emphasis on quality of the written word I should probably check out these sites more. Part of the reason I don't is I've heard the ratio is terrible and any halfway decent-looking broad is getting hit up left and right and I'd rather not throw my hat into that ring, and also the times I've checked out a site it seems women mostly post "myspace pics", i.e. their best photo. Invariably these are only headshots which lead me to strongly believe they are centaurs. And it would suck to have a back-and-forth with a chick only to meet up and discover she has a big, flabby, unfit ass.

Remember kids: "athletic" body type is code for "fat".

I think most of the "stigma" is gone these days, depending on where you area. In my limited experience, there's no stigma in bigger cities. I suppose that could be different in more conservative areas, but then again I live in North Carolina now (albeit in Chapel Hill, which is pretty academic and liberal) and I know several couples who freely admit that's how they met.

As for the written word aspect: I used some online dating sites maybe seven years ago. One thing I remember is how many of the profiles seemed the same. Not in details, maybe, but in the way they were written, the jokes, the sense of humor. Maybe there are online dating site versions of internet memes.

On the one hand, it lets you know you're dealing with someone similar. I can't give you specifics (it's been a while), but these ways of writing something, these common jokes and references, it's common ground. The flip side though, after a while the profiles all tend to read alike.

If you're in a big enough area, there are a lot of attractive people on these sites. I dated several people I met through these sites. None of them lasted long-term, but my experiences were positive and fun.

I tend to think of online dating as just one way among many that you can meet people.

Good lord. IMO:



I get the feeling that MicroBob's online dating career coincided with the batteries dying on his Mr. Microphone.

From memory there are certainly commonalities that suggest that a chick may either be prone to cliche or simply not that interesting. These are generally ones who write a template such as you hinted at which tends to include referencing enjoying hiking (this has to be by far the most mentioned activity) and something like "I can get dressed up for a night on the town or stay in and make it a Blockbuster night". I mean, most everyone does these things so it's pretty pointless to even mention it.

And naturally I eyeroll at basic blunders like your/you're and to/too, particularly when done more than once. A profile is like a resume; if you make glaring errors you're either not bright or don't care enough to get it right, neither of which is good. On the flip side good grammar - but hopefully not the overly clever, trying too hard type - is a turn-on.

This isn't exactly what I meant, but whatever, it's the general idea. I just recall that when I was using Match in DC in 2002, there was a certain tone or texture that seemed to repeat forever.

For the record, I'm not saying this is a bad thing.

I think you're going to get a lot of different answers to that depending on where the person lives.

Somewhere in the US midwest, people will think you were being deceptive by putting no.

In toronto, like 0% of people put a check mark besides "drugs", but like 90% of people either have tried it or do it socially.



I dont get plenty of fish at all.

The number of girls to guys must be ridiculous.

Every average to below average girl has like 100 guys who put her as a "favorite", and the hot ones have 200 min.

From what I've read, it's basically unheard of for girls to message guys and any semi attractive girl gets like 50+ messages a day.

If you even want to stand a shot at getting a response, you have to message girls you wouldnt ordinarily have any interest in. Or be basically the pinnacle of what every girl is looking for.

I suck at selecting user names for these things. What are some good examples of usernames? You can see how ******ed my 2+2 name/screen name is. My first thought is to use something from a cool movie or tv show but thats probably dumb right?

I can't help but feel exactly the same way.

Some of you are so socially inept. lol

How about your real name with some numbers? Easy enough

TheRapist123 and tell them you're a shrink

Good grief Charlie Brown. This strikes me as terrible for all sorts of reasons:

- way too long. way WAY too long.
- chicks like to talk about themselves, most will tune out a guy if he starts to ramble
- way too G rated. It's like you're trying to go out with a Disney character. You need to watch the part in Swingers where Vince Vaughn tells Mikey what women want, because he's right.

Having said all of this, evidently it's worked for you (somehow). You said you're dating a foreign chick so that could be a large element of it. I suspect most pasty white American broads would just look at that and say "wtf? tl;dr" and get back to texting their BFF Kate about how that mean guy (not you obv) won't call her back while she stuffs her gaping maw with a chocolate chip cookie dough Blizzard.

Here's my profile

Interests: Myself and reruns of fresh prince of bel-air

About Me: I am a very bitter person. I am looking for a woman who will argue with my mom while I watch television and sleep. Also, having a job which can support my luxories is a plus. If you are a girl who gets around, don't message me because that is utterly disgusting. I can't imagine being with a girl who would argue with some other guy's mom when my mom is out of town.
You must be very good at cooking because my dog is very picky about food. Another important quality is having a good habit of checking the pizza when you pick it up from domino's (which you will frequently do because I hate wasting money on tipping the driver).
I know you like me but wipe that smile off your head.

First Date: Not show up, then get mad at you for confusing the meeting location and time up. If you're lucky enough to get a second date, I would have you pick me up and go to the park or a graveyard. Other places cost money and frankly I have better things to spend money on (like impulse buys at the flea market). I am a gentleman though. After we do it I won't run off with your keys and take your car. If you ever hear some woman accusing me of that, she is just a bitter psycho who can't afford full coverage insurance.

I know you were going for funny, but this just comes off as creepy.

Lesson #1: Don't ever use a star wars reference on a date

Ugghhh some of you need to just keep it simple...if your wittyness is overbearing in the presence of a group of intelligent males, then its definitely way over the head of the average internet female floozie.

what if u have a girlfriend do girls care or are there girls on there that have boyfriends too..

Man, sounds like you guys really need to PM me for coaching rates.

The surprising thing about this thread is how a lot of this stuff isn't intuitive. Be brief, provocative, and unique. In other words, make an impression without being overbearing or long-winded. Everything traz wrote - and backed up with personal experience - is spot-on.

I dont get the hate for this... I thought it was great and considered copying it for my profile.