Well I'd say more in the donotpreferbutwouldntkickoutofbed.jpg camp. I've been married for 5 yrs and just got divorced remember?

She's way too young and way too creepy imo. Even for my son.

Just in case this post is at the top of your page:



Smoked boneless/skinless BBQ chicken breasts.

That girl is a porn star so you can get an idea of what you'd have to put up with.

right?

Quick roommate advice q. Just got back from New Orleans p fun trip overall. A buddy and I had been smoking j's most of the trip. My roommate never really said anything negative about it but he's a p straightlaced kid comparatively and has never touched anything but alcohol. We got back tonite and stop by our apartment so I can give my buddy some green to go. My roommate seemed kind of shocked I keep it here but I tend to keep it under wraps. I don't think my keeping/smoking weed should be a problem since I don't do it everyday, blow j's out my window, and never keep more than a few grams. However, I rent this place from his dad. Do I need to talk to him about whether or not its cool for me to keep ****/smoke here or do we just continue with the status quo since I'll only be living with him another month and a half.

Since he didn't know about it when you moved in, he has a right to tell you not to smoke and/or keep it there. His dad owning it makes it even more of a concern for him since if anything ever did happen(however how unlikely) it could go back to his dad. Take him out to a beer and tell him sorry for not telling him and ask him if it's cool if you still smoke there. He'll probably still be ok with it but don't be surprised if he tells you he doesn't want you to smoke there.

I've lived with a number of huge potheads(not saying you are a huge pothead) and had no problem with it since I knew they were potheads before moving in. However, if they had started doing lines off our dining room table I would've had a huge problem with it. The best thing to do with roomies is talk about any problems.

I think you have to be willing to keep it out of the house if he's uncomfortable with it being there. The fact is he could be charged with a crime just cause it's in the house. I realize it's unlikely, but the possibility means you have to be more considerete about how he feels about it.

Hmm, how is that a crime if it isn't his or his fathers bananas and they didn't know about it? If it ever happens to be found by da police and KB confesses its his*, then father&son would just have to say "zomgwtfbbq?! we had no idea!" - kinda hard to prove they had.

Gramps might be able to shine some more profound juristic light on this tho

* if KB chooses the "i'm gonna accuse my roommate lol"-route things are a bit different ofc.

because we live in america

hmm, true, i guess it wouldn't be a big surprise if Steven Seagal busts through one of KB's walls with a tank because they suspect him of hiding a few grams of bananas.

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Had a great night out with NJD, Buffy and Leadbellydan last night.
Drinks, great food, more drinks, some poker chatting and some friendly banter make for a great night imo.

For anyone in the UK: Did the clocks go forward last night, and nobody thought to mention it to me?

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Clocks went forward.

he's lying they went backwards

my clock on my phone went forwards automatically, it was neat.

did you watch it happen?

I'm not saying he should be uncomfortable, I'm just saying if he is you have to be more accommedating.

It's like this, him saying he didnt want him keeping cigarettes in the house or having sex in his room would be silly, cause those are legal. If we change it to joints and having sex with 12 yo's the objection or desire to keep the activity away from his home isn't silly anymore.

If KB was under 21 and wanted to keep beer in the fridge it would be the same thing.

So if I show up around 8, just come to the window?

sadly not.

What you're doing is illegal (as such I must tell you not to do it!) so if the subject does come up absolutely take it out of the house if that's what your roomate wants. If the subject does not come up, be sure not to get into any heated confrontations with your roomate (as he has evidence of a crime against you), but you're a sane person so that shouldn't be an issue.

There are very very little legal ramifications for the roomate and his father as far as you keeping this in your house. The father has no responsibility for the drugs a rentor keeps in the apartment if he is unaware of their existence, and your roomate is also not legally liable as long as the drugs are in your room. For rentors seperate rooms are treated as their own dwellings and whatever you have in yours, you're liable for, and him for his, etc. Common area's are a different game however, and both of you can be held accountable if drugs were to be found in the kitchen, living room, common area bathroom, etc.


As far as what you should do based on ethics/friendship/duty/whatever, I'd ask him if it's alright, and if not, tell him no problem and get rid of it. You're only there for a month and a half anyways.

basically what CQ said

Unless KB's roommate stores his food under KB's matress (or whereever he puts his bananas), the beer analogy doesn't fit too well.

@CQ if KB stores his bananas in the toilet tank and admits/confesses its his if it were to be found by the police, i doubt his roomate could be held accountable.

If KB were to admit they were solely his, then the roomate wouldn't be getting charged with anything. I was assuming if something were to be found in a common area and neither were admitting to sole possession. There's essentially 0 chance anything actually does happen as far as the police are concerned, and the only way risk exists on the part of KB is if he pisses off the roomate or ignores his wishes to get rid of the drug. Even if that does happen and the roomate retaliates by calling the police, possession of small quantities of weed are a slap on the wrist for the majority of populous areas (IDK if KB lives in BFE, Kansas) and if the roomate were to call the cops and tell on him, an operate would likely laugh at him for tattling. There's also other concerns outside of the police though, as a charge, summons to appear or a ticket related to possession (even if unconvicted) is likely to have ramifications as far as his schooling or future work is concerned.

Im with everyone that says you shouldnt smoke in the house if your roommate isnt cool with the smell or whatever. But I mean does your roommate have the right to tell you not to download torrents on the house internet? I guess the penalties vary from state to state and country to country, but in Oregon youre gonna pay a bigger fine for going 85 in a 65 than you are for possessing less than an oz.

KB do you live in a state that allows medicinal?

Lol Id love to do a prop bet on whether a cop would respond if you called and told him you saw a bag of weed in your roommate room. Def lay some huge odds.

IMO, there are a precisely zero human relationship issues that are not solved by communicating openly with other people and setting clear expectations and ground rules.

IMO, the language of rights is too legalistic. Rights are what people have in a huge population. They're good for running a country or a state, they're not so useful in running a home.

I don't think that roommates should do things that the other roommate does not like. You avoid this problem by saying, "hey, how do you feel about this?"

99% of the time simply asking "How do you feel?" is enough to avoid the problem because it shows respect and courtesy for the other person, and that's all they want.