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Originally Posted by einbert
Well, this is a much different statement from your first one. It could totally be possible to have a discussion around what you're saying, but we can't start from the premise that every gay guy is DTF every other one and we can all get laid in 15 minutes on Grindr.
First just note that "can" and "do" are two different things. If every non-hetero male were actively seeking a hookup all the time, then Wil's numbers would be possible for a good number of men. But they're not.
The degree to which someone can find a hookup (if they so choose) varies by location, age, attractiveness and social skills (though only minimum social skills are needed, myself being living proof). My "15 minutes" remark was for a major urban/suburban area but probably not in Real 'Murica. And even in the right location, it mostly applies to someone aged 18-35 who is in shape. Also, I've never used Grindr specifically, so maybe "15 minutes" was a bit of an exaggeration. But like, "any night of the week" is reasonable under the right circumstances. A weekend is a lock. Especially because there are even lots of "straight" guys looking for gay hookups.
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I don't think it's helpful to lump all LGBT people into the same bucket on this issue. The truth is many LGBT people are reserved with their sexuality, many of them will only have a handful of sexual partners in their whole lives just like many straight people.
The only bucket I've lumped G/B men into is that of "males". Of course, casual hookups aren't everyone's thing. Many people only get intimate with someone they're dating or might date. I can see how my previous post could have been interpreted differently, e.g. my "Find me 10 straight guys..." remark. I wasn't being totally serious with that, but in general I would say males are horny and DTF. Idk if we're hornier than females, but for one, there isn't the cultural slut-shaming of males, so a nonreligious male can be DTF without feeling ashamed (nor should they).
And then even single people who aren't sexually reserved have jobs and hobbies other than sex, so they still might not have tons of sex.
Others might have tons of sex but with the same FWB's, hence not have many sexual partners. In fact I think that's what most of the hookup-seekers hope to find, a steady fwb or few.
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Originally Posted by einbert
Also I would have to offer you a smooth "bisexual high-five" (that's not a sexual act guys) as we are both clearly members of the *best* sexuality.
Oh yeah, ain't even close! If sexuality were a choice, any other choice would be completely illogical. Actually these days the term for me is pansexual, but a lot of times I just say bi because it's close enough and people know what bi means.