bold letters mean business.
but bold capitalized letters...well shoot, how can this girl resist ya?
email ftw.

email her: Want to go out

wait for 24 hours if no response email her: Please respond

Again, thanks so much for your input!

fyp

Okay. I doubt you guys will even believe this but **** just got real crazy.

One minute ago I got this e-mail from her:

Bobby,


Hey this is X. I didn't get a chance to talk to you in class today but I was wondering if you'd be around during break and would like to get coffee sometime?



I'm basically freaking out right now at the ridiculousness of this. I almost wondered for a minute if it was one of you guys ****ing with me, but realized from her e-mail that's it's not.

So ****ing crazy.

lolol this is exactly what happened to me in the story i was going to share

well then youre a match made in creepy weird email digging heaven.
best of luck, seems like you could run over her dog and still be in good.

+1

You needed to do this earlier in the semester.

It's a trap.

But yeah. There was a girl in my class I wanted to invite to do something with me on Friday, and I never got around to it. So I thought about looking her email up in the school directory and emailing her, but I realized that would be pretty awk/weird/creepy.

Couple days later guess who emails me? lolol

Also, and I'm not criticizing anyone in this thread who does it because apparently it's a societal norm, but this whole "let's get coffee" thing tilts me to no end. Who the **** goes to "get coffee?" I hate that so much. "Getting coffee" to "chat" or to "catch up" sounds like something I'd do with my mother.

Didn't have time to comment on this yesterday, but this dialogue is A quality. I'd give it an A+, but I'd rather you say "You're coming to see a movie with me" rather than "we should hit up a movie."

I'm just being nitty, though, and I like the way you framed this.

I like this X girl.

Thanks for the compliment.

Yeah, I could have gone either way and the matter-of-fact statement to that effect is definitely something I do sometimes when pursuing a date, but I was pretty much going off the cuff and what I said was what came out. Don't worry, your suggestion was already in the arsenal, I just don't word things the same way every time. I was happy enough with it since I did at least assert the "yes you can," and ended on a statement instead of a question. Especially when dealing with less assertive girls, there's usually points to be scored by taking charge.

She's just a scared little bunny, and I'm a big ****ing bear. (I remember you mentioned that you haven't seen Swingers yet. Seriously, once your semester ends, that needs to be the next flick you rent.)

Anyway, I'll shoot her an e-mail on Wednesday to firm up Friday plans, since I'm pretty sure that's when showtimes for the weekend come out.

fandango, im sure the times are up now. make sure you get a firm date and commitment so she cant flake.

The fact that it's a societal norm is why it shouldn't tilt you. It's an accepted low-pressure date activity. Sometimes low-pressure is what the situation calls for. No way guys should just discard it as an option just because its popularity doesn't make sense. Lots of these hoops we have to jump through don't make sense.

Times are not up now, just checked. My thought was that contacting her to confirm the movie and then contacting her later in the week to set a time comes off a bit needy. Do you disagree?

Also, would be curious as to input, do you favor throwing out "let's go see this specific movie" or throwing out a few options to see what sounds good to her?

Pretty sure that Invictus is the winner here though, since she has stated that she (1) dislikes romantic comedies and (2) always likes Matt Damon movies.

you decide on the movie.
control the date, seem confident.
princess and the frog though ldo

I'm way late to this party, but I had almost the exact same situation as bobb and the email worked fine.

results oriented imo

This. Most plays have at least some chance of working. That doesn't make them good plays as a general rule.

Anyway, I e-mailed the girl in question about Friday. If she's into me, she wouldn't flake anyway just due to another 36 hour wait, but whatever, went ahead and acted to nail this thing down in any case.

this reminds me of Good Will Hunting, anyone whos seen it will get what I am referring too...

let's go get some caramels

Clubs make me sad with their really loud music, effectively making them the worst place to meet people ever.

/random rant.

+1, really only see them as place to have laugh with mates, unfortunately many mates don't share similair views