Maybe just a neck one

Some teenage girls love bad boys. In the absence of any tangible markers of success, high levels of confidence and risk taking in teenage men are probably decent predictors of success later in life.

However, once a woman goes to uni and has a good graduate job, she is hardly ever dating "bad boys and projects".

Not if you’re hot. Can’t tell you how many women with degrees and careers I’ve lived with for free.

You’re good. Not Dream Crusher level but still very good. One of the better trolls on tpt

Not trolling. You been doing much dating the last 20 years?

This isn't the brag you think it is.

It both is and isn’t.

Depends on his age. If he's in his 30s or worse, 40s then isn't

plenty of women with degrees good careers etc date bad boy broke losers thinking they can fix them.

Why become a successful boss bitch if not to flip the gender dynamic?

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I don't know if PW is trolling or not, but either way he's right.

And speaking of bosses, PW is the true boss of this thread, y'all better recognize.

Well, I’m now 40 years old and back on the dating scene, and coming into spring Bumble is about what I expected. Not terrible at all but the greater effort for gradually diminishing returns is real.

However the office at work seems to be amazing right now. There’s one girl who I’ve liked for a while, is single, and am totally going to ask out but haven’t had the chance, and I’m not going to resort to asking her on Slack like a pussy.

But the other day I ended up asking out this other girl (the receptionist) who’s hot and adorable (but may be a little bit obsessed with marriage for my liking), and she said yes. But I still want to ask out the girl I kind of think I’m more matched to. Fairly sure they don’t ever talk to each other, so that’ll make it easier, but very conscious of this situation going south and making me seem scummy

There’s also another attractive girl who also happens to be single (and I would wager she’s into me) and a couple of attractive women a few years older than me who I just enjoy flirting with

It’s been said before but when you are lucky enough to be able to find women offline who happen to be single (especially at my age, and especially when the women find online dating stressful) it really does give you an edge over swiping on thousands of women and hoping to be a) among the handful of 1000s in their inbox who get noticed in the first place and b) be able to sustain interest long enough for a date and then another one

There’s a lot to be said for not ever dipping your pen in the company ink as well. Creates far more problems than it does anything else.

I get that meeting chicks in the real world may be tough if you are busy working and doing other things, but fishing out of the company pond is generally not a good idea at all.

yes it can go badly, but it's also a super common thing and it's not like he's crossing any lines

It is super common, thus the cautionary idiom.

I understand the concerns, there just happens to be some good prospects at work. I guess I’ll just have to accept the risk and try and be discreet about it.

In any case I’ve managed to keep office things on the down low before

I had a really horrible experience talking to a girl from work. We were both toxic *******s and she was on the rebound from a really long abusive relationship, so it was destined for failure from the start, but it got bad bad.

Dating at work is accepting that getting laid is more important to you than your job. There is nothing wrong with that. Just need to be aware and honest with yourself up front. Especially if the plan is to hit up 3-5 different women.

i think as long as nobody directly reports to each other and sandra is able to do it without being known as the guy who is cycling through all the single women in the office it will be fine

lot's of companies actually encourage interoffice relationships because if the relationship lasts, they are far less likely to leave the company, they get into a routine of driving in together, scheduling vacations at the same time, gossiping about that bish Jan, etc - also much more difficult for a rival company to poach one of them because they'll come as a package deal

big reason why schools prefer to hire teachers who are married to each other

my brother married his colleague, they waited several months before going public and the office was all about it - and she ended up staying at the company far longer than she wanted to as a result because she was worried about how exiting on bad terms could potentially harm his career

I reckon I had sex with well over a dozen women from work during my corporate career. I was in advertising where it was probably more accepted than more buttoned up industries. And there are a lot of really hot girls in that industry too.

In the pre app days when I was operating, if you didn’t like going up to people in bars, which I didn’t, then work along with friends of friends were by far the most fruitful places once you got out of college.

It definitely got difficult with one girl who was a total nut job. But benefits outweigh negatives, so long as you can handle the aftermath properly and respectfully.

Good fun having sex at the office too if you can handle the risk

I can only really think of three girls from work I’ve been involved with before (not at the same time!) but they all went fine just because I managed to keep it discreet, they weren’t too crazy (well one kind of was but I was very clear and fair in breaking it off and she took it fine) and the other two coincided with me leaving the company in the following weeks anyway

I can definitely see how it can go south if there is some combo of the girl is unhinged or the type to gossip, or is someone well connected to other girls in the company, or if you try and date two or more at the same time, or if you’re seen as agitating office politics or workflows, or if you’re a douchebag/don’t treat them fairly

I also think the whole topic has a negative/dangerous perception just because the general type of guys who relish embarking on office shenanigans are probably quite indiscreet and rambunctious on average, and it says more about how they manage the situation rather than the viability of the situation itself.

And while I do think you can do it right if you’re smart about it, I can definitely see potential issues with my specific situation this time so I’m just going to have to be careful

Why do you think I’m bragging? I hate living with women. I’m just informing dude that’s he’s completely wrong

Yep
I really don’t troll
Kiss your job good bye and open up risk of sexual harassment claims
Yep. Don’t do it.

It really just comes from the fact that you are essentially locked in a cage with that person for 8-9 hours a day. Even if things are going well that can cause issues. Things don't have to go horribly wrong for it to get uncomfortable or for HR to get involved.

But ultimately its like a hand of poker. You assess the situation and make a decision and seems you are willing to take the risk. Thats what life is about

Depends on the size of the company. When my dad got re-married to a co-worker, she worked in Queens while he worked in Manhattan.