I thought that equity analyst was an inside joke among players. Actually saying that as your job title is pretty ridiculous. Anyone who would understand the connection would be someone who would probably appreciate poker anyway. Anybody else will just think you're lying. LOL this potential conversation:

Her: Wait, you're a poker player? Why did you say you were an analyst?
You: (explanation of how poker involves the analysis of equity distribution in each hand.)
Her: insert GIF here

@handspotter

Your profile looks like a wanted ad for a therapist. It's just baggage and depression on a platter.

Photo needs to be swapped. Do not wear a dirty white t-shirt with a stretched collar. If the webcam is on your laptop, go to a cafe with tables outside and snap a photo with a coffee. The outdoor sunlight will also do wonders to flatter your complexion.

Your interests are also boring and generic. Who lists "success" as an interest? That's just weird. Revise and repost!

Regarding rejection post-date texts: Awkward. Since girls just ignore as their default, do the same thing.

Edit: it's one thing to not say anything post-date if there is no communication and quite another if she has messaged you since and then you start ignoring her. That's sad. [insert yowsa message here] about no chemistry.

But if they haven't even tried to contact you, why bother? They prob felt the same way.

Tinder last night.

I'm 34, she was 23.
Face: 8
Body: 7.5, no ass.

Mutual match at 11:30, she's over before midnight. Sex at 1:15. She just left. I feel like I just ****ed an old girl, not a woman.

Care to post the text exchange that led to this?

Thanks everyone for the advice so far, I'll start the restructuring of my profile when I get more free time.

I suffer from aspergers syndrome and struggle when it comes to this. This has been the main reason for me shying away from my past relationships/friends as the older I got the more it became a dominating factor in my life.

I don't want this to be the excuse I use for the rest of my life. I know my profile sounds like a "Fix me up" type of guy, but this is kind of what I needed. An outside perspective in a sense.

Then again, should I just look at Online dating as an numbers game and try and create a Profile in which gives me the highest success rate whilst bending my story/personality.

I'm going to disagree with everyone and say you should keep your profile like it is for a while. Your personality comes through, it's unique and different, it's up front, and you have the thoughtful intense, kind of cool look to pull it off. Some women like a project, or smeone beaten down and safe, and it's seems that's what you want as well.

You can always change your profile later.

I'm also going to disagree with getting a life first. For so e peop,e it's harder to make good friends than charming a girl one on one and keeping a relationship interesting. If that's you then I don't see the need the need to wait.

For Hand Spotter:

While getting rejected by girls will ultimately hurt your confidence, you already know you're going to get rejected by more girls than will give you a response. It's the same with 99% of dudes. All you need is a girl or two to give you a shot and you'll get a little confidence back. From there you can build upon your experiences to try and become even more confident in yourself. I don't think making friends first is necessary, but it will become essential at some point.

all you guys gettin tinder hookups can go fuuuuuuuuuu. NO success there. None, I don't think I've even had two replies.

Do you get a lot of matches?

I don't know, maybe not. I spam yes 100%. If they match me first then they're in the front of the queue and I'll get a couple but it seems like the remaining girls never say yes to me.

I have like 100 matches and I've met up with three girls. It just so happens the last one I met up with is awesome.

I use it mainly as a source of amusement though.

Do the guys on here bother contacting bisexuals? I am from a very liberal part of the country and it does seem like lots of girl are bi. I have not tried any of the yet as unsure how to play it.

why would a straight man want to fool around with a bisexual girl?

Did she not look like her pictures? What was different? Or do you mean attracted in a personality sense?

Why do they have to be male friends?
And for this guy, making new friends would be infinitely easier than finding a girl to date through online dating. Think about it: there are plenty of guys ITT who have good social lives, aren't dealing with something like Asperger's, have had success dating in the past, and are still having some problems with online dating (As evidenced by how long this thread it). I think he will ultimately have better success in his dating life (and a more fulfilling life as a whole), but focusing on building friendships and a social circle first.


Sidenote: I posted a while ago that I wasn't going to send any more new OKC messages for the rest of the month, as I had a few things going on with a few different women and just didn't have the time to see anyone else. Well I'm still seeing 4 of the 5 women, and it's still going well with all of them (length of dating: 4 months, 2 months, 4 dates, 3 dates). I'm really into 3 of them so will probably end things with the 2 month girl soon. And with the others I'll have to have some discussions about how it'll be going forward. I've been looking into things with the polyamorous lifestyle (been reading off and on for the last year or so but more in the last month) and am pretty intrigued. I don't have issues with jealousy, so that's a big step already. Not sure how it will be with the three girls and their opinions:
4 month girl - we were friends IRL for a bit first, and after our first night together I told her I didn't want a serious relationship or to be exclusive. we didn't talk more about it but a month ago she wrote and asked if i had the same opinion about relationships as before, and i replied with a simple yes. we see each other about 2-3x a week and act like a "normal" couple (She brought me soup when I was sick, I am helping her move tomorrow, I've given her little gifts like a stuffed animal and a flowers, she's brought me back little souvenirs from her trips). Will bring up the whole thing with her tomorrow evening and tell her
4 dates girl - dates 1 and 3 were drinks at multiple bars. date 2 was jogging with a beer pit stop in the middle. date 4 was today and going for a rowboat ride at a park and a walk. actually during the boat ride she brought up that she was hanging out with two friends tonight and they've had an open relationship the last 8 months (After 2 years of monogamy). i asked her opinion of it, and she didn't seem totally opposed (though she did say some negative things about it, while adding that she is young, 27, and still doesn't know anything for sure). And we've gone 4 dates without me pushing anything physical (besides making out) so I don't come across as someone just into online dating for sex. our next date will be dinner at her place on Friday, and both of us are leaving town early sat morning so i will most likely be staying there.
3 dates girl - twice met for drinks with a quick goodbye kiss at the end of date two. then yesterday went hiking with handholding and a bit of kissing at the end. plan on meeting her tuesday for another hike. she lists in her profile that she is an "ethical nonmonogamist" and has in passing mentioned that she has two "wives," though I didn't probe any deeper. Will probably ask some deeper questions on Tuesday, but she is obv already into the poly thing so it will more be about if I fit into her plans.

I'm skeptical of girls who list themselves as bi. Put it like this, I'll believe it when I see it

I don't see why you would treat them any differently than a girl who identifies as straight.

From my long post above, the ethical nonmonogamist is bi. I contacted her first. I just played it straight up without doing anything different and it's been going well. That said, I had very few other bi girls respond back to me. For the most part hey were a specific type (overgeneralizing a bit but pretty hipster) and I in general don't attract those types of girls anyways so don't know if the fact that they identify as bi has anything to do with it.

are you being sarcastic?

Just an fyi, but many people that identify as bi would find this comment very offensive.

Yeah, there's a lot of feminist and LGBT advocacy against the traditional gender binary. Never say that in mixed company.

You really can't win with them anyways, just don't say anything at all and quietly leave.

I just think I would find it difficult to connect with bi women, although I have no experience with them.

That is why I am asking, are response rates from bi girls much less than response rates from people who list themselves as straight?

wtf is this thread?

I'd say give it a shot. Doesn't take that much extra time to send out a few messages and see if maybe you connect even better with them than with straight women. You have at least one thing in common (you both like women).

How the **** is it possible to have a 7.5 body with no ass? :S

Do you know what a 7.5 is bro?