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1. How are you dressing? Shoes? Collared or polo shirt? Can;t emphasize clothing choices enough.
Nothing overbearing, usually a solid color polo/golf shirt and khaki or cargo shorts... It's hot in Atlanta in the summer!
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2. What shows up when she googles your name? What do you do to reinforce the good things she'll see or compensate for anything bad or if nothing shows up (which in itself is no bueno)
I don't usually get to the "sharing last name" stage, but I just googled my name and apparently there's a neurologist MD in New York with my exact same name hogging all the hits, lol
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IE if she asks about work are you talking about it positively or just with "Thank god it's Friday" type response? Just try to keep it to an area you excel at.
It's actually just the opposite... I really wandered through my 20's with poker and other gigs, and went back to school for nursing recently, and really love what I do now, I finally feel like I've found the career I belong in.
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Like if you choose the location and you go with a bar, don't take her to a place with pool tables if you suck at pool because she might want to play. Wait a few dates before you show her your horrible pool game
Hahaha I'm not now, but I've been in pool leagues for years, I feel like that especially is a great opportunity to show off
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4. Agree with location choices and timing fossilkid spoke of. Also agree with the kiss part, unless she's initiating physical contact then I try to hedge away from that.
I think I may have been just talking for a while and then diving in for a kiss at the end because it's expected. I will admit I haven't gotten a lot of reciprocal physicality from her before I go for a kiss at the end, which might be needed.
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5. Are you using accurate photos?
Yep... in fact, the last date I went on, I snapped a picture from a wedding I was attending the week before we actually met up.
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6. Are you over 6 feet tall? If no, are these women tall? If you're not and they are tall, they're probably just running through the motions at that point anyway.
Again, I don't know how I'm not utterly slaying the punani with my selfless, secure job and being 6'4. My profile simply says:
"I'm willing to lie to your parents and say we met at Whole Foods."
"Legit 6'4, if that matters to you."
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7. The texting stage and transferring that to a date is the most difficult part of it all. I also wouldn't worry too much about 7 dates, it's definitely a sign to think about things but nothing to lose sleep over.
See this is where I disagree. I find the matching/texting to be the EASIEST part.
Just swipe for 30-60 minutes every couple of days. The matches will come.
So you match. Look through their profile to find something to ask them about.
The key is, in every response you make, reveal something about yourself... or ask them about something they allude to.
It's a numbers game.
You might be surprised with the things they key in on, or ask you about, and that's how you make conversation. Talk about work, where you're from, where you grew up, whatever... just build rapport.
Then ask for their number and take it to texts from there, with the ultimate goal of setting up a date.
This is the part I feel like I have no problem with.
I guess by our powers combined we could become Captain Planet!