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Nosoup, congratulations on being robbed for $250.
To clarify, I don't perceive that I lost any money in the transaction. I paid $105 to enter the hunchcapping contest and I paid $145 to compete in a heads-up gambling competiton with El Diablo. El Diablo and I agreed that instead of competing with one another we would instead donate that money to charity. I don't regard that money as "lost" but even if you say that it is, the government is happy to return slightly more than half of it at tax time because our tax policies reward charitable donations and permit me to donate up to half of my income tax free. So I suppose I lost $70-ish on the transaction if you aren't a believer in charitable donations. It is not an amount of money that has any consequence to me.
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Originally Posted by tylertwo
NoSoup, you are the coolest! All these loquacious lemmings can natter on into perpetuity, but they can't get past the truth. Tbab was the reason that this thread lasted so long, gave so many laughs and became as epic as it did.
Thanks. I really did enjoy reading much of the back and forth about tbab for these many months. He is sometimes a very entertaining guy. Had the thread continued in the same way it went in the early days, I would have remained a lurker.
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Originally Posted by Saklad
Wow. Soup, you just got scammed.
He will no doubt be back with another account sometime in the near future.
I share the assessment of others here that he would be fairly recognizable in his new identity. If somehow he wasn't, I wouldn't actually care because he would have to be behaving very differently and everyone else would accordingly treat him very differently and everything that I disliked about the last few weeks would be changed.
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Originally Posted by Saklad
No clue what your motivation here is other than to pat yourself on the back for "helping a persecuted individual" out.
I had it in my power to stop a pattern of behavior that I objected to and I did so. My sense of myself and my worth was not changed in any measurable degree. I am at a place in life where I pretty much do what I want to do without much regard for the opinion of others or my reputation. Oddly enough, I probably behave better now that I do.
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Originally Posted by Saklad
However, you handing him cash in this scenario is simply enabling his destructive behavior. He's a functional adult human who needs to own up to his mistakes and pay the consequences. Bailing him out does not accomplish that.
I've tried really hard to avoid taking the bait on these kinds of comments, but if it is your position that compelling the beast to participate in the heads-up contest and Hunchcap II was somehow some kind of tough love that was likely to teach him some valuable lesson or lead to some kind of personal growth, I think you are deluding yourself. I rather suspect that some people (perhaps you are one) believed that banning him as his self-destructive behavior spiraled out of control and simply distributing his money to the prize pool and to El Diablo was going to either (1) help him or (2) give him what he deserved. I understand the people that think that his bad behavior deserved to cause him to lose the money -- I disagree with them, but I totally get that position. People who think that it can be justified as somehow teaching him some life lesson and that they are doing him some kind of favor by dragging out that process are deluded, confused or simply mean.
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Originally Posted by El Diablo
Soup: I'm a big fan of Charity Navigator as well. I'm fine with doing either the same or different charities. I was considering http://www.edgewood.org/whoweare/ (I've volunteered there in the past) but they aren't on CN. Maybe just pick a favorite charity each or get suggestions from the thread. Happy to consider any suggestions from you or anyone in the thread.
I think that is a great idea and I'd be happy to receive any suggestions from in-thread. If not, I'll just pick one. FYI, charities that are not listed on Charity Navigator generally have
an entry on Guidestar and you can peek at their 990s there. Edgewood looks like they do good work and fwiw I think they would be a fine choice (not that you require my approval).
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Originally Posted by Tuma
i think he was making real progress in improving himself thanks mainly to this thread...now he's without a friend on this dark and cruel place called earth.
When I spoke earlier about being unable to figure out when people are trolling and when they are serious, this is a fine example. Do you honestly believe something like this?
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Originally Posted by Howard Treesong
Beast, if you're reading this, understand that plenty of motivations around here don't involve money. Take NS4U, for example. The amount of his buyout is utterly immaterial to him; he thinks of it no more than he would leaning over to pick up a coin in the street. I don't know why he's willing to bail you out here, but I think his doing so is misguided. Getting 250 in cash doesn't actually help you, even though you think today that's what you need. Enablement is not the medicine you need.
To be clear, I don't think receiving the money was helpful to tbab. I think getting banned was helpful to tbab.
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Originally Posted by Howard Treesong
Just to leaven my cynicism this evening, I'm going to match El D's and NS4U's contributions to charity. Gentlemen, please post or PM the charities to which you're going to donate along with the specific amounts, and I will match the same -- be it wounded warriors, autism, GA, or whatever.
Outstanding! You are a mensch.