Update on my situation (got pretty long...) -
*cliffs notes - Hung out with girl A a few more times, having fun but thinking she just sees me as a good friend. B flaked on party plans, said she was sick, may or may not be telling the truth, don't care. C (previously mentioned in Dec and described a bit below) seems interested and is a decent prospect but I prefer A. Need help on how to proceed with A.
So like I said last time, I cancelled movie plans with girl A and stayed in and watched Cavs/Lakers Thursday. Friday around noon, she texts me telling me she's sick and in bed at home instead of helping with sorority rush stuff. I text back saying I'm heading to the gym and on my way home I'm stopping by the mall and offer to pick up medicine if she needs. She says that would be great and asks me to get some Dayquil. So I work out, pick it up, and then head over to her place. When I get there, I meet her at the front door planning on just giving her the medicine and bouncing. However, she asks me to come in and hang out, so I do. Her apartment is kind of boring but we have a nice conversation for about 2 hours, then I leave and tell her to get well soon. Hug on the way out.
As for the party with girl B, my friend texts her friend Friday and doesn't get a response. We each text Saturday afternoon and same. I don't really care and just go out and pregame and go to the bars. At like midnight she texts me saying she's sorry but she's sick as well and just saw my text. I tell her I'm sorry to hear that and to let me know if she wants to grab a drink when she's better. She says she will, not sure how honest this whole exchange was but not too concerned about it either, I've only met this girl once and talked for under an hour.
Saturday night I go to the bars and the other girl who I had mentioned a while back (law school, friends for a while, good friends w/ some good mutual friends) is there. We'll call her C. I actually saw her out a few nights earlier too and had a good time, did a few rounds of shots, flirted, and after the bars her along with a mixed group of about 8 ppl or so came back to my house to hang out, and I got her number at the end of the night (in a very casual way). So Saturday I text her along with a few others just asking what their plans are for the night, she says she's going to X bar that we always go to after pregaming at her sorority house, I say I'm going to my frat house to pregame some then prob doing the same. She says if I'm walking by her house on the way there to let me know so she can walk down w/ me, I tell her I'm probably getting a ride but if not I will. I got a ride.
The bar is pretty dead when I first get there with a few friends, it has a weird phenomenon of going from totally empty at 11:45 to totally packed at 12:15. I text her and mutual friend asking if they are coming, she responds pretty quickly and gets there maybe 15 minutes later. She's had a decent amount to drink clearly and is flirty from the get-go. We have a few drinks and she's kind of hanging over me and I make some dumb joke kind of making fun of her not being pretty (she's actually very cute and whatever I said was clearly in jest), then she holds me even more and asks "You don't think I'm pretty?" I just smile and laugh and don't answer. She then asks me, "So all this time we've known each other, have you thought of me as just a nice, fun girl to hang out with, or something else?" Hmmm.... She then said, "Hold on I'll be right back I see me friend across the bar and I wanna say hi to her." She was emphatic that I shouldn't go anywhere. But she never came back. I was with mutual friends including basically her best friend and they had no idea where she went either. I haven't talked to her since, but I'll certainly see her out this week. Think it's best playing it cool until I just see her out again, certainly seems to have potential.
Yesterday was first day of class, A had previously mentioned a 3 hour morning class she has on Mondays (yikes) so I text her around noon with this exchange:
me - Make it thru the 3 hr class alive?
A - yes lol just got out of my 2nd class
me - impressive, what are u doing right now?
A - going to my next class u?
me - hour break then 1 more class, geez how many do u have?
A - 3
me - yeah but 1 of them is 3 hrs long that's so much class! I think u might need to relax and watch the Jersey Shore reunion ep w/ me later
A -
k want to get food later too, my chef isn't cooking today
me - sure what kind of food r u thinkin?
A - (inside joke)....want to make something?
Anyway, convo goes on a bit more but doesn't really matter. I pick her up and end up cooking for her last night. If you didn't remember, when we hung out a week ago we were looking at the cookbook I got for Xmas together and she thought it was awesome that I was learning how to cook. I made beef tenderloin w/ mushrooms and a side of broccoli, came out soso, steaks were a bit too rare, but overall fine and we enjoyed it. Watched the Jersey Shore ep (awesomeee btw) then she had to go home to do homework (lol architects). She asked me to come in to see her room which she had cleaned and rearranged since Friday when I was there. Came in and saw it and chatted for another half hour or so. This whole time as well as some at my place I was sitting close to her and trying to escalate physically a bit, and her reactions were very neutral. I also threw a few compliments on physical features here and there, and her response was similarly lukewarm. Started tickling her and she laughed but then said "Ok Brian you're distracting me I gotta do my work." She wasn't mad or anything though. Hug on the way out.
So basically here's where I'm at: I like A best mainly because she seems to have the rare ability to be fun to hang out with for hours upon hours regardless of what we're doing. She's also the most attractive of the 3, imo. However, my read on her right now is that I don't think she wants to be more than friends, albeit very good friends, she was sick this weekend and stayed in so afaik I'm the only person to hang out with her outside of campus since Friday, and I've done it twice. Still have tentative plans to see a movie with her later this week, hopefully I'll get more answers then.
C is not far behind in the looks department, and is also a good time to hang out with, although to be fair I haven't hung out with her sober much at all and she's def less outgoing than A. I think she is almost definitely interested, yes she was drunk when all this happened but I think it's a case of her being too shy to say anything sober and hardly ever seeing me sober anyway. She's a really nice, cute girl who also knows how to have a good time.
Just not sure how to proceed with A right now, basically the same question as last time, I'm trying to engage physically and she doesn't stop me but doesn't really react positively either. It's weird and different. I don't know what to make of it. Help me.