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"Ask Out A Girl" Thread: 2014 Year of the Petite Brunette and Pissing On Dudes "Ask Out A Girl" Thread: 2014 Year of the Petite Brunette and Pissing On Dudes

01-25-2010 , 07:56 PM
got to the lib late today since i got into a depressing student debt conversation with my roommate for over an hour. i might have missed B.

here's to hoping she shows up sometime tonight. im gunna try to initiate convo leading to some sort of rendezvous this week.
01-25-2010 , 08:02 PM
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Originally Posted by Karak
please. he was jsut about to go away.
Dude, you're mixing them up. It's abcdefghijk that we want to disappear. toomanyletters is a wonderful train wreck.
01-25-2010 , 10:40 PM
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Originally Posted by Karak
got to the lib late today since i got into a depressing student debt conversation with my roommate for over an hour. i might have missed B.

here's to hoping she shows up sometime tonight. im gunna try to initiate convo leading to some sort of rendezvous this week.
so you think seeing her f2f in the library is way > than just calling her? why? i have some ideas but you usually articulate your reasons quite well so i want to hear them.

just curious on others' input because there's a girl in my law school who i had a little fling with right at the end of last semester. haven't seen her at school yet and texting/calling just seemed so forced since the 2 or 3 times i tried her she's been friendly but had excuses (legit ones- out of town, etc.). and she's shy so her initiating is not realistically an option. i've layed off the phone contact for over a week but if i don't bump into her by mid-week i'll call and invite her to go out w/ the group on thursday or something. if that doesn't work she'll go from back burner to barely in the kitchen.
01-25-2010 , 10:41 PM
u guys just want to hog this thread lol
01-25-2010 , 10:48 PM
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Originally Posted by Karak
got to the lib late today since i got into a depressing student debt conversation with my roommate for over an hour. i might have missed B.

here's to hoping she shows up sometime tonight. im gunna try to initiate convo leading to some sort of rendezvous this week.
please more intimate details of your every day life.
(sarcasm, but lets try to focus here bro)
01-25-2010 , 10:58 PM
this one looks fine. i actually have a legit question a/b it. See post #2028 Karak.
01-25-2010 , 11:12 PM
Was sick today so I didnt go to school. hopefully tomorrow it works out.
01-26-2010 , 12:05 AM
yawn
01-26-2010 , 12:11 AM
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Originally Posted by toomanyletters
Was sick today so I didnt go to school. hopefully tomorrow it works out.
I'll queue up Taylor Swift's "Love Story" before I read your next post.
01-26-2010 , 12:13 AM
"Fifteen" would seem more appropriate
01-26-2010 , 12:26 AM
what do you guys text a girl after you makeout with her at a party and want to see her again for another makeout or just a good ole fashioned date, and when do you text her?


also, how long do you wait after she doesn't text back to conclude you failed or you need to text her again

edit: i used a mystery-inspired text message and am pretty sure it massively failed and made me look like i was high on drugs when i sent the text. i'm just hoping for any decent response at this point.

i'm thinking of texting tomorrow and pretending i was drunk cause my text was pretty whacky

Last edited by abcdefghijk; 01-26-2010 at 12:45 AM.
01-26-2010 , 12:34 AM
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Originally Posted by LT22
"Fifteen" would seem more appropriate
Too much retrospective self-awareness to be a match IMO.
01-26-2010 , 12:37 AM
i always say ive grown more between freshman year to senior year than any other 4 years. abc, youve got a lot to learn. not about girls, but just maturity.
01-26-2010 , 12:45 AM
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Originally Posted by TurnUpTheSun
i always say ive grown more between freshman year to senior year than any other 4 years. abc, youve got a lot to learn. not about girls, but just maturity.
yeah pretty much this. if you want a girl to like you then expand your horizons beyond inviting her over for a makeout.
01-26-2010 , 12:46 AM
explain?


edit: was directed at TUTS
01-26-2010 , 12:47 AM
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Originally Posted by thebigeasy59
yeah pretty much this. if you want a girl to like you then expand your horizons beyond inviting her over for a makeout.
no, i like her so much i want to go on a date with her

i sent a text, which was going to lead to another text, which was going to lead to another text, which was going to lead to telling her to meet me at place X this weekend so we can go out for a date

and then makeout would hopefully follow the date

but honestly i just wanted to go on a date with her. i just like her.


right now i just suck at texting/phoning girls and would appreciate any advice

Last edited by abcdefghijk; 01-26-2010 at 12:52 AM.
01-26-2010 , 12:55 AM
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Originally Posted by abcdefghijk
explain?


edit: was directed at TUTS
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Originally Posted by abcdefghijk
no, i like her so much i want to go on a date with her

i sent a text, which was going to lead to another text, which was going to lead to another text, which was going to lead to telling her to meet me at place X this weekend so we can go out for a date

and then makeout would hopefully follow the date

but honestly i just wanted to go on a date with her. i just like her.
look bro. just because a girl makes out with you, does not mean she has any emotional attachment to you. it happens to a lot of guys. for some reason when guys hook up with a girl out of their league, they can get attached.

secondly, stop texting her. girls, especially at your age, are weak-willed. if she likes you, she will text you. it is how it works, 100% of the time.

third, you keep making these dream-fantasy things about how everything is going to work out. life doesnt work like this, ever. you can have dreams, make plans, wish on a star, but you will never be able to predict an outcome.

im sure others can back me up and add more.
01-26-2010 , 01:21 AM
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Originally Posted by TurnUpTheSun
look bro. just because a girl makes out with you, does not mean she has any emotional attachment to you. it happens to a lot of guys. for some reason when guys hook up with a girl out of their league, they can get attached.

secondly, stop texting her. girls, especially at your age, are weak-willed. if she likes you, she will text you. it is how it works, 100% of the time.

third, you keep making these dream-fantasy things about how everything is going to work out. life doesnt work like this, ever. you can have dreams, make plans, wish on a star, but you will never be able to predict an outcome.

im sure others can back me up and add more.
I really agree with 1 and 3. 2 is a bit different though. You need to have some aggro in your game with chicks, I actually commented to my gf on friday night that one of my bigger regrets in life was being too much of a pussy to ask girls out (yeah, I know, I'm awful). That said, don't keep attacking. In a situation, you want to keep putting out feelers early and often to let her know you're interested or let her ratchet up the relationship or just to hang out with her, but if she shuts you down or doesn't respond, you wanna back off ASAP.
01-26-2010 , 04:09 AM
Just send out a fake mass text and ship it.
01-26-2010 , 04:27 AM
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Originally Posted by thebigeasy59
(so I probably sounded like a ******ed ****ing robot.) After another minute or so she said "yeah I'll let you go home to bed then. I'm late for class right now anyway, but I'll get in touch with you later tonight." Why is this girl so ****ing weird and playing around with me like this? ****.
i didn't hear from her. I don't know why I care. I mean I still clearly kind of like her I guess. I just can't get past why she went out of her way to talk to me today when she could have just let it go. I'm sure I didn't appear exactly thrilled to see her considering I was on 0 sleep after being up like 37 hours and really needed to go to bed, but I may have hallucinated this entire thing. I kind of wanna just get in touch with her and tell her to **** or get off the pot.
01-26-2010 , 09:27 AM
Okay after my last exam finishes at 6:30 on this Friday I'm freeee for a week. On the big party on friday night I've got to;

1. Not fall asleep due to exhaustion from exams
2. Not spend more than 10 minutes talking to the girl who has a boyfriend but appears to be my girlfriend to random people for some reason.
3. Same as number 2 but with another girl. Even a bar person thought I was with her once, even though our group was about 4 guys and 1 girl and I wasn't doing anything with her in particular. No idea how he picked me out. Confuzzled.
4. Not be paralytic from the drink. Enough to have fun.
5. Actually get round to buying the drink.
6. See where I am with two girls who I wouldn't mind letting me tap that.
01-26-2010 , 10:57 AM
Update on my situation (got pretty long...) -

*cliffs notes - Hung out with girl A a few more times, having fun but thinking she just sees me as a good friend. B flaked on party plans, said she was sick, may or may not be telling the truth, don't care. C (previously mentioned in Dec and described a bit below) seems interested and is a decent prospect but I prefer A. Need help on how to proceed with A.

So like I said last time, I cancelled movie plans with girl A and stayed in and watched Cavs/Lakers Thursday. Friday around noon, she texts me telling me she's sick and in bed at home instead of helping with sorority rush stuff. I text back saying I'm heading to the gym and on my way home I'm stopping by the mall and offer to pick up medicine if she needs. She says that would be great and asks me to get some Dayquil. So I work out, pick it up, and then head over to her place. When I get there, I meet her at the front door planning on just giving her the medicine and bouncing. However, she asks me to come in and hang out, so I do. Her apartment is kind of boring but we have a nice conversation for about 2 hours, then I leave and tell her to get well soon. Hug on the way out.

As for the party with girl B, my friend texts her friend Friday and doesn't get a response. We each text Saturday afternoon and same. I don't really care and just go out and pregame and go to the bars. At like midnight she texts me saying she's sorry but she's sick as well and just saw my text. I tell her I'm sorry to hear that and to let me know if she wants to grab a drink when she's better. She says she will, not sure how honest this whole exchange was but not too concerned about it either, I've only met this girl once and talked for under an hour.

Saturday night I go to the bars and the other girl who I had mentioned a while back (law school, friends for a while, good friends w/ some good mutual friends) is there. We'll call her C. I actually saw her out a few nights earlier too and had a good time, did a few rounds of shots, flirted, and after the bars her along with a mixed group of about 8 ppl or so came back to my house to hang out, and I got her number at the end of the night (in a very casual way). So Saturday I text her along with a few others just asking what their plans are for the night, she says she's going to X bar that we always go to after pregaming at her sorority house, I say I'm going to my frat house to pregame some then prob doing the same. She says if I'm walking by her house on the way there to let me know so she can walk down w/ me, I tell her I'm probably getting a ride but if not I will. I got a ride.

The bar is pretty dead when I first get there with a few friends, it has a weird phenomenon of going from totally empty at 11:45 to totally packed at 12:15. I text her and mutual friend asking if they are coming, she responds pretty quickly and gets there maybe 15 minutes later. She's had a decent amount to drink clearly and is flirty from the get-go. We have a few drinks and she's kind of hanging over me and I make some dumb joke kind of making fun of her not being pretty (she's actually very cute and whatever I said was clearly in jest), then she holds me even more and asks "You don't think I'm pretty?" I just smile and laugh and don't answer. She then asks me, "So all this time we've known each other, have you thought of me as just a nice, fun girl to hang out with, or something else?" Hmmm.... She then said, "Hold on I'll be right back I see me friend across the bar and I wanna say hi to her." She was emphatic that I shouldn't go anywhere. But she never came back. I was with mutual friends including basically her best friend and they had no idea where she went either. I haven't talked to her since, but I'll certainly see her out this week. Think it's best playing it cool until I just see her out again, certainly seems to have potential.

Yesterday was first day of class, A had previously mentioned a 3 hour morning class she has on Mondays (yikes) so I text her around noon with this exchange:

me - Make it thru the 3 hr class alive?
A - yes lol just got out of my 2nd class
me - impressive, what are u doing right now?
A - going to my next class u?
me - hour break then 1 more class, geez how many do u have?
A - 3
me - yeah but 1 of them is 3 hrs long that's so much class! I think u might need to relax and watch the Jersey Shore reunion ep w/ me later
A - k want to get food later too, my chef isn't cooking today
me - sure what kind of food r u thinkin?
A - (inside joke)....want to make something?

Anyway, convo goes on a bit more but doesn't really matter. I pick her up and end up cooking for her last night. If you didn't remember, when we hung out a week ago we were looking at the cookbook I got for Xmas together and she thought it was awesome that I was learning how to cook. I made beef tenderloin w/ mushrooms and a side of broccoli, came out soso, steaks were a bit too rare, but overall fine and we enjoyed it. Watched the Jersey Shore ep (awesomeee btw) then she had to go home to do homework (lol architects). She asked me to come in to see her room which she had cleaned and rearranged since Friday when I was there. Came in and saw it and chatted for another half hour or so. This whole time as well as some at my place I was sitting close to her and trying to escalate physically a bit, and her reactions were very neutral. I also threw a few compliments on physical features here and there, and her response was similarly lukewarm. Started tickling her and she laughed but then said "Ok Brian you're distracting me I gotta do my work." She wasn't mad or anything though. Hug on the way out.

So basically here's where I'm at: I like A best mainly because she seems to have the rare ability to be fun to hang out with for hours upon hours regardless of what we're doing. She's also the most attractive of the 3, imo. However, my read on her right now is that I don't think she wants to be more than friends, albeit very good friends, she was sick this weekend and stayed in so afaik I'm the only person to hang out with her outside of campus since Friday, and I've done it twice. Still have tentative plans to see a movie with her later this week, hopefully I'll get more answers then.

C is not far behind in the looks department, and is also a good time to hang out with, although to be fair I haven't hung out with her sober much at all and she's def less outgoing than A. I think she is almost definitely interested, yes she was drunk when all this happened but I think it's a case of her being too shy to say anything sober and hardly ever seeing me sober anyway. She's a really nice, cute girl who also knows how to have a good time.

Just not sure how to proceed with A right now, basically the same question as last time, I'm trying to engage physically and she doesn't stop me but doesn't really react positively either. It's weird and different. I don't know what to make of it. Help me.
01-26-2010 , 11:21 AM
My quick views on stinger:

C is for crazy (both in your world and mine, apparently)

Things were going well with A and something went wrong. I'd analyze your behavior and how you acted when she invited you to her room. Set off any creep vibes? Too friendsy? Something doesn't add up.

eff B
01-26-2010 , 11:22 AM
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Originally Posted by remi983
so you think seeing her f2f in the library is way > than just calling her? why? i have some ideas but you usually articulate your reasons quite well so i want to hear them.

just curious on others' input because there's a girl in my law school who i had a little fling with right at the end of last semester. haven't seen her at school yet and texting/calling just seemed so forced since the 2 or 3 times i tried her she's been friendly but had excuses (legit ones- out of town, etc.). and she's shy so her initiating is not realistically an option. i've layed off the phone contact for over a week but if i don't bump into her by mid-week i'll call and invite her to go out w/ the group on thursday or something. if that doesn't work she'll go from back burner to barely in the kitchen.
Because I see her every day twice a day anyways, so I might as well wait until I see her in person. It seems more spur of the moment and casual that way. With calling I clearly premeditated it. Remember, we want to play a little bit close to the chest. Although I think I'm quickly blowing things with B based on a lot of stuff I've done, and I need to act soon.
01-26-2010 , 11:38 AM
what do you guys think the probability is that C went out and let some guy hit it that night in retaliation to stinger and to build her own self confidence. sounds a little far fetched but girls are like that imo.

      
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