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Originally Posted by FishAndChipss
yeah, that was inspiring to read. one question though--how do you know that everyone has the ability to choose to be happy? is it possible that someone's brain chemistry can be a certain way that's just too powerful and forces the person to look at things negatively?
also, if anyone can just be happy no matter what, and it has nothing to do with anything outside of one's self--then what is the point of staying healthy, becoming financially stable, cultivating friendships, going out and trying to get laid, etc. etc. etc.? Surely all these external factors do affect the ease or difficulty with which it is for one to be happy?
Because happiness is your natural state from the time you were born. There's plenty of books about this and how the mind works but the easiest way to explain it is this.
From the time you're a child you are exploring the world and taking feedback from the world, you're cultivating a belief system that tells you who you are, what your identity in this world is, based solely off the feedback the world gives you. So when your parents give you a name and tell you that you're this kind of child and your teachers tell you some things about you and your friends tell you some things, you start to believe it all and you accept it as your identity. Some of these things will be positive and some negative. You will do certain behaviors and a parent or teacher may yell at you for doing that thing which will teach you to generate and associate a negative emotion with that behavior and similar behaviors. As you pile on more beliefs and more layers of negative emotions onto this identity you start to believe this is who you are, this is what you do, and you start formulating opinions about your own self worth based on these beliefs and emotions.
As you grow into an adult you continue interacting with society and certain interactions trigger these negative emotions in you that you gathered as a child. Your subconscious mind is triggered to remember this story of what happened as a child, you have the negative emotion, and you reinforce the negative belief about yourself in the current moment and your behavior or the next action you take or don't take out of fear, is a result of all this. It all happens in an instant and it all happens on a subconscious level so you don't even consciously recognize it happening most of the time.
So now you're living your life as an adult, thinking you're making all these choices and what is actually happening is, you're being triggered to remember and access experiences from the past subconsciously, you're recreating them in your body emotionally and in your mind through subconscious thought/belief and you're living into them in the current moment....which means you're carrying around all this past emotional baggage with you everywhere you go until you learn to let it all go. Most people live their life this way and are walking around unconscious 95%+ of the day thinking they're making free will, conscious decisions when they're actually making unconscious, emotional decisions...and then consciously telling themselves a story about it after the fact which will always fall in line with the subconscious story they told themselves when they were a child and originated this belief.
The good news is you can change all this by changing your beliefs. I'd highly recommend anyone who's interested in this info start reading up on how our minds work on a conscious and subconscious level, the power of belief, etc. I'll write up more later on how you can do all this but it will go much faster for many people if they understand the process of what's happening bc a lot of people need to know why or they refuse to believe something, it's just the way many peoples minds are programmed to work.
As for the point of staying healthy, financial stability, relationships, sex, etc...
Well you need to stay healthy to stay alive, and if you respect and appreciate life you will do this, it's part of your survival instinct.
Financial stability, beyond needing to sustain yourself in society much of what you believe about money and finances isn't true, but that doesn't mean you shouldn't have it or don't deserve it. You are here on earth to create your vision of what you want your life to look like, if that requires you making more money then do it, if that doesn't then don't....but make sure you know and question what you actually want, dream about, feel passionate about being and doing....and what you've been told you should want/need by society bc most of the things you've been told you should want/need you don't actually want or need....again this doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't have them though.
Relationships, technically you don't need them to sustain life, however we live in a society and if you don't choose to spend your life meditating in a cave you will have to interact with people so it's good to figure out the best way of doing that. The best relationships are built on mutual giving, collaboration, inspiration, and unconditional love...which simply means you inspire people to be the best version of themselves wo demanding anything back from them. That doesn't mean you just let people walk all over you, you can give to someone and realize they aren't in a place to appreciate what you have to offer and choose to not continue wasting your time and energy in a place where it isn't well received. That's unconditional love, you move on and allow that person to be who they are while understanding it isn't their fault that they're programmed the way they are and they simply don't know what they don't know.
Sex, it's a biologically programmed desire to perpetuate the existence of the species, but you don't need it. You've been lead to believe you do need it and getting lots of sex from hot girls makes you the man, validates you, makes you high value, etc.... All BS, none of that is true, you simply don't need it. It's fun, it feels great, and you want it...but that is just a physical response your nervous system is programmed to go through. Again, that doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't have it...and doesn't mean you can't or shouldn't have lots of it, that's up to you. But if you approach sex as if it is something you need then you will get very little of it as I'm sure many people here can already attest to as can I from past experience. The key to having lots of sex is giving up your need for it, and just have it. Again, you have to reprogram your mind to do this.