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Originally Posted by mananamanana
Dante, looks like you are getting on the right track. Keep playing the game
All,
Lately I have been going to clubs like 3+ times a week. And honestly my club game is pretty weak. Where I come from trying to get girls is mostly done at bars. Now I am at clubs all the time in Shanghai. Figured i might post a situation i ran into for a few times and see how to play it.
So intro, clubs in Shanghai are too awesome. Super cool and free drinks/entree for westerners. I'm very tall (6'5) so stand out pretty well in the Chinese crowd. The real ballers have tables with girls surrounding them. So for guys like me there arent a ton of girls. Still enough choice.
So what happens is I walk in and get a drink and catch eye with a girl. For example today a pretty tall girl is about to take a shot of tequila when i approach the bar. She starts smiling and we share a few words that got lost in the music before she takes her shot with her friend. I grab a drink with my friends while she goes back to her group. Im eyeing her from time to time and she seems to enjoy herself.
We dont have super obvious constant eye contact but still frequent enough to make me feel like the odds are in my favor. Problem is, like every girl I met in those Shanghai clubs, she is surrounded by like 6 guys dancing around her. Basically they take turns talking to her and getting the cold shoulder.
So far i have been trying to wait for the good moment and approach her when she is alone for a second but that happens super infrequently since those guys walk with her from the bar to the toilet and back and I am not there to constantly watch a girls every move.
Maybe I should start dancing in her group and see what happens, but then i suddenly am one of the dozen guys approaching her every hour. Also noteworthy i can hold my own dancing wise but i am def not very good. Anyone have a go-to move in spots like this? Feel like it is a pretty frequent spot but i havent found a way to work it in a natural way
Experience is from Beijing and not Shanghai so might be a bit different.
The girls that are with the "ballers" in the clubs are mostly hires, and will not be interested in the group they're with, though hard to persuade to leave that group.
If there's one, let's say "ugly" guy at the table who seems to be calling the shots he most likely is the one with the money who hired the girls (or the club takes care of it for him, in return for him spending like crazy.)
Be aware not to piss these off, they don't appreciate western guys taking the Chinese girls and there were gangs going around Beijing wrecking any foreigner out with a Chinese girl while I was there.
I hope your living situation in Shanghai is better than mine in Beijing, we had a secluded dorm and weren't allowed any guests after 10pm (guards all over, and only other way in was to climb a crumbling wall which has won some of the fights to climb it, so to speak.)
The free drinks are fun though, hope the quality is a bit better in Shanghai than it is in Beijing, for the Chinese version of Tinder download "TanTan".
Also, are you learning Chinese while you're there? If not, start if you're staying for a period of 4+ months. It took me two months to get the hang of it but afterwards it's a great convo starter with girls if you're into the Chinese.
Enjoy it over there, I wish I was back there nearly every day.