You would have spun her around for a bit right there and then grab a drink together?
Maybe it was not clear from my post, I didnt completely ignore but also didnt give her full attention. Was not the type of club where people grind so was not gonna do that.
After review I thought I played it pretty well as well. Make her wait a little then approach when I feel the timing is right. Hard to say what went wrong

Good stuff about the escalating GG. Gonna listen to the podcast

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Tinder question. Friends said I should start Tinder. Never been a real Tinder user but it's a goldmine. Been matching a ton. Anyone that has a go-to Tinder line (exchange student/party in Shanghai etc)? Wanna have a standard quick chat that i can use on all girls then invite her to house parties or meet up in the club. Does anyone have a solid opening?

you look like trouble

Agree with lucid,you had at least 3 shots at the milf,and ignored her.
Not many women over 30 are going to wait for you to make up your mind.
They may play games too,but once they make it clear they want you,better lock that **** down for the night

Lucid can you post a picture of yourself?

Silly girl texted today, first time she's sent me anything since December, inviting her to go out with her friends to the world's worst casino this evening. I responded: "pics of friends?"

Radio silence. And that's just fine by me.

solid link always enjoy podcasts and podcasts topics such as these

If you want to laugh, I'm keeping me resolution of having memorable nights out everytime:

TR? Was it this weekend?

Was working at a fair standing in a booth representing the bank I work for. We had candy, giveaways and a quiz. This italian girl and her friend comes to us and I translate the quiz from swedish to english. Towards the end I thought to myself, why not ask this girl out? So im thinking yolo and ask her out for drinks, she accepts and probably gives me wrong number. I could have just called it right away to ensure she also got my number but in the heat of the moment I didnt think that far. Messaged her a couple of hours later and after 4-5 hours still no reply.

I went out of my comfort zone because the place was crowded and I was working so it was probably not the best timing, but whatever.

Doesn't matter what happens after you get the number. The important thing out of this was not being a pussy.

This.

Yeah,it didn't pan out,better than wishing you had asked her out.

+2

It has nothing to do with the girl and everything to do with you. When you become the guy that is comfortable with himself and can express his desires without shame, which only happens through the process of doing it over and over and being OK with yourself no matter what result you get...then you will get numbers from girls that will be waiting by their phone for your text.

As long as you need the girl to text you back to "feel good about yourself" bc she likes you, she won't text you back or she'll keep flaking

Couldn't have said it any better.

I'm gonna have to disagree with all the love here. You were at the fair representing the company you work for, and decided to ask this girl out without any indications that she was interested because yolo. That seems inappropriate on a professional level, and also pretty awkward/desperate on a personal level.

Dunno I think at a trade show its a little bit more of a relaxed environment. But yeah randomly asking out a chick who hasn't given you any indication that she likes you is never the right move. However we don't know for sure about that.

I kind of agree with everyone. If Dante responds to that experience with "I asked out a rando, got rejected, and the world kept spinning, I should get better at this sh*t so next time she responds" then stuff like that can be a net positive on the guy. Problem is most guys are either unaware and keep asking girls out in situations that aren't great OR they take rejection like that personally and succumb to being forever alone.

Big red brick house
6 car garage
Young black ***** and I made it farrrr

Damn Dante

Back at it again as a nice man

I think his last post shows progress compared to where he was.

This might be my inexperience showing, but I don't think it's that bad if the situation is bad. It might be a Hail Mary, but as long as you don't let it get you down, no big deal.

For me, Dante really needs to work on his date game. He goes out with these girls all the time. Dante, they are going out with you because they like you. It's a pain in the ass to get girls to go out once. Just tell yourself that every single time you go on a first date with a woman, unless things are going horribly, at which point you should just bail, you need to escalate.

Getting to date 4 and saying the kiss didn't feel right is just you being scared. By the way, the kiss probably isn't right on date 4, because at that point it's too late. Look at it this way: Girls are mostly responsive. If you're scared, then she will be scared too. Scared that you don't know what you are doing and that you won't ever sac up and make a move.

So just make a move every single time you go out. Even if you are rejected, you will be respected. As it stands, you are not respected and not rejected *as a friend*, which is probably not what you want. And yeah, you should try to do other stuff to set the scene and make her feel comfortable, but even if you're not doing that great, just try anyways. You are obviously a champion at getting rejected and continuing to work through that, so just extend your awesome attitude to this.

You all have good points. Managed to get a date over tinder with a 28 year old mom of two. Personally I have nothing against a girl that has kids but that might be my desperate acting.

my man

Didnt respond to some of this because of lack of time, replying now.

Dont worry, I've basically screwed it with every girl that is in my surroundings.


Im the guy that knows a lot of people when I go out and most girls I know probably dont see me as attractive. Im pretty uncomfortable with girls. Not that I dont want to but touching a girl is pretty hard, especially when im only with one girl. So actually getting approval is pretty important for me.

Yep, I am really bad at telling what is flirty and what is not. For example, the italian girl in my last posts she was smiling a lot and I thought she seemed interested. But that was way off, probably.


I think it is important to get experience and this is probably the only chance. But sometimes I do take it personally. The more girls I meet the less personal I will probably take it. At least I hope so.