Just offer once and be thankful afterward is the play. Offering too much would be considered rude imo.

Just be genuinely thankful. Bringing a nice bottle of wine + flowers is an option next time you see them too. Alternatively, see if you and your GF can arrange to take them out next time it's one of their birthdays, anniversaries, etc. Or arrange + prepay with whatever restaurant they are dining out at for a special occasion to have a nice bottle of champagne sent over or something.

Agree with Custer that if they are comfortable spending all that they most certainly have more money than you think. They may just live modestly.

Loaded to me is ballin. They are definitely comfortable from what I can tell, but my guess is they are mortgage free so have disposable income.

Given what I know about their jobs definitely not making the kind of $$ I could imagine spending like this freely. Which was why I felt a bit of guilt, but I guess there is nothing I can do differently as JL said.

Thanks mullen. Good suggestions.

wouldn't do this, can come across bad imo. flowers/wine suggestions are good. just being thankful is enough though imo, i'm sure they didn't treat you because they expected something in return

Was gonna say this.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AXY6fQUDr3o#t=32s

DontDoItPls,

It is pretty standard for the older people to pay in situations like this. Find out what her dad likes and buy him a bottle of scotch or whatever.

Yeah my girlfriends parents aren't loaded but they have 2 good jobs and whenever we go out they would pay for dinner + entertainment. I would usually try to pay for a round of drinks or something pre or post dinner but nothing crazy.

For example when we went to New Orleans for an LSU game, gf+i paid for airfare separate they paid for our hotel room and tickets to the game and i paid for a couple of the big meals and a bunch of rounds of drinks. When we visited her hometown they took us out to nice dinners and i paid for the drinks after dinner. Pretty standard that the older people would pay the majority but offering to pay as a token of your appreciation is nice. I didn't break it down or anything but I would imagine I paid for about 15-20% of combined expenses and they paid the rest.

Definitely +1 to offering one and then just being thankful. If it's something that keeps happening I'd definitely suggest a gift (either as a one off or going out of your way a birthday or whatever). Wine, Scotch, [insert something special they like here].

Jamie Lynn Sigler. noms

ya but what did gf pay? j/k.

The true alpha play is obviously:

You: "ok at least let me get the tip"
Dad: "don't worry about it"
You: "ok I'll just give it to your daughter later"

Amirite?

Legit laughed out loud

Def this

LOL

However, NYE they stayed in a hotel and let us stay at their condo...

I just hope I never have a daughter. I can't imagine the feels of paying for her BF's dinner/night then knowing he would later be nailing her back at my home.

Don't worry. The father got the hotel so he could get laid.

What a stupid mindset to have. Who cares if you have a daughter and she enjoys sex and having sex with lots of dudes....women are human beings too and also enjoy sex. It just shows a lack of understanding about women in general....which can def be blamed on the way society frames women but perpetuating a nasty social stigma that forces women to hide the fact that they enjoy sex from most of the rest of society....including their own BF sometimes and then the guy is shocked when she cheats(which is insanely hard to not do over the course of a long relationship anyway).

Barring super religious nutty girls you need to understand there is no such thing as some girls that are good girls and some girls who are sluts. There is only girls who are at different periods in their life. There is nearly 100% guarantee that if you have a daughter that is remotely good looking she will go through a period in her life where society would regard her as a slut and same can be said for your gf, that's just how it is.

Your post was good up until the last part where you sky dived. If you think every non religious girl goes through a spree of a lot of sexual partners then lol

TR from today:

Went and met up with that girl I'd mentioned after work today at a pool hall. Things started off pretty normally, and the discussion was fine. She was utterly lost where aiming the cue ball was concerned, but she could hold the stick correctly and seemed to be fine on that front.

I won pretty much every game, though she won one of them by default when I accidentally sunk the 8-ball in. Definitely considered letting her win a game or two, but that seems amateurish to me and doesn't promote healthy competition.

After finishing, we went out to my car while she waited for her friend to pick her up (I have work tomorrow and she lives a bit further than I'd like to drive). While we were talking in the car, I went for the standard "Well, that being said, you want to make out?" line. She responded "I'll give you a kiss, which I usually don't do until the third date." (wut)

I went in for it, and then we ended up making out anyway (wut). As she exited the car, she told me she had a really good time and to call her.

I'm a little bit put off by this "usually not kissing until the third date" thing. I'm not sure I've ever heard of anything like that.

I didn't say a lot of sexual partners, I said what society would regard as a slut.

For example, what if a girl is dating the first guy she ever slept with from HS simply because they've been together for 7 years already and it's her first love but he's pretty boring and reserved sexually. So several times she has cheated on this guy behind his back with only 3 guys total but multiple times with all of them, making her total number of sexual partners for a girl that would be 22-24 years old....only 4 total. Yet most anyone if told this about this, espeically the BF would regard her as a slut. Why?

And I do realize not every girl will do this but the vast majority of people in society today who have very few sexual partners when married fall into the same statistic of over 50% divorce anyway(at which point if the woman is still good looking enough to get attention from men she may experiment now with having a lot more sexual partners), and of the ones that stay together...quite often someone or both cheats at some point in the relationship and maybe lots of points.

How is that standard?

If you keep asking her permission before you get physical with her you will probably be waiting months to sleep with her. She likes you, she wants you to take the lead and just pay attention to how comfortable she is with everything you're doing with her up to and including when you sleep with her. Being able to do that without asking her at each major step is what makes the girl want to sleep with you more and more as you do it.

*facepalm*

Another tool posing as a whiteknight feminist to conceal his true views.

1. My post had absolutely nothing to do with slut shaming.
2. You clearly read your own slut shaming views into my post.
3. My post was about the dynamics of male relationships and how much of a beta I'd feel like paying for another man's dinner only to have him nail my daughter at MY HOME hours later.
4. Your follow up post confirms your slut shaming views. Your arbitrary number of more than 4 sexual partners in your example of what society would deem a slut is more a reflection of you than society.

Spew your fake feminist drivel elsewhere.

uwotm8? I absolutely agree with Lucid.

There is so much wrong with your mindset.

Why should you as a father be upset at someone having sex with your daughter? No white knighting there. Just pointing out your weird mindset, which I'm pretty sure you wouldn't say about your fictional son.

#3 especially makes sense since you would obviously have ownership of your daughter and her body.

Obviously I'm missing where I was slut shaming my fictional daughter. Please explain.

Like I said I was referring to the male relationship dynamic in my post.

As a father I'd expect you want to be the alpha male, especially around your kin, this is what the Soprano clip is about. Also, why in marriage the father gives his daughter away as it is a symbol of superseding that alpha male status.

To pay for another man's dinner who will then be having sex in YOUR house is a huge hit to your standing in that male hierarchy relationship with the BF. Same would go if I had a fictional gay son and his BF went back to MY house for sex.