...yes, you may not be the only one ITT that such a thing is true of.

fwiw i like the mini-blog posts from karak and other posters. why limit the thread

good thread here guys.

just a quick one, more of a theory question i guess.

in terms of a relationship developing, is it fair to say the more you hang out with a girl the more relaxed you can be in regards to some of the 'rules' (acting aloof, always inferring high social value etc etc)

for example, i've been on 5-6 dates with this girl and we get on really well, are really comfortable with each other etc etc, i suggested a movie later this week and she said yes, then remembered she had something on and said she will let me know if she can fit both in. i kind of joked with her about it 'oh if u have something better on etc etc', nothing seriousand there was mad lolz about it, but after i thought to myself, if that was a 1st date i would just play it off with a 'no worries just let me know' sorta thing.

I have no idea if what I wrote made any sense at all. i guess what im asking is me showing that i cared a bit as big of an error as what it would be if we were just getting to know each other??

i'm in the club that 3yrs is the max age difference before both ppl are 18. (i think it helps if the parents press charges or something)

if your both into each other after the date and it's obvious then ya go for it. it's online dating most of those ppl have one night stands

the whole playing hard to get thing, imo, is to basically trick someone into hooking up with you. if you're both thinking about a relationship it takes a lot more then some line like that to mess it up so don't worry

I seriously hate my life.

Friday-- Girl that attacked me at the club last week sees me again on Friday and attacks. We dance for a bit, then go get food. When we are sitting down and eating at the restaurant she is stroking my ****ing crotch. I walk her home but refuse to hook up with her.

Saturday-- I'm hanging out with my friends from out of town at my usual bar. Out of nowhere an old friend of mine from first year grabs me and introduces me to a girl. Naturally she's a 6, I run better than god, and she asks for my number 5 minutes after meeting me.

If anyone has an idea on how to translate being amazing with girls you don't care about that much to girls you do I will name my first child in your honor.

am i missing something here?

This shatters my image of you, I thought you were out there giving Shawn Kemp a run for his money.

was thinking the same thing as TUTS

I mean I think most people would be pretty happy to be where you're at, so kind of weird to bitch about...

I see how some could see it that way but it actually just makes it way more frustrating that I've been failing my ass off with the girls I've been interested in the last month.

Second this. If you posted TRs in the past (or were thinking about posting them in the future), please continue/start to do so. I love coming back here at 2-3 AM Fri/Sat night or even the next morning to see what everyone did, even if it wasn't anything terribly interesting. We've got a good thing going here. It's the internet. The thread has unlimited capacity.

Outside of senseless spamming/trolling which interferes with the purpose of the thread, why hold back?

That's the last I'll say on the subject. (I had planned on ignoring it all together, but the last thing I want is anyone to be dissuaded from posting TRs or situations). Any further comments/questions, then just PM me. I won't address it on here anymore. Note I'm not posting as a mod right now, just another poster. I'm not setting out mod dicta here or anything.

I'm trying to get away from that pattern and she was making it VERY difficult.

Karak goes to the library.

Karak goes to the library.

Karak goes to the library.

Karak goes to the library.

Karak goes to the library.

Karak goes to the library.

Karak goes to the library.

x3

Welcome to the life of a law student.

Library or bar or bed. No middle ground.

The reason you do so well is you DON'T CARE. You act aloof, naturally push and pull and are generally care-free and "yourself" (hate using that term but you know what I mean) with those women. This translates to success.

The key is, and I've said this a few times elsewhere, is to keep a few situations running. If this one doesn't work out, no big deal I'll still have the B, C and D situations available. This way you don't get one-itis and start caring too much.

Again, the last couple of weeks have totally reinforced this notion in my mind.

When that girl from the other night at the club unexpectedly started grinding her ass into me and letting me progress things from there on the dance floor, I thought, "Wow, I bet you'd even sit on the couch with me."

(No, I did not actually have that thought, thank God. But I admit that I felt a little bit vindicated that couch-jumper was about 10 feet away from this situation and undoubtedly noticed it.)

Hockey time!

+1 to the enjoyment of reading about various TR's

honestly i have never once found karak's library tr's boring. even tho now that i think about it they had some similarities.

as for il_martilo i dont see how u can pass up a girl strokin the goods at a restaurant

k time to write a text to a girl saying i don't want to hook up with her right now. we had plans to hangout this weekend and i flaked on her again for like 20th time in a row. she's definitely into me. like made status updates like "blehh why isn't it tomorrow i want to hangout with GoodGame" etc.

"hey sorry it looks like i flaked on you again. i'm kinda starting to like someone else so if we hungout and hookedup or anything right now it would turn awkward. rather than be a douche and do it anyways i figured it'd be better to just wait and see what happens with me and her"

good?

wait, how close are you to this girl?
cant she get the clue?
or maybe you should just wait til she calls you/initiates with you and tell her that you just want to be friends?
seems kinda wack to go out of your way to tell her i like another girl, not you.

uh she's like really into me. like it's kinda scary at times. for instance her friend commented on a photo of her and basically quoted something i had said in a conversation with her. and ya i could ignore her and keep blowing her off but doesn't that ruin any possibility of hooking up in the future?

and if me and her hungout now and didn't hookup she'd be like wtf ygos?

Speak with your behavior, not your words. You risk looking like an ******* sending a text like that. She'll get the hint soon enough.

Here's how I handled the situation with D (please note I think I handled it incorrectly):

Every time before we hooked up I'd disclaim that I wasn't going to get in a dating relationship with her or anything. She made it pretty obvious she was getting emotionally invested, and I realized I had to back off. However, sometimes my discipline wasn't there and I hooked up with her another time or two, all the while feeling like I was vindicated by giving her a very obvious disclaimer that I wasn't looking to date her and probably never would. However, she interpreted my behavior, not my words, and continued thinking something would develop. I admittedly acted like a douche in this situation and mishandled it.

Finally, I realized she simply was not getting it, and I had to break it off. I purposely distanced myself from her for some time and avoided hanging out with her. She got the message when I started communicating with my behavior, rather than my words. Although there was one incident where she came out with us (and brought her friend from school to meet me all excited... why I don't know... this was after I cut it off), and I ended up going home with C (or, more accurately, C ended up taking me home. That's a helluva story for another time). That kinda drove the final nail in the coffin, but she already knew at that point. D actually vented a bunch about this last night, all the while claiming that it doesn't bother her at all anymore and she's over it. (Yeah, right)

maybe i read your post wrong karak but i took that as u saying blow her off like u did with D, yet then u admitted it made D mad? i'm confused. i don't want to cut ties with her completely. i've done that with most of the girls i hooked up with and i think it's dumb because i wouldn't mind hooking up with them in the future.

and sure enough the girl just text me. i'm never going to see this girl in my social circle fwiw. only time we hangout is like one on one date type things

edit- just realized you said u thought u handled it incorrectly karak. so i guess i'm sending the text

k i sent it. we're now talking on webcam and she just happens to not be wearing pants and is looking ridiculously cute. and is now playing r kelly bump and grind lolll wtf

not a big fan of that text message tbh