Yeah, I'd say so, but it isn't looking good. And even if you did, is she worth the extra effort? I mean seriously a chick like that would make me want to claw my eyes out so fast that I wouldn't even be able to concentrate.

I guess I should clarify if I wanted to see the movie I would stay and watch the movie, not necessarily with her especially if she's trying to do dumb **** like sit where seats are already taken. I'm not even sure if I would give her a ride home.

Interesting scenario popped up on EDF that I thought was worth exploring. You get invited by a girl to go to an event or party with her. Say a bar or a club or something. You've shown interest, so has she, and you think this is along those same lines.

You show up, and she has clearly invited another guy she is interested in, and you are going to have to compete with him for her attention.

What is your line?

I already read those posts so I know what Henry would do, but I would 100% bail on that situation. It's bull**** to be put in that situation and if she's doing that to you already, she's not worth your time/effort.

Laugh and leave if it's 3 of us, laugh and ignore her if it's a group and there are other eligible girls. The girl is either a drama-seeking crazy or an idiot without the most basic understanding of how to go about dating non-monogamously.

Left. Sat down next to her, she goes to the bathroom, I wait like 3 minutes then make a break for it. Get all the way to my car and her purse is in there. So I bring it to the ticket taker in the lobby. Then I text her that I had a family emergency, had to leave, and tell her where her purse is.

BTW, I could've easily hooked-up w/ her. We had a couple drinks before hand and she clearly signaled that she wanted to stay over. But I have too much self-respect for that.

lol purse in the car is such a beat

what girl leaves her purse in the car like that? that blows.

but yeah, good for you for not just enduring it to "get laid." not only was she rude to you, but she was rude to everyone else in the theater too. no reason to give a person like that any more attention.

I've been reading this thread for a while, some interesting stuff, lots of hilarious sh*t that reminds me of stuff I've done, etc.

Anyways, this is going to be a little different type question compared to the usual ask-a-girl-out stuff...

So I had a really nice dinner date + movie (her idea, brought up at the end of dinner) two nights ago with this girl that I've vaguely known for a while but never really ran into much in the past. Good conversation, lots of laughter, etc. She's on the conservative side, which is fine with me, cuz my goal is not just to hook-up immediately or anything either.

Anyways, I went for a pretty tame good-night kiss at the end of the night, she seemed to respond well, and this morning she msgs me with "hey, had a lot of fun last night! we should do it again soon." Here's the problem: I want to see her again, I know she's at least somewhat interested in me, but I have a TON of school stuff to deal with this semester. Basically I failed a class last semester, I'm a senior, so now to make sure that I graduate on-time, I'm taking a ridiculous course-load, and trying to write an honors thesis at the same time, and it's taking up almost all of my time.

What's my general meta-strategy here? Short-term, if I tell her, "yeah, let's hang out, but I don't have any free time until next week" or something along those lines, I'm pretty sure she'll take that to be a sign of disinterest. Longer-term, can I somehow tell her that I'm just way too busy with school to hang out very often, but I still would like to see her when I can? Am I being ******ed and selfish here for thinking this? Maybe I just need someone to tell me that this is doomed to failure...

usually guys get blown off b/c they're boring/have no lives and then want to be with a new girl interest 24hrs/day 7days/week. you are in a really good spot to be honest with her IMO. relationships are usually doomed when the guy or girl has nothing to do besides hang out with the other. she will understand when you say you're busy with school, that you're busy with school.

Tell her the truth and see how things play out. Planning everything in advance just isn't always a viable option.

[ ] TR. she didn't show up apparently. i still have no idea who this girl is.

I think it would be hilarious if after she did that with all the food you were just like "I can see we're not going to get along very well, enjoy the movie!" and walked away with your ticket and stuck her with the tab for the food. I'm not sure if I'd actually do that but I really hate ppl like her so maybe.

would it be hella bad if i texted the girl i speak of (lets call her J for now on) today?
or should i see how she reacts to seeing me in class tomorrow?

(seriously, im a pussy. i get like this all the time when a girl shows me attention. i have no problem being cool around girls that i have no interest in, but the second i find a girl that im interested in and that shows me attention, i turn into a 7th grade girl with a crush on the backstreet boys. i dont even know where my balls are. i dont even know the last time i saw them. maybe ill look under the passenger seat of my car or something.)

So there is a girl who seems like she is somewhat into me. We met early December through work (she started then) and until like January we didn't talk much. Then we started talking a little bit and she seemed into me. I got scared off because she is 16 years old lol (I just turned 20). Right after my birthday early this month we stopped talking as much, just like randomly. We've hung out only like 3 times and she's been asking to hang out this past week... but once again I get scared off. Partly because she's 16 years old and I'm a manager where we work, and also because I think she is into me and I'm always awkward about stuff like this and don't want to screw anything up.

It's not like I'm heavily into her, I casually like her. IDK if I should just go and hang out with her or just leave it how it is and just let it be. FWIW I've been awkward about situations like this for about a year (long story short a chick that I had something going with turned lesbo LOL).

shes too young, dont do it.

Need advice here. Ok so I've been talking to this chick from okcupid (brag or beat?) for like a week via text messaging and then 2 nights ago we talked on the phone for the first time. We seem to have good chemistry and have a lot of things in common blah blah blah. So right before we got off the phone she tells me she would like to hang out some time soon and I say "yea I'd like that." Last night she texted me and said if I wanted to hang out tomorrow night (which is tonight). I said yes. How do I play this? Go out to dinner? (seems too strong), maybe go to a casual place like Starbucks or
Yogurtland (she loves that ****). Do I pay for her? She's one of those chicks that doesn't like it when the guy pays. Also if things go well, do I go for the kiss?

Legal issues aside, why in pete's name would you want to date a 16-year-old? I get annoyed dealing with 18-19-year-olds because of maturity issues. I couldn't even imagine 16. Can't you find anyone above 18 and around your own age? I'm sure you can. There's no reason to go this route.

Plus, depending on where you live, doing anything with her could very well be illegal. Even if it isn't, there's some serious morality issues here which I won't opine on, but need to be considered. I'd stay far away.

We have a saying around here that goes "if she's not 18, she's 12."

Think about this.

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wait til class wowwowowow, I thought it was already said a million times

+1, even if TUTS scoffs at me giving input on his stuff.

I love how we're all going to say that waiting till class is >>>>>>>>>>>>>> than texting her, but TUTS is going to text her anyway.

Also, vintage is right on all 3 accounts.

im better at knowing what to do than actually doing it.

like if anyone else asked, id think they are ******ed and had no chance with the girl.

i know my biggest "leak" is coming on way too strong to a girl, aka not following the tuts theorm of making them want more. once i fix that up, i will be way better at this "game".

edit: not gonna text, just gonna cry myself to sleep.
edit 2: the 4400 from winning a tourney last week is in my bank account and it looks so pretty

This girl is clearly trying to woo YOU. You have already done all of the work and need to stop thinking things. Go to whatever place you want and don't pay if you don't want to. If it's actually a thing for her just shrug and split the bill and smile. Why in hell wouldn't you go for a kiss with a girl that likes you so obviously?

For your info girls that date online are usually a lot more pragmatic about their dating (they are literally using a resume to attract boys) so they tend to be at least a hair sluttier than average. A kiss is nothing.

Tuts, I think you still have a good shot. And the problem isn't that you have a leak, it's that your leak is really, really big.