ytf,

Those winks and likes from hundreds of miles away are likely scammers. Their profiles are normally removed almost immediately. They probably have IPs from Nigeria. Just ignore them.

I'm in Portugal and most women here don't have any idea about pro poker players. Most are fine with it, but some are pretty dug in that it's addictive and destructive and it's just futile to try and explain it. I dated one girl who said she wanted someone who made a consistent income. Keep in mind I live in a pretty baller place, wear nice clothes and I'm spending decent money on this girl and I'm more financially stable than 99% of the other guys she meets with the financial crisis going on. I tried to explain it any way that I could and finally I said "Look, would you rather be with someone who averages $XX,XXX a month, but sometimes brings home $XX,XXX and sometimes it's $X,XXX...or with someone who brings home only $1000 every month?" She thinks for about 1/1000th of a second and says "$1000 every month."

Looks like I may have blown it with my response to Commodus.

Too harsh a tone?

I've been on-site a few times today and saw her under my favorites. The "chat bubble" by her name occasionally triggers. Am I supposed to be instant messaging her?

Lol, nice little anecdote. Good that she called you back though.

Sly, Yup, sounds about right.

Just say self employed.
Don't bring it up unless they do.
When I get asked I say "I play poker for a living. Most people are skeptical when I tell them that, but I've done it for the last XX years, own my own house and car. It pays the bills so it works for me haha. Not to mention I get to make my own schedule and be my own boss!"

Has worked with great success for me. a good majority of the time they say "well you should teach me how to play poker "
Then it's just easy pickings from there.
This is girls in the 18-30 range though. (I'm 23).

What lolpony said. Make it clear that you've been doing it successfully for x number of years, that you love what you do, and briefly extoll the virtues of it without actually saying in your profile what you do. Save that for when you've actually got them talking.

Put equity analyst as your job

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ATF- What are we going to do with you bro?

This is what I'm talking about with the constant comedy routine. Just talk to her like a normal person. You already nailed the clever witty Commodus line. Now pull it back and show her your natural side. Don't follow it up with ANOTHER clever witty Commodus line. BE MORE SELECTIVE WITH YOUR WITTY MESSAGES. You don't have to be Don Rickles.

Yes too harsh. You want to give them the feeling that you're grooving together, not repelling each other with a thumbs down. You give her a thumbs down, then ask her for her number? Too soon. Also, never give out your number and ask the girl to make first contact. Weak move. The last line sounds like you were worried that she didn't get the connection to her profile. Am I right?

Wouldn't this be better: "Wow, thanks! Glad you liked the message. How is your week going? Are you in nursing school? [or whatever you want to ask her about her profile]" It gives her a little reminder that she liked you, initiates the conversation about her plans for the week, and gives her another thread about herself to run with.

Great advice, Sly. Dialing back the wit and sarcasm is something I'm going to have to be more conscious of doing. EDIT: Is this salvageable? If I see her "chat bubble" light up maybe I'll chime in. This is probably a decent time for some slight self-deprecation I think... something like "it's hard to top the best message you've ever seen".

Apropos of your butt dial, I got "butt texted" by the Russian Troll...

Nice insight there into the life of an online hottie. But I presume it's not for me as it doesn't even begin to touch on ANYTHING in my last text.

My play?

After I traded numbers with a girl she made a joke about how she was going to save my number as "Heroin Mike" (referencing a previous joke) because "Stripper Mike" was already taken. I try to set up a date for that week, she says she's busy so it will need to be sometime next week, I say "I only schedule a week out for girls I know well enough to add a descriptive prefix to their name. 'Stripper xxxxx' is still available if you're looking for ideas." We send a few texts joking about her stripping career. I text her after the weekend and we set a date.

sounds good. Just keep up the heroin jokes. God help you if you said "descriptive prefix" out loud

ATF- In what world is "it's hard to top the best message you've ever seen" being self-deprecating? It's just another witty line. Stop it. Messaging her again now is trying too hard. Just give her until next week and then force yourself to send her a message that has no clever one-liners, if that's possible.

Your play on the Russian troll? How many red flags do you need before you stop wasting time with that? JFC

d10- her joke about heroin mike is gold. Going to add that one to my repertoire.

At least she says she's beautiful.

Bahahahhah. Awesome.

Sly,

I'm currently "messaging" with some 40 year old broad who opened with me. For whatever reason, instead of just cutting loose she's straight-up ignoring my wit and sarcasm and trying to hold a normal convo. It's helpful.

I just fired off a final salvo to the Russian troll to clarify whether she was serious about a spa date. It's $30 to get in the place. If she looks anything like her bikini pics and covers her entry fee... I'm going for it.

i mean, now you HAVE to go out with her. just for us.

just don't allow her to order food.

amazin - maybe take her on a date to the gym...im sure she'd love that

Date booked for Friday night.

What do yall think of having multiple pics from the same shoot?

I have another one that I really like but idk if it's too tryhard to have two

seriously amazin, if she is fat enough to have admitted to a few extra pounds and didn't have any pics making it obvious just how many pounds that meant, it's pretty much a guarantee that it's more pounds than you are gonna want.

also diablo, this is the more honest version of that sterotype imo. obviously the vast majority those guys would prefer skinnier white girls.

@kpowers-2 photos from 1 shoot is def wayyy to try-hard.

NL,

While that is surely a factor, in my experience the black guys I've known have on average preferred significantly thicker girls than white guys I've known. That doesn't contradict what you and amazin are saying, though.

id skip that one... shirt looks tight in that pose.

This, unless you have like 10+ other pictures up, but even then it's not adding much and you risk turning someone off so I'd still stick with one.