not sure what hidden means. is that match? what does someone have to do to be hidden?

Well, she just got back to me now. Said we could still meet up tonight, but suggested sometime this weekend instead, so at least it doesn't seem like a total flake.

Oh well, at least I got another date to look forward to tomorrow. Chick is actually meeting me right out front of my work building when I finish work. Have to like it when they make it easy on you to meet up.

Yeah, it is on match. Basically none of the content of her profile is displayed and apparently you don't come up in searches according to the match FAQ.

Yes I have, and the last girl that had her profile hidden had a BF already and was just looking for a date to get her bf jealous, prob a waste of time man

That is very interesting because I used lazers skill testing George or Brad question again and she sided with Brad because he isn't afraid of commitment. Another possible flag of boyfriend issues....

Also could be a fake profile

Doubt it, would be a hell of a fake profile to be messaging me at 8:30 in the morning on a weekday.

Anyway, definitely going to keep the possibility of a boyfriend in mind as things proceed.

Fail of a first date tonight. We had good conversation for about 2 hours over drinks but there was zero physical escalation. I drove her home and reached over to touch her back or shoulder trying to get something going but she jumped out of the car almost immediately. I'll try for another date anyway but my hopes are not high. I feel like I NickMPK'ed this one.

I still think I can get together with the girl who flaked on me Monday though and that Louis CK-Rough Sex girl wants to do something next week too so

Went out with a stunning girl tonight, but 5 minutes in I knew it wasn't going to be a great date. She's cool, I just have absolutely no connection with her. Fortunately, the sushi was good.

Well sorry, but I'm going to try to cheer up this thread. I had a very good first date tonight with the guy I posted part of my text convo with where I said I would only run if he tried to get away. We walked for like 2 hours, ate dinner, went back to my place (everything else was in walking distance of my place, and he parked his car there).

But I had a soccer game to play tonight, so that had to get cut a little short

does that mean you only got it in twice?

gg, gg, and mazel tov, respectively

I met a girl from online out at a bar last night for a 2nd meeting. Had a couple drinks(she paid, she invited), then she followed me back to my place. Hooked up, a very long bj, then it took me what felt like forever to get her panties off. Finally it happens. I have a stack of doms by the bedside and while I'm rubbing my warrior on the outside of her cave, she says "why not inside?" And then boom, I stick it without a moments thought of reaching for a rubber. Mistake #2. Mistake #1 was showing her where I live and know how to hunt me down. Mistake #3 was busting a nut inside her.

Was sweating suicidal fantasies of 18 years of child support this morning. I text her today offering to buy and deliver her the after pill. She responds that she already took it. Hopefully there is still a code between one night standers to tell the truth about these things.

Those pills are around $50 over the counter. I was already playing through scenarios of setting up a date and spiking her drink with one. Is that sick?

abortion contract bro

**** that man.

I generally had a one hour window M-F where I would respond to messages online say 6-7pm or whatever. Little "rules" like this kept me from busting a nut when I had a 7+ on the hook and was excited and also keeps you from being like every other chode out there who bombards a chick with messages.

My ex-gf from a ways back wanted me to help her with her online dating and gave me her account PW and without fail, anytime she started a convo with a dude he would bombard her with messages with virtually no downtime from when she sent one. It reeks of desperation.

Another annoying trait (according to her) they almost all shared was their taking forever to ask for a date.

......but then the night gets salvaged when the girl from the library comes over at 12:30 am. I've never in my life, porn or in person, seen nicer or bigger natural tits. I told her they belong in the Louvre and she was laughing for a long while.

sublime, yes. I sent a bomb message to a 7+ with a good profile and she got back after two days (not sure if she was online in the meantime) and I got back with an A to A+ reply (which asked her out too, only bit I'm slightly unsure of) but way too soon, she hasn't got back since despite being online, it was only yesterday but if she doesn't get back, 90% she would have if I waited even a few hours :/

Hiya,

I'm just getting over a really bitter breakup with my ex and I'm wondering what the best site to use for hookups are. I live in a big urban area (DMV).

Paid/free doesnt really make a difference to me.

Thanks :]

Partygirl, it depends on your reply. But you could wait 5 mins or even a day or so. Its better to not get so wrapped up in timing and try to get into convo flow mode. (It sounds like she is hot enough to get responses immediatly from every guy she talks to.)

what do you guys send to attractive girls with absolutely bland profiles that give you no sense of their personality or anything beyond that they are "laid back and like traveling?"

I don't know if you're overvaluing the importance of timing or I'm undervaluing it but I don't think it makes nearly this much difference. Writing back immediately might not be ideal but waiting several days is even worse. There's a sweet spot in there somewhere but it will vary so much based on the girl and even random events going on in the girl's life that you can't try to find it. I have the OKC app on my phone so dating messages are hardly any different from text messages for me and I treat them similarly. Respond back within a few mins if I'm free and feeling like talking or several hours if I'm not.

Haven't had to send out too many messages recently, but the ones I did I simply made a general comment followed by lazer's skill testing question of Brad Pitt or George Clooney and why...

Has worked everytime, but once. They all loved the question too.

What's lazers skill question

What do you guys do about girls who reply, but say they're hesitant about meeting up in person? In my mind, I'm always thinking, "then wtf are you doing on this site and replying to me for?" Do you have some kind of line to push them towards feeling more comfortable about it?

Some girls just like the attention. I don't bother with those, but if you want to try to bring them around, pushing them into anything is probably the worst move.