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Originally Posted by Metod Tinuviel
If this is true then it will balance itself out. The below average girls will leave the hookup apps after a certain point in time and move to more traditional dating methods, leading to more success for the below average guys. If there are 10x as many guys on the apps, that means all the girls have gone somewhere else.
Also, there are many guys who have little success in real life who have success on dating apps. Ie if a guy is shy but good looking the online environment will give him more success. An average looking guy who is charming is going to have more success at bars and clubs. And by good looking I don't mean a roided up fitness influencer but someone who does some moderate exercise a few times a week and is not overweight.
I do agree with you. I do think it will balance out OVER TIME.
I am single and date a lot. Covid slowed that down but I still got out quite a bit. Unlike many guys I have never been interested in a high body count, so while I will go out with a gal, I don't try to progress it to the bedroom or beyond that night if I am not genuinely interested. For me their is a progression and that is many dates, to see if we enjoy one another, and once that seems mutual, it can and does progress to the physical, "dating" and a "Relationship". But if I don't see that path, I pull back whereas i know a lot of guys who still try to sleep with the gal anyway (even playing up interest) to then just move on after. That has never been my thing.
And from my anecdotal experience and talking to my guy friends who also back in the dating pool, the thing we hear over and over from the gals we end up out with is the exact complaint these Apps have identified in their data which is women complain that 'these Apps are just for hookups and not for meeting someone interested in a relationship'. So many of the gals i have been out with seem surprised that we are out and I am not just trying to 'close' them into sleeping with them.
I consider that a 'tell' on how they are using the Apps, purposely or not. That they have been chasing that top percentage within the top 20% of males who that is all they want.
But I can also see how many of these women are tiring of that aspect and who may use the Apps for casual sex, when that is what they desire, especially to get a better looking guy, but are starting to look elsewhere for 'relationship'.
I think the dating Apps are right on top of that emerging trend as now the hottest new Apps are the ones that are arranging face to face meetings and old school engagement.