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08-25-2024 , 04:32 AM
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Originally Posted by checkraisdraw
I don’t follow
That being against biological men participating in women sports isn't "anti trans" nor is opposing "trans care" in minors, opposing laws that force people to use made up pronouns isn't anti trans and so on.

And it isn't pro trans to support those laws.

The request of trans activists don't represent trans people in any way or form.

There are trans people who oppose puberty blockers and so on and on.

It's an obscene , bad faith framing to claims that opposing specific policies is being "anti trans", same as if you want the military to quell BLM riots you aren't anti black and so on.

The left narrative is that you against x, if a group of radicals start claiming they are pro x and you oppose anything that group wants.

It's a disgusting narrative that I fully oppose.

Unless you ask for specific legal discriminations of trans people, you aren't anti trans.
08-25-2024 , 06:05 AM
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Originally Posted by Luciom
That being against biological men participating in women sports isn't "anti trans" nor is opposing "trans care" in minors, opposing laws that force people to use made up pronouns isn't anti trans and so on.

And it isn't pro trans to support those laws.

The request of trans activists don't represent trans people in any way or form.

There are trans people who oppose puberty blockers and so on and on.

It's an obscene , bad faith framing to claims that opposing specific policies is being "anti trans", same as if you want the military to quell BLM riots you aren't anti black and so on.

The left narrative is that you against x, if a group of radicals start claiming they are pro x and you oppose anything that group wants.

It's a disgusting narrative that I fully oppose.

Unless you ask for specific legal discriminations of trans people, you aren't anti trans.
Integrating trans people into common life is pro-trans. Trying to find special carve outs in the law to demean or dehumanize them is the antithesis of being pro-trans.

We probably have fundamental disagreements on freedom of association though.

Besides I think regardless of any of what you just mentioned, you specifically talk about trans procedures makes it clear you at least have some disgust about what they do to transform their bodies, unless I am misinterpreting. That’s why I said elsewhere in this thread we have to start with fundamental principles first before I see if we are saying the same things in our applied ethic.

I might be saying trans women shouldn’t compete in women’s sports because I think they have a competitive advantage having gone through male puberty. You might be saying it because you think they should categorically never be treated as women for any reason, they should always be treated as men and referred to as such. Those are wildly different reasons for carrying the same position.

That’s why it’s not necessarily going to be useful for you to bring up the most extreme stuff in every conversation on this issue, because even when we whittle the contention down to the most passing, most ethically transitioned trans person, that went trans after 18 and only uses unisex or male restrooms and changing rooms, never competed in a woman’s sport or took any DEI trans hire, the “concerns” will still be there. The mocking, harassment, and dehumanization will still be there. That’s what I object to strongly from the anti-trans crowd and think they are delusional to say it’s the extreme left activists that are the only problem. They make themselves much worse than the alternative with their cruel attacks and harassment.

I’m not saying that to be inflammatory, I truly believe that people like Crowder and Matt Walsh have made people want to support more left wing positions due to how poorly they represent their supposedly principled concerns. To me their real motivation is to turn it into a wedge issue to fuel a culture war, raising to prominence what is a small portion of the population.

But yes, it is never a bad time to step back and make sure we are evaluating what makes sense and what is good public policy.
08-25-2024 , 06:29 AM
Explain what do you mean with "special carve outs in the law to demean or dehumanize them".

Trans people can go to public bathrooms , locker rooms, prison and play sport in all western country.

It's not being anti-trans to treat them as their biological sex though. A man who lives as a woman isn't banned from competitive sports anywhere in the west, he just has to play with men.

They are already integrated, there is no activity which is banned for them, after the only one i can think of got removed (joining the military).

There is no dehumanization or demeaning in the denial of affirming that gender identity trumps biological sex. T

hinking biological sex trumps gender identity for all considerations about sex-based segregation isn't anti-trans, it's just pro-biology. The reason we segregate on the basis of sex for several things is based on biology, so gender identity can change, and it never matters in the slightest for the purpose of sex segregation.

Some form of body modification might change things though, for example i am personally ok with men who had bottom surgery being put in women prison, because the "can get other inmates pregnant, often without their consent" problem (which is the main reason we segregate prisons on the basis of sex) doesn't exist anymore.

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I can have disgust with people putting pineapple on pizza , this doesn't mean i want laws to forbid them to do so, or that i am "anti pineapple".

I am anti pineapple only if i ask to use the power of the state to punish people who put pineapple on pizza. It's not like you either chant "pineapple on pizza is the best thing ever", or you are "anti-pine" ok?

I don't like mutilation of healthy organs in general , which doesn't mean i am "anti trans" (also because many trans people never do bottom surgery). I also dislike heavy cosmetic surgery in general, for non trans people as well, for aestethical reasons. I find it deeply disturbing to watch at many times. Still a matter of personal freedom for me, for adults (but i don't want taxpayers to pay anything).

I also deeply dislike crossdressing for aesthetical reasons as well, again that doesn't mean i am in favour of laws that ban crossdressing.

I mean the left approach that goes with "if you dislike something you are anti it" is literally insane. You can dislike some asian food without being a racist, for normal people.

Then there is the general idea of "can the state force morality upon citizens and residents" and my answer is unequivocally no for all morals, except those regarding security of the state (which is one of the few reasons why the state exists in the first place).

So if people in their private lives "mock harass and dehumanize" , so be it. It's never a matter for the state, or it shouldn't be at all. Pushing inclusion as state moral doctrine is wrong, as it is to push ANY state moral doctrine in general, except for state security reasons.
08-25-2024 , 06:33 AM
And then there is the question of benefits for women, in general: if we ever want to give women any advantange whatsover in any avenue of life, THEN being legally considerd a woman simply can't be based uniquely on self identification.

That's very basic logic, you can't have a special class with benefits which anyone can join at any time no question asked.

So yes the state should never treat trans people as their self-identified gender identity would imply for any legal consideration . It can be possible to have objective evaluations that allow a person to become legally a woman for legal considerations, but it can never be sufficient to base it on self identification.

The spanish law that allows for that is simply absurd, an horrific leftist disaster, that already diminishes women rights at the present time.

And this is not being "anti trans", a person can be trans freely, but there is absolutely no right to be recognized by the state or third parties as what you feel you are, in general, and trans people don't deserve any special treatment.
08-25-2024 , 12:30 PM
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Originally Posted by checkraisdraw
I don’t follow
he's saying that you can like music and be a huge advocate of music but still think limp bizkit is a terrible band - they are not mutually exclusive

i easily have more friends and positive social interactions with trans individuals than most of the thread who call me a transphobe, twice at bars i came to the physical defense of one

i just don't think children should be transitioning, that bad actors will and have exploited locker rooms/prisons/etc, and that they should not be competing in women's sports

none of those are very controversial at all imo, but there are plenty in this thread who think of me as a terrible person because of that because they've lost all grip on reality and are in a cult
08-25-2024 , 12:54 PM
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Originally Posted by checkraisdraw
Integrating trans people into common life is pro-trans. Trying to find special carve outs in the law to demean or dehumanize them is the antithesis of being pro-trans.

We probably have fundamental disagreements on freedom of association though.

Besides I think regardless of any of what you just mentioned, you specifically talk about trans procedures makes it clear you at least have some disgust about what they do to transform their bodies, unless I am misinterpreting. That’s why I said elsewhere in this thread we have to start with fundamental principles first before I see if we are saying the same things in our applied ethic.

I might be saying trans women shouldn’t compete in women’s sports because I think they have a competitive advantage having gone through male puberty. You might be saying it because you think they should categorically never be treated as women for any reason, they should always be treated as men and referred to as such. Those are wildly different reasons for carrying the same position.

That’s why it’s not necessarily going to be useful for you to bring up the most extreme stuff in every conversation on this issue, because even when we whittle the contention down to the most passing, most ethically transitioned trans person, that went trans after 18 and only uses unisex or male restrooms and changing rooms, never competed in a woman’s sport or took any DEI trans hire, the “concerns” will still be there. The mocking, harassment, and dehumanization will still be there. That’s what I object to strongly from the anti-trans crowd and think they are delusional to say it’s the extreme left activists that are the only problem. They make themselves much worse than the alternative with their cruel attacks and harassment.

I’m not saying that to be inflammatory, I truly believe that people like Crowder and Matt Walsh have made people want to support more left wing positions due to how poorly they represent their supposedly principled concerns. To me their real motivation is to turn it into a wedge issue to fuel a culture war, raising to prominence what is a small portion of the population.

But yes, it is never a bad time to step back and make sure we are evaluating what makes sense and what is good public policy.
Do you think the trans identity is a net positive, negative, or neutral when considering the trans identifying individuals, their families, and society in general?

This is an open question to everyone participating in this thread.
08-25-2024 , 12:58 PM
A related question: should airlines be forced to redesign their airplanes to accommodate the most obese people in society?
08-25-2024 , 01:02 PM
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Originally Posted by craig1120
A related question: should airlines be forced to redesign their airplanes to accommodate the most obese people in society?
should airlines be legally mandated to rebuild planes to accomodate elephants, if people start using them as Emotional Supporting Animals ?
08-25-2024 , 01:04 PM
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Originally Posted by craig1120
Do you think the trans identity is a net positive, negative, or neutral when considering the trans identifying individuals, their families, and society in general?

This is an open question to everyone participating in this thread.
I don't think the question makes sense. People simply are certain ways. Some people are gay. Some people are argumentative. Some people are tall. Some people are trans. This is just something we can accept without value judgement. Although I do think in general diversity within a society is a good thing.
08-25-2024 , 01:17 PM
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Originally Posted by uke_master
I don't think the question makes sense. People simply are certain ways. Some people are gay. Some people are argumentative. Some people are tall. Some people are trans. This is just something we can accept without value judgement. Although I do think in general diversity within a society is a good thing.
The pro trans side won’t consider it because they begin with the assumption the trans identity is the self. This is a false assumption. Stop doing this.
08-25-2024 , 01:51 PM
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Originally Posted by craig1120
Do you think the trans identity is a net positive, negative, or neutral when considering the trans identifying individuals, their families, and society in general?

This is an open question to everyone participating in this thread.
it depends upon how it's weaponized

when violent rapists are allowed to pick which gendered prison they will be incarcerated within and government documents are all rewritten to say "people with the capacity to get pregnant" then it's obviously a net negative

when it's people transitioning and being their true selves without demanding the entire world change dramatically because they are insecure about it, then it's a net positive
08-25-2024 , 01:53 PM
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Originally Posted by craig1120
The pro trans side won’t consider it because they begin with the assumption the trans identity is the self. This is a false assumption. Stop doing this.
As a society, we have put off taking the self seriously. It isn’t just the trans identity which wedges itself between the self and consciousness. The white supremacist has the self supplanted with racial identity. The radical feminist has the self supplanted with her gender identity. I have lost my self at times during my life. It’s very common.

The costs of the trans identity are particularly high, however. I hope it forces us to deal with the question of the self at scale.
08-25-2024 , 01:56 PM
imagine if there was a movement by gay men to demand every single mention of procreation in government documents was altered to "procreation, adoption, or employment of surrogates" then everyone would correctly roll their eyes at how stupid that was, how needless it would be to say that

but then you had the gay community up in arms demanding that it was stated as such, otherwise people are "denying the existence of gays" which is just poppy cock


it's amazing, josh hawley is a complete scumbag who i loathe, but this nutjob makes him look reasonable, that's how insane she is, she makes josh hawley seem reasonable
08-25-2024 , 02:03 PM
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Originally Posted by craig1120
The pro trans side won’t consider it because they begin with the assumption the trans identity is the self. This is a false assumption. Stop doing this.
I don't think "trans identity is the self" is even a meaningful thing to say, let alone a faithful characterization of my assumptions.

Let me put it this way. I'm not trans. I've listened to a lot of trans people, but I don't really have an authentic, personal understanding of what that would feel like. However, I don't think it matters. What is clear is that a small minority of humans seems to express an identity distinct from their biological sex. I think that we can accept that this is just a part of human diversity - rather like how some people are gay and some are not - without having to make a bunch of value judgements and assumptions about it.
08-25-2024 , 02:23 PM
or more so, if we stopped referring to colors to avoid denying the existence of color blind people

there are many shades and hues which are indistinguishable to me, i'm literally unable to see them and they instead appear as a slightly different color

for me, this chart has a much choppier gradient than it does for people with normal vision because i'm unable to see a lot of the transitions here so instead of a smooth deviation from one shade or hue to the next, you have entire blocks in here that are identical



this often brings inconvenience to my life, many things are color coded, there's a lot of advanced political maps and charts i'm unable to read properly, there's a lot of games where i require the assistance of others - for example, i'm unable to play trivial pursuit without assistance of others because many of those colors are identical to me


lots of video games i can't see the difference between various sides and factions unless they have a color blind mode available in the settings

importantly, i can't tell the difference between a flashing yellow traffic light and a flashing red traffic light - something that could have mortal consequences for not just me but others on the road as well - whenever i hit a new and unfamiliar one and there's no cars in front of me that show me which it is through how they react to it, i simply am forced to guess and defer to treating it as a flashing red (but this too is dangerous if it's not and there are cars behind me)

yet despite that 1 in 12 men are colorblind in america (most don't even know, they just think they are bad with colors the same way some are bad with numbers and try to hide it out of fear of looking stupid - nearly everyone i know who is color blind (myself included) found out by accident as an adult when they came across a color blind test randomly out in the wild) - just watch how whenever there's a beautiful sunset or rainbow or the famous dress - you tell yourself "oh colors are subjective" instead of "oh i must be colorblind" because the preconceived notion people have of being colorblind is that you see things in black and white - it's actually the most common thing people ask me "so you see things in black and white" which is one of many reasons why i almost never bring up that i'm colorblind because you'll always have to answer stupid questions about it



but i'm not going to demand that the government stops referring to colors because by doing so they are denying my existence, it would be nice if we did away with flashing yellow/red but one can only dream
08-25-2024 , 02:31 PM
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Originally Posted by uke_master
I don't think "trans identity is the self" is even a meaningful thing to say, let alone a faithful characterization of my assumptions.

Let me put it this way. I'm not trans. I've listened to a lot of trans people, but I don't really have an authentic, personal understanding of what that would feel like. However, I don't think it matters. What is clear is that a small minority of humans seems to express an identity distinct from their biological sex. I think that we can accept that this is just a part of human diversity - rather like how some people are gay and some are not - without having to make a bunch of value judgements and assumptions about it.
ye and it ends there though, like with gays or people with red hair.

they are different, no one owes them anything at all in any aspect of life because they are different, done, the end, any request to change anything in society to "accomodate" them is to be rejected, except "let us do the same you let do to every one else" which ofc has to be the law.
08-25-2024 , 02:35 PM
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Originally Posted by checkraisdraw
I might be saying trans women shouldn’t compete in women’s sports because I think they have a competitive advantage having gone through male puberty. You might be saying it because you think they should categorically never be treated as women for any reason, they should always be treated as men and referred to as such. Those are wildly different reasons for carrying the same position.
No, I think you're picking a fight in an empty room. People who question the participation of athletes who have gone through male puberty in women's sports pretty much all do so for the same obvious reasons.

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I’m not saying that to be inflammatory, I truly believe that people like Crowder and Matt Walsh have made people want to support more left wing positions due to how poorly they represent their supposedly principled concerns. To me their real motivation is to turn it into a wedge issue to fuel a culture war, raising to prominence what is a small portion of the population.
You are in fact clearly saying that to be inflammatory and to seek out a wedge issue in a parochial culture war. The figures you mention have no significance outside of American domestic politics, whereas the issue, such as it is, is global.
08-25-2024 , 02:50 PM
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Originally Posted by uke_master
I don't think "trans identity is the self" is even a meaningful thing to say, let alone a faithful characterization of my assumptions.

Let me put it this way. I'm not trans. I've listened to a lot of trans people, but I don't really have an authentic, personal understanding of what that would feel like. However, I don't think it matters. What is clear is that a small minority of humans seems to express an identity distinct from their biological sex. I think that we can accept that this is just a part of human diversity - rather like how some people are gay and some are not - without having to make a bunch of value judgements and assumptions about it.
This seems, to me, to be a roundabout way of saying, “I don’t think it’s important or meaningful to acknowledge or care about the self at all,” which is completely naive and wrong. First of all, the self is ultimately what unites us when social, group identities don’t.
08-25-2024 , 02:55 PM
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Originally Posted by 57 On Red
No, I think you're picking a fight in an empty room. People who question the participation of athletes who have gone through male puberty in women's sports pretty much all do so for the same obvious reasons.
this, there's an insane amount of bad faith on the other side where they can agree on something fundamentally but still hate those they agree with because they assume their position comes from malice rather than the same logical reasons they are against it
08-25-2024 , 02:59 PM
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Originally Posted by rickroll
i'm sure that chart above is supposed to be a smooth gradient all around

i still see a gradient, but there's still very distinct and obvious chunks that are basically monotone to me and it's not in a smooth recursive pattern as it should be

it's like this where stuff within each of those blocks is basically all the same to me


edit - forgot top right, that sliver of red should be a separate block
08-25-2024 , 03:03 PM
Rick you have tritanomaly which is what my son has, and it's far more rare than the much more common daltonism (red-green color blindness).
08-25-2024 , 03:13 PM
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Originally Posted by Luciom
Explain what do you mean with "special carve outs in the law to demean or dehumanize them".

Trans people can go to public bathrooms , locker rooms, prison and play sport in all western country.

It's not being anti-trans to treat them as their biological sex though. A man who lives as a woman isn't banned from competitive sports anywhere in the west, he just has to play with men.

They are already integrated, there is no activity which is banned for them, after the only one i can think of got removed (joining the military).
I'm not arguing that such carveouts exist, I'm arguing that people are trying to find/create them. I disagree that forcing fully medically/socially transitioned trans women to use the men's restroom, changing rooms, etc is going to be positive overall. Some people are stealth and will be out of place using the men's room. I know that people like to argue "oh if you feel unsafe in the men's room imagine how we feel having you in our room!" But I think there is a sliding scale of transition. At the very least, if you're going to ban them using the women's restroom there should be unisex restrooms for them to use so that they don't have to feel embarrassed or out themselves.

Again we already agree on sports so I don't know why you are bringing it up again. In any sport that has any kind of stakes attached (college and professional) I think it's generally fine to ban them. But I did bring this up that the data is not so clear that a fully transitioned trans woman has a competitive advantage in sports, I just think that the backlash is so high that strategically it's best to not push that.

Let me reiterate though that the reason I'm saying that people are trying to find carveouts and ways to dehumanize them is that even if we had the perfect example of a trans person who fully socially and medically transitioned after the age of 18 and is not using women only spaces, etc, there would still be people trying to find ways of insulting them, dehumanizing them, moralizing against them. It's a very naive idea that trans people would be left alone if only society would stop being so extreme about giving them rights.


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There is no dehumanization or demeaning in the denial of affirming that gender identity trumps biological sex. Thinking biological sex trumps gender identity for all considerations about sex-based segregation isn't anti-trans, it's just pro-biology. The reason we segregate on the basis of sex for several things is based on biology, so gender identity can change, and it never matters in the slightest for the purpose of sex segregation.
I have a thought experiment we could go down on this, because I actually think there is some gradient of transitioning where for all intents and purposes the gender identity becomes more important than the underlying sex. So I'm not sure that logically this position as a hard and fast rule can ever be justified except as a way of trying to undermine their identity. Which is fine but I actually think if you test this you'll quickly bottom out at it not making much sense.

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Some form of body modification might change things though, for example i am personally ok with men who had bottom surgery being put in women prison, because the "can get other inmates pregnant, often without their consent" problem (which is the main reason we segregate prisons on the basis of sex) doesn't exist anymore.
Seems reasonable.

I can have disgust with people putting pineapple on pizza , this doesn't mean i want laws to forbid them to do so, or that i am "anti pineapple".

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I am anti pineapple only if i ask to use the power of the state to punish people who put pineapple on pizza. It's not like you either chant "pineapple on pizza is the best thing ever", or you are "anti-pine" ok?

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I also deeply dislike crossdressing for aesthetical reasons as well, again that doesn't mean i am in favour of laws that ban crossdressing.

I mean the left approach that goes with "if you dislike something you are anti it" is literally insane. You can dislike some asian food without being a racist, for normal people.
I know you probably don't like this, but I consider some of what you said to be category errors. Disagreeing with someone for aesthetic or gastronomic objections is not the same as objecting to the morality of performing a certain action. While you might not be attacking the morality of being trans, there are plenty of people who do take that position. So I don't think in general these conversations boil down to aesthetic or gastronomic disagreements, but actually moral disagreements.

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I don't like mutilation of healthy organs in general , which doesn't mean i am "anti trans" (also because many trans people never do bottom surgery). I also dislike heavy cosmetic surgery in general, for non trans people as well, for aestethical reasons. I find it deeply disturbing to watch at many times. Still a matter of personal freedom for me, for adults (but i don't want taxpayers to pay anything).
Do you see a contradiction in placing contingencies on integration on bottom surgery while simultaneously advocating against bottom surgery? Bottom surgery is used to better integrate trans people into society and alleviate gender dysphoria.

I'm not sure specifically what you're referring to not wanting taxpayers to cover, but generally Medicare (like insurance companies) will cover procedures if a doctor deems it medically necessary (upon approval of the local authorities or on the insurance company). If it's Medicare, I can see your interests in wanting to stop it since you might partially be funding it (though I disagree), but if it's an insurance company that's a completely free association so I'm guessing the objection isn't there?

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Then there is the general idea of "can the state force morality upon citizens and residents" and my answer is unequivocally no for all morals, except those regarding security of the state (which is one of the few reasons why the state exists in the first place).

So if people in their private lives "mock harass and dehumanize" , so be it. It's never a matter for the state, or it shouldn't be at all. Pushing inclusion as state moral doctrine is wrong, as it is to push ANY state moral doctrine in general, except for state security reasons.
Yeah, this is where I suspect the disagreement would come in. I generally agree with the civil rights act (or other things like the ADA) which enforce that people not be discriminated against due to certain protected classes. If it's your own personal opinion about trans people, sure you can have that, but once it comes to treating them as customers or employees there has to be reasonable steps taken to ensure a lack of discrimination. How and what that looks like is a matter for the courts, states, and congress to decide. In general this law has worked really well for us, even if at times some corrections are needed.

You don't get to make use of the vast resources and economy of the United States without having some kind of social responsibility towards cohesion.

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Originally Posted by Luciom
And then there is the question of benefits for women, in general: if we ever want to give women any advantange whatsover in any avenue of life, THEN being legally considerd a woman simply can't be based uniquely on self identification.

That's very basic logic, you can't have a special class with benefits which anyone can join at any time no question asked.

So yes the state should never treat trans people as their self-identified gender identity would imply for any legal consideration . It can be possible to have objective evaluations that allow a person to become legally a woman for legal considerations, but it can never be sufficient to base it on self identification.
Good thing I've reiterated many times I don't believe in gender self-id.

Also isn't the whole "special benefit to women" thing kind of go against the above about freedom of association? Also goes against your affirmative action thing? Or are you saying if we are going to regulate those things then we need to do as above?


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Originally Posted by rickroll
he's saying that you can like music and be a huge advocate of music but still think limp bizkit is a terrible band - they are not mutually exclusive

i easily have more friends and positive social interactions with trans individuals than most of the thread who call me a transphobe, twice at bars i came to the physical defense of one

i just don't think children should be transitioning, that bad actors will and have exploited locker rooms/prisons/etc, and that they should not be competing in women's sports

none of those are very controversial at all imo, but there are plenty in this thread who think of me as a terrible person because of that because they've lost all grip on reality and are in a cult
I would have to know how you cache out the word "children" here. As I have stated many times in this thread, I don't think that lumping in people under 14 with high school age teens is a helpful way of looking at this issue. That's not to say I'm against all forms of social transition for children, or if puberty blockers were found to be safe and reversible, but I do think we need to make sure we're having the right conversations.

And yeah like I said, I can believe that perhaps only certain issues have come up in this thread so you just seem to always fall on the side of the issue that would make you look anti-trans.

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Originally Posted by craig1120
Do you think the trans identity is a net positive, negative, or neutral when considering the trans identifying individuals, their families, and society in general?

This is an open question to everyone participating in this thread.
All things being equal, I think most trans people that aren't lying to themselves would say they would rather not feel the incongruence with their physical body. If that wasn't the case, why would they transition? So for them given the issues they have, it would appear that the identity hurts them. At the same time, I think that in general it's a neutral thing and we should try to treat it as such. Don't do the cringe lefty thing of "omg stunning and brave" and don't do the cringe righty thing of "they are literally disgusting liars that should just minecraft themselves". The ideal is that we treat it like a very neutral thing, or even that they can go stealth and have their trans identity slowly disappear from how they conduct themselves in life.
08-25-2024 , 03:13 PM
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Originally Posted by craig1120
This seems, to me, to be a roundabout way of saying, “I don’t think it’s important or meaningful to acknowledge or care about the self at all,” which is completely naive and wrong. First of all, the self is ultimately what unites us when social, group identities don’t.
I again don't really know what you mean about "the self". My point seems like a pretty benign observation about human behaviour. It feels like you are responding dismissively with some pseudo-philosophy ~The Self~ stuff. What precisely do you mean and why do you think I don't care about it?
08-25-2024 , 03:37 PM
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Originally Posted by uke_master
I again don't really know what you mean about "the self". My point seems like a pretty benign observation about human behaviour. It feels like you are responding dismissively with some pseudo-philosophy ~The Self~ stuff. What precisely do you mean and why do you think I don't care about it?
When someone says they felt self conscious, do you immediately stop them, ask them what they mean, and accuse them of pseudo philosophy?

Have you never experienced self consciousness or self awareness before? This is a foreign experience to you? I highly doubt this.
08-25-2024 , 03:45 PM
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Originally Posted by checkraisdraw
I would have to know how you cache out the word "children" here. As I have stated many times in this thread, I don't think that lumping in people under 14 with high school age teens is a helpful way of looking at this issue. That's not to say I'm against all forms of social transition for children, or if puberty blockers were found to be safe and reversible, but I do think we need to make sure we're having the right conversations.
let's put aside the definition of child


i frankly do not think anyone under the age of 21 should be allowed to undergo puberty blockers, hormone treatments, or surgery with the end goal of transitioning

i'd be willing to compromis at 18 but again that's still too young

ideally the age would be 25 as others have mentioned as that's the age by which your brain is fully formed but alas even i'll concede that's taking it a bit too far and needlessly forcing someone to live in a manner not of their choosing for an addition 4-7 years where the delay is unlikely to have any major impact on discovering their true self


ie mean up until about 19 or 20 i still entertained the possibility that i could be a latent homosexual, not because i ever found men attractive (they aren't dicks are gross) but that i simply wasn't into women very much compared to my peers and there were a lot of women who my friends all found attractive which i didn't find attractive in the slightest

at the time, my lack of interest in women made me seriously question whether or not i was gay, all this despite not being attracted to men in the slightest and the thought of putting that to the test by experimenting with a gay man was a repulsive thought to me (exponentially more than making out with one of the girls my friends all liked but i didn't)- but in my ignorance of youth, that still seemed like a general possibility that perhaps i was just repressing those feelings

i also aged at a delayed rate compared to my peers, i could basically not grow any facial hair in college, could barely muster a thin chin strap as a senior, but now i'm one of the hairest individuals out there who if i don't shave for 3 weeks will have a full on bin laden beard going on

i was also one of the smaller kids as a freshman in highschool and hit my growth spurt very late, going from 5'4" to 6' and then growing a further 2 inches while in college

i did have an undescended testicle which required surgery when i was a kid, perhaps that's the reason for the late jumpstart and total disinterest in women while i was younger - but it was absolutely a very confusing time in my life where I do not question for one second that if i had bad influences in my life imploring me to consider that i was perhaps this or that then i may have wrongly pursued those paths as I was already somewhat doing that on my own without any prompting to begin with

this personal experience biases me on my position without a doubt, but that doesn't mean that children are not susceptible to questioning who they are even when the nature of the questioning was deeply incorrect

      
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