*******Official December "Its a present" chat thread******
12-22-2008
, 07:27 PM
12-22-2008
, 07:57 PM
To each her own, but any girl who EXPECTED me to pay some ridiculous sum for a ring would give me pause.
Might not but probably will since most people do get married and some point. There are actually studies that show that married MEN live longer than unmarried. Interestingly enough, I have never seen the same study results in reverse.
No, you aren't obligated. I actually did not accept my ex-'s request to be FB buddies. Some things just aren't a good idea and having the foresight to head them off at ground zero is prudent IMO.
BTW...if you actually click to "ignore" a request is the other person notified?
Sorry if it sounded like I was being critical. Wasn't actually. Believe we all walk our owns paths in life.
I totally agree about the rings FWIW. Though the girl would definitely have to be onboard for not getting a ring at all. (These girls do actually exist as engagement rings really can be a bit cumbersome in everyday life.) In general though, you can get a lovely ring for FAR less than what the industry std would suggest.
LOL, your last sentence reminds me of how I feel about boob jobs in America!
Very true that many girls have rather romanticized ideas about every aspect of engagment/marriage.
Geez, I hope this isn't true because is tacky as all can be, but it does at least have a happy ending. LOL
Might not but probably will since most people do get married and some point. There are actually studies that show that married MEN live longer than unmarried. Interestingly enough, I have never seen the same study results in reverse.
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so my ex g/f from high school tried to add me to facebook today
am i obligated to accept?
quick history;
this was about 10yrs ago, she was my first srs g/f and first to give me teh sexytimes. we dated for like 3yrs on and off until i went to university and dummped her and we havnt talked since. what good can possibly come from adding her??
am i obligated to accept?
quick history;
this was about 10yrs ago, she was my first srs g/f and first to give me teh sexytimes. we dated for like 3yrs on and off until i went to university and dummped her and we havnt talked since. what good can possibly come from adding her??
BTW...if you actually click to "ignore" a request is the other person notified?
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Untrue. I'm just stating facts. I love my girlfriend and I plan on marrying her someday but that doesn't change the fact that this whole obsession with rings hasn't even been around for more than 100 years.
I think its ridiculous that the diamond industry has brainwashed us into equating something as meaningful as wanting to spend the rest of your life with someone, with something as petty and materialistic as spending a $hitload of money on buying a shiny rock. They just make up this 2-3 months figure and on top of that they are so greedy that they will often basically treat their starving African laborers as slaves.
That said, I will end up buying a ring just like everyone else bc it is so ubiquitous that no matter how founded my objections to the idea are, I would look like too much of a douchebag trying to propose w/o a ring.
They told us to do it and enough of us did it that it is now necessary, its a classic self-fulfilling prophesy fueled by the ignorance of the masses and their proclivity to do whatever they are told.
I think its ridiculous that the diamond industry has brainwashed us into equating something as meaningful as wanting to spend the rest of your life with someone, with something as petty and materialistic as spending a $hitload of money on buying a shiny rock. They just make up this 2-3 months figure and on top of that they are so greedy that they will often basically treat their starving African laborers as slaves.
That said, I will end up buying a ring just like everyone else bc it is so ubiquitous that no matter how founded my objections to the idea are, I would look like too much of a douchebag trying to propose w/o a ring.
They told us to do it and enough of us did it that it is now necessary, its a classic self-fulfilling prophesy fueled by the ignorance of the masses and their proclivity to do whatever they are told.
I totally agree about the rings FWIW. Though the girl would definitely have to be onboard for not getting a ring at all. (These girls do actually exist as engagement rings really can be a bit cumbersome in everyday life.) In general though, you can get a lovely ring for FAR less than what the industry std would suggest.
LOL, your last sentence reminds me of how I feel about boob jobs in America!
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I think the exact same thing, there isn't really much logic to buying a rock. I also came to the same conclusion that we pretty much have to buy a ring now, even if we think it's stupid, because if we don't we look like *******s. Also girls want what other girls have, and they also appreciate the thought of a ring, spending a large sum of money for them.
Not every girl, or imo most girls, could think the process through and get over the buy an expensive ass shiny rock thing. Girls have dreamed about that specific moment in their lives many times, and I'm fairly certain 99% of the time you have a rock. On the flip side, not everything has to have an applicable use, and it's more the symbolism of your love for her that she appreciates. And if it's supposed to be one of the happiest days of her life, and she's been dreaming about it forever...might as well not ruin it for her. Still, it's ******ed and we should organize a 2p2 march about this ish.
Not every girl, or imo most girls, could think the process through and get over the buy an expensive ass shiny rock thing. Girls have dreamed about that specific moment in their lives many times, and I'm fairly certain 99% of the time you have a rock. On the flip side, not everything has to have an applicable use, and it's more the symbolism of your love for her that she appreciates. And if it's supposed to be one of the happiest days of her life, and she's been dreaming about it forever...might as well not ruin it for her. Still, it's ******ed and we should organize a 2p2 march about this ish.
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It's also kind of a beat if you buy your girl a really nice ring. She will go to her friends/randoms she knows and they will be all like "omg omg that is sooooo nice how much was it?" She'll say like 30k or something and all the girls will go nuts about how great you are etc and you will look super baller but it won't matter because you're getting married and having a bunch of chicks thinking you're a massive baller doesn't really matter anymore.
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