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Originally Posted by Montecore
Soulman,
None of this invalidates anything I said; that you said that you don't want to get married because you're more secular and you think it's a dumb tradition for old religious people is, again, fine. My experience is that most people that **** all over marriage and/or committed LTRs come from family units where such things weren't successful.
In the US, getting married for some of the benefits someone mentioned earlier (maybe Holliday?) regarding medical power of attorney and/or tax advantages and other reasons are probably the main practical reasons that it occurs (outside of previously mentioned religious, traditional, and cultural reasons). If there were some decent option in the States whereby couples could get a civil union in lieu of marriage that offered essentially the same legal benefits and protections (a cursory googling indicates that such an option is not currently available here), then maybe that would catch on, but, given you can get married by a judge in a courthouse for, in most cases, under $100, I don't really see the point other than semantics.
Sure, I get all the practical stuff.
My original comment was more towards USAnians fixating on before and after marriage, even for couples who have been in LTRs for well, a long time. Like OH NOW WE'RE REALLY SERIOUS, the last five years was just playing house!! Which, in some regard is true, because of the above stuff...but it's a big disconnect for many Euros. I suspect the bolded plays a bigger part than the practical/legal stuff there.
FTR I don't want to get married because the institution in itself, even devoid of religious context, is meaningless to me. But it's not a very strongly held conviction so I'll prob get married since it matters to my gf (which sounds weird to call someone I have a wife with, but hey, English language and all). Would have to insist on the non-religious variant though.
I agree that many people ****ting on LTRs/marriage prob come from a less than fortunate family situation.