Situation with Canadian girl is played out. Was told last weekend by her friend that she thought I was, "looking for something serious." Which is super lol to me cause we are abroad and I didn't act like that at all, oh well.

Talent show was super dope, killed my spoken word performance. Hooked up with a girl from school that night at the club but don't think there is much there, just a one time thing.

Slept with G again last night. Was very drunk so had a bit of trouble getting hard at first, but once it got going was all good. She started speaking French while having sex which was funny, she didn't even realize it the next day when I told her haha.

Going to Paris this weekend for Odesza, can't ****ing wait! Going to roll for it. Was told not to have sex while rolling because it'll make the non rolling sexual experiences worse, anyone have any experience/advice with this?

I've heard that before and it's BS. Sex while rolling is incredible, but normal sex is still great afterwards. Should be a mute point anyway because if you're rolling and have an opportunity to get laid there is 0% chance anyone is turning it down.

Yesterday.

her: seriously are we even still friends?

me: seriously

her: okay when can we hang out?

me: [i tell her about this group thing that's happening tonight, but i know most of the guys aren't going so it probably wont even happen]

her: ok well tell me when you decide for sure if you're going

no response from me

Today

her: okay then

me: doesn't sound like people are going. probably just gonna chill.

her: you should come over to my place

haven't responded yet

This girl is crazy. Just gonna drag her along I think. She was a bitch to me for 2 years and doesn't deserve any of my time.

This girl is reallllllll bad at taking hints god damn.

Going to chicago next weekend, staying near millenium park. What bars should i hit up? Where should i eat? Obviously would prefer to walk

It's the start of baseball season. Unfortunately cubs are away, but white sox at home. Find some cool bars where people watching the game and getting into it.

Mp is in the business district, so nothing great around there except the gage and the Chicago athletic club. If venture out to Logan square or the west loop.

Giordanos, Lou Minalti's and Gino's East are good Pizza options. Roof at the Wit is cool if there's no line. Clark street Ale House is where I took a few of my more successful Tinder dates. Randolph Tavern is where I drank beer at 10:30 AM after I got fired. Blackfinn is pretty cool. The latter two have good but not amazing food.

Ya my buddy is in a squash tournament at the atheltic association so he was getting a hotel near there so i just went in with him. I guess we could uber if need be for the bars. Is west loop the closest place for yo pro type nightlife?


Probably hitting up shedd aquarium before leaving on sunday. Only thing i have semi planned

Gino's East if you want terrible crust, Lou Malnati's is alright, Giordano's is my favorite out of those 3. I'd probably just read some reviews for places close to you and order delivery since many of these places can be crowded.

Things looking up for me, I dutifully did my first day of coffee shop approaches today, did my 10 approach minimum before I can go home (I went to three different locations, not sure how you can do that many in one space without coming off poorly, but I'll work on it).

No noteworthy results, lots of stuff for me to work on but I'm a lot better at talking to people and being interesting than I expected.

A couple of weird situations of recent.

First, I pulled another sketchy teacher move and slept with one of my students the first day I tutored her. Moved her from the coffee shop to my place with no resistance. However, after that, I tried to set up the next tutoring session at my place, she resisted and for the last two weeks we've met in libraries. Both of us kinda pretending like nothing happened, except that she's all over my legs during the tutoring sessions. But she was so adamant about not doing it at my place, I just assumed it was over.

Complicating factors: She's 20 and supposedly still has her boyfriend from high school who lives far away. She legit seemed kinda inexperienced and I think I may have freaked her out.

I really don't care either way, which is a pretty awesome attitude to have.

And then, the other annoying one: The old girl, of "pics of friends?" notoriety, texted me after four weeks of no contact and asked me how I was doing. I responded, "great ty" and she never responded.

I'm pretty sure I could work this one again if I keep ignoring her forever, but I'm moving in two months, I just don't see it happening in that time frame. Not really sure wtf she is trying to do, but my guess is ego validation and I suppose I give it to her by responding at all.

Truth is, despite getting new play and feeling great about committing myself to exercise and strict diet for two months, I still do care about this one and wish I didn't.

I don't think you need to do so many cold openings at the coffee shops,unless you are just trying to make yourself more sociable.
You can do it whenever you feel an attraction,and to me,that's more important,unless you're just clueless about women,which I don't think you are.
Play the student cool,let her guide you to what the status of the relationship is,cause if she still has a boyfriend back home,you don't want to influence her feelings.
Maybe she is in that grey area,where she doesn't know what she wants yet,she's still figuring it out perhaps.

Hey, thanks for the response. I have a lot of book knowledge but a history of massive approach anxiety and panicked neediness winning out over knowledge of the right play. Yesterday was my first day doing cold approaches, I didn't try to do anything except hold conversations as long as I could. I don't think I will ever really enjoy this- I really don't enjoy socializing even in situations where I can do it.

I just got out of a 10-year relationship, but I'm pleasantly surprised at how much less anxiety I have now. Even though I have very few notches and make newbie mistakes, I have a lot better sense of how things work than I did when I was younger and frustrated. My younger self really had nothing to offer anyone.

Yes. Try lone wolf to start. Skip aquarium. Do architecture boat tour.

Guys, I have a situation I am not used to. Hopefully someone has some advice.

I have gotten pretty close with a fellow exchange student, lets call her A. We see each other a lot during the day, but I have not made a move because I liked her as a friend and didnt wanna ruin that.

So two weeks ago I meet up with her and 2 of her friends. They join the group of friends I was out with and we have a good time. I run bad at drinking games and get a bit too drunk and have a sloppy makeout with one of the friends girl A brought, girl F. Girl A then cockblocked me by wanting to go home all of the sudden and asked F to accompany her.

During the week A kept interrogating if i like F and saying F really likes me. I keep my cards close to my vest. It is clear F likes me because she keeps texting and wanting to meet up. Problem is, I was very drunk when i made out and now im not all that attracted to her.
I would much rather go home with girl A who I got to know a bit better and im pretty sure a hookup would not ruin things.

I dont go out with them last week because they went on a trip but i met up with them yesterday. I mostly ignored girl F and was flirting with A but i was not sure so i didnt make a move. F wasnt feeling well so went home early with A.
The problem is, A does not wanna hurt F´s feelings (im pretty sure F is a bit unexperienced and she is one of the closest friends of A) and I wanna be sure A is a sure thing before I make a move. Since I will see her every day for a few months at uni..

I likely meet girl A and F again tonight. Is there any way to make this happen or should I just diffuse the situation with F, try to hook up with randoms and try with girl A in a few weeks

If you make a move and it doesn't work out, it will be fine as long as you're cool about it. Girls have no qualms about keeping male friends that want more. They quite enjoy it. So don't ever not make a move to keep a friend, just don't let butthurt creep in if you really are invested in having a female friend.

If I were you, I would not go out with the two together tonight and try to get Girl A out by herself. If this isn't possible, just go, have a good time, and sleep with one of them. If the logistics don't work out for A, sleeping with F will be fun and if you do her right you'll be more likely to get with A too.

Check out the big brain on Brad!

That's pretty much what I'd say.

Oh yeah, forgot about the architecture boat tour. Did that like 6 years ago. Highly recommended.

OMFG,I've got a 60+ old gal hitting on me,and I'm actually considering it.
She's horny and took my bankroll in the poker room.

Do it, then go to her pocketbook. Just like the girls do the old men.

Couldn't do it,but got a finger in the butt against my will.

lol

I went on a third date with the mom. We went shopping for groceries, made tacos together and I took her on a stroll around my town. We got back to my apartment and ate ice cream and watched a tv show. Felt really good during the whole date. When she left I gave her a kiss. Probably the terribaddest kiss performed by a dude to this date. I have mixed feelings about her impression of the kiss, but I guess better to kiss than not to, regardless of performance.

You described the kiss as "terribaddest", that doesn't sound much like mixed feelings.

Props on going for it though, baby steps my man.

Explain this kiss? Did you cough in her mouth? Miss and kiss her nose?