yeah word just enjoy yourself LKJ. eventually she will get wasted and you can exploit the sin city vibe.

yeota wanted me to post this here.

**It's a triumph!**

First off, curly haired spring break girl is a no-go. It's cool though, my buddy is going after her, and she's been pretty responsive, so I'm gonna let him give it a shot.

However, I met this other girl on the beach, and it turns out that not only A) she goes to my school, but B) we have some mutual friends from WAY back when (like middle school).

Time to do some work! Going to get sushi on Wed. after I finish taking a test.

nice work gl

nh

nice hand

fyp!

why hello.

Siq, your biggest mistake is telling someone you dont want to be friends with that you want to be friends with them. In a thread full of people calling bitches crazy, you're literally saying the opposite of your intentions to manipulate a situation/get what you want - as much as we like to pretend girls are irrational, they're not, they just do this exact same thing. As a rule, you should never text/call this girl ever again, unless she specifically asks you why you don't talk to her or directly asks you out. If she does confront you about your distance, say you just thought the two of you wanted different things from one another and she knows your number if she wants to try things in a way you'd actually enjoy. You have given her more than enough chances - she's not crazy, she's just not right for you. Let her grow up a little.

God damn it, I feel like you were so close!!! Tilted now (even if you aren't).

o damn.

so sending her a msg some time soon with something like "i think what i sent you last night came out wrong, i want to get to know you better but i don't want to just be your friend. i guess we're just looking for different things, it's ok. see you around" is no good? This is the advice I'm getting from a friend now who says i just need to let her know my intentions and then leave her alone.

i haven't followed the situation very closely (just got back to skewl), but your friend is dumb

tell me how that benefits you at all in that situation?

lol thats horrific, please dont do that

just dont text her anything, and when you see her flirt with her. If she asks you why you dont text her anymore, just be like "you are allowed to text me too fyi" and go from there. Or leave her alone if you dont want to deal with it, because shes being a dumb girl. either is fine.

I would imagine by just letting her know my real intentions that I don't want to be her buddy and if she doesn't pursue me she has to give up any chance of being with me. she can't just keep me around as her friend and feel like she could have me whenever she wanted. IDK.

edit: cplo,
I think she'll probably be texting me a lot any way. the only problem is it will be a lot of just friendly texts like "hey whats up" "what r u doing?" "im bored at work".

the more you talk/try to fix the situation the worse it will be. just forget that ho and say what's up when you run into her. she does have your number and might contact you at some point anyway.

she will understand this when you stop initiating contact.

eh, good points. i'm so ****ed in the head right now.
i still don't get how it goes from her having a crush on me, telling this guy all about it, telling me about it, asking ME to hang out (I wasn't the one who asked to hang out first, she did) and then boom "o hai i do like u but lets just be friends right now gotta clear my head k thx bai"

yeah she should know that anyway. you telling her that makes you look pathetic.

and you can respond to texts, thats fine, just dont initiate them

i mean the girl is certainly (if not more) to blame, but these things happen when you fail to act with agency on your own behalf.

what could/should i have done? it's so gay that there is nothing i can do to rectify any of it but just let it go and hope one day something happens again.

you were ****ed the minuted she said "we should be friends"....but you made it worse by responding with emotional talk of friendship

she was viewing you as a prospect, but got cold feet (ie, started ****ing her boyfriend again)

edit: she's not worth your time, you didn't do anything wrong (that we know of ) leading up to her saying let's just be friends. would stop analyzing situation IMMEDIATELY except for the gay text you sent her about being friends.

he had a window of opportunity and failed to build attraction. telling him he did something wrong isn't quite correct, but saying it was all because she was psycho or flighty isn't quite right either.

i've rocked a line something to the tune of "yeah i have a bunch of friends already, that's not at all what i'm looking for" a couple times (the mere fact that I've had to use this more than once is what lead me to believe that I'm part of the friend zoning problem, so now i'm almost blatantly obvious with my intentions, but i digress); My best friend (female, not ygos) is actually one of them lol, i dated the other for almost a year a couple years back, so I guess it can go both ways.

what should i have done in my window of opportunity?

i hope that question isn't posed directly in my direction because i haven't read any posts longer than 3 lines itt since like tuesday. i'll prob skim through now tho i guess.

i would have used that line when she said the whole friends thing for sure. probably too late now. find another girl and make her jealous.