Pues, just say hi. Don't read into it too much and don't try to get a long convo or something out of it. And pls tell me you're not now feeling nostalgic.

give her the old eyebrows acknowledgement and then talk to someone else

Aces,

Talk to her and be normal. She was apart of your life and unless she did something to deserve you hating her/being an ******* to her, don't act like that. Sure if she banged your 4 best friends and stabbed you with a kitchen knife then by all means be a dick. But if the "bad breakup" was one of you wanting more and the other not, then do exactly what spurious said. Be cordial, make small talk, and don't ruin your reputation as a decent person by being anything less.

ILM life update--

I know I haven't been contributing much of late, hoping to be around more even if I don't have any particular good TR's.

Been hanging out a lot with the gf and friends from back home before I start graduate school in August. Not working this summer so have way more free time than I know what to do with.

Not TR worthy, but the gf said "I love you" two nights ago. I snap called and felt good about it. You know what happened after.

Yeah, we've only been dating (officially anyway) two months. It's a bit fast I agree. But I know how I feel about her and was ready to take that step as well.

ilM gonna get married

Really the only question is how many cheesy ballads he's written about her at this point.

lol ya. when they breakup he's going to be that guy at parties who is on the driveway talking to another girl about his ex the whole time and "how can she be having sex with another guy already?! we just brokeup, i would never do that to her!!"

last night:
a girl i made out with once while drunk two years ago invited my friend to party who in turn invited me. background: she was pretty popular in HS. we had a class together freshman year and she was out of my league. she may have won prom queen actually. has since let herself go a lottttt.

it's her bf's parent's house. she immediately starts flirting with me. making sure we touch while just standing by each other. constantly asking if i want a shot. i ask where the bathroom is and she says she'll show me. i go in and she just stands outside the door. i have approximately 2 seconds to decide if i want to live up to my under-title and get head in the bathroom, risking getting my ass beat by everyone there or to just laugh, say thanks, and shut the door. i go with option #2 since i have no guy friends there yet and my hand has stitches.

a while later two of my guy friends are there. one is in the car hot boxing with her and two girls so me and my other friend go to them. the other friend gets in first so the car is now full. she and another girl are like GG! get in, you can squeeze!! so i lay on top of her and two other people in the backseat. she starts giving me a handjob loll. pretty sure everyone knows what's going on since that region of my body is center stage of the car. her bf comes out with someone to see what's going on and i push her away but she keeps her hand there.

he goes back inside and she continues at it. the girl i came with who is her friend even hits her hand away but she keeps doing it. then someone needs her inside so she leaves. that's the last i interacted with her that night.

GG,

Please MSPaint how people were oriented in the car, thanks.

GG, wtf man how do you have so many public sex interactions

This remains one of the strongest and best reads that anyone has done ITT.

lolwat

Don't ask me; you're the one who posted it.

GG doin work. Most awkward smoking setup ever tho.

Man I really wish there was some sort of closed-loop forum we could divulge information on.

There's a PM function

We should create a skype group....no ****

^ word

so for those playing along at home...

Friday night I am making plans with gf to hang out, and we decide to invite some friends and make it a group rather than just a date for both of us and she decides to invite our friend Katie (who admittedly is into me, and does not know i am dating jenn). For w/e reason she starts flipping out and acting very insecure about going out and is adamant about her needing to know everyone who is planning to hang out with us and that they are ppl she knows. fwiw, she is NOT the type of person who is normally like this. In fact she would one of the last ppl i would ever think of that might possibly be like this.

jenn and i are texting and apparently she is texting with katie. i start to get messages from jenn telling me all this stuff about my past that katie is telling her, with some embellishments thrown in. I would like to write what some of these things are but I would not feel comfortable putting any of it on display for 2+2. eventually i start to get straight up lies repeated to me...things like ive been arrested and been to jail 5+ times, that i had sex with two people that jenn specifically hates (like wtf, why would that be anybodies business anyhow?). Basically katie acting like a HUGE bitch and trying to make jenn hate me or distrust me or something. It eventually ends with jenn not wanting to go out anymore that night and basically unsure of what to believe and confused.

On saturday i apologize to her about what is happening and tell her id like to meet up and talk about some of the stuff that was true that katie was telling her and some of the stuff that was made up. So here I am only a few weeks into dating this girl, and now I have to start talking about my mental health history, past issues with drugs (mostly involving friends however), and the TRUTH about my history with the law. None of these things hinder my life atm, and aren't deal breaker/"need to know up front" type things, and having to go into this **** so early in a relationship is just very awkward but I really like this girl and dont want to just give up and let katie claim victory. At first she seems hesitant but eventually is ok with it and we make plans to just meet up somewhere and talk. After a few hours (still a little while before we planned to meet) she shows up at my place looking like she just got done crying and basically hands her keys to me and says lets go....

We ended up going to a sushi restaurant and i start talking right away about the situation and apologize for everything in general and how i didnt mean to start so much between you and a good friend. i corrected some of the false info, apologized for not telling her some of the "heavier" things that are true (but again...a few weeks in no reason i shouldve told her any of this yet). we drank a bunch of sake and ate a lot of sushi and went back to her house to smoke and watch a movie. Everything seemed ok but she was still clearly upset and I could tell this wasnt over when i woke up sunday morning

I had to work sunday morning and she didnt, so she let me just borrow her truck for the day so that she didnt have to get out of bed etc...I go to work and almost immediately get a text from her that she is going to the beach and that i should join her after work. this right away makes me really happy that she doesnt seem to be messed up too much over the situation after all, and that we are still talking and she is wanting to see me. After work I drive home to shower and change and i call her to see what is up.

She is at the beach with katie and they both want me to come and hang out with them. wait...what.

After a little thinking i decide "**** it, ill go" and figure they mustve talked and this will be a way for katie to apologize and we can talk about it briefly and then go back to everything being normal (obv brief lapse of knowledge on how girls act on my part). I get there and both of them are acting like nothing had ever happened. we are just hanging out and joking around as usual...having some beers on the beach etc. eventually i fall into the normal routine and forget that there was ever anything going on in the first place...until they get up to go move katie's car closer. katie goes off ahead and jenn waits a second and then comes right up to me and says "you know, i asked you if you ever hooked up with so-and-so and you said no, well katie is pretty sure you did" and she just walks off. WTF.

they get back in about 40 mins and we are right back to having fun and w/e as usual but im confused as f, obv. eventually im ready to just gtfo because i just felt at any second things could get really weird. jenn starts talking about how she is tired and that katie and i should go out drinking and she will go home. im like "wtf? i dont want to do that, i came here to spend time with you etc". katie is getting super annoyed etc and im srsly considering calling someone to just come pick me up. i want to talk about this w jenn but not in front of katie so the best option seemed to be for me to just GTFO. eventually i get the idea that ill drive jenn home saying i need to grab something from her place and while there we can talk. we leave katie and she seems silently pissed off.

at jenns house we just kind of hang out and do nothing. we make something to eat and eventually get to bed. this morning we wake up and she takes me home. when i get home i get a "words with friends" invite from katie. WTF LIKE 4 REAL 4 REAL. again i talk more with jenn and everything seems cool and we made plans for tomorrow night. will update more (hopefully shorter) tomorrow or wednesday

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breakup with her. especially if you didn't have sex the night before the beach and have only been dating a couple of weeks. the fact you apologized to jenn for the "drama" that they created is a bad sign.

if katie looks good hit that. cuz when you're older you'll prob regret not doing it. and it's not always going to be on the table. she's only interested in you because her friend is.

not breaking up with her. My apology was for the fact that she had to hear the true **** from someone other than me. katie doesnt look good and even if she did i wouldnt "hit that" and sure as f would not regret it. Im not really into difts hookups fwiw...jenn is a nice girl and a clear standout amongst her friends as far as having her life on track and her head on straight and i love getting to know her. she made a mistake by not telling her friend that we are dating, and it lead to this. i dont know what her comment at the beach was about, honestly think it had more to do with her hating the girl in question so much rather than anything else. we talked today and things seem ok. katie knows we are dating now, and ive made it my responsibility to end this **** with katie because i really do like jenn. if it becomes even a small bit of a problem from here on out, katie will get words and i will reevaluate the relationship at that point depending on how jenn reacts

you refer to her as gf and she doesn't tell her friend she's dating you.

she tells you to go out to drinks one on one with a girl that likes you. there's only two logical ways to interpret that:

1) she's pawning you off
2) she's acting passive aggressively

gl being in your prime dating the passive aggressive girl who doesn't put out and has you apologizing when you've done nothing wrong.

goat in class reading thread.

TBobLP, I didn't read your posts but seriously just go with the one that will do the freakiest stuff. The others will still be there later, just tell them you made a mistake and they'll understand.

GCG. You def have to get some people to vouch for you. The easiest way to get some is to already have a rep established and then get drunk. Has this not crossed the atlantic yet?

goodgame is easily best poster itt

I'm about to break up with my gf via text. Ezgame

thanks man, appreciate the gl wishes!

and lol @ "doesnt put out"

Last night I was telling her about this project from work and how me and a guy she knows I'm somewhat rivals with (a ****ing short dude, obviously) are both working on it and tend to get competitive and try to elbow each other out of the way for attention when someone important comes near.

She says, "hahahaha

I imagine you're out-elbowing, and not only because your arms are longer and stronger..."

After a few totally normal conversations with her since that fooling around from a couple of weeks ago, I'm more receptive to fulfilling your suggestion and I'm guessing I can make it happen.

With that said, I won't see her for almost three months, so postpone your anticipation.