A couple people have asked what I've been up to lately, and I've hit a milestone not too long ago so I thought I would update this thread.
Since I last updated this thread I was pretty much in the same place mentally, but had gotten some coaching done and made some money to help out my mom. I still wake up some days feeling awful and wanting to die, but for the first time in a few months, I have little doubt that things will end up well for me in the end if I’m willing to work on them.
My backer rang me on Skype and told me had a layover in Vegas a week ago. I really didn't think I was ready to at the time, but I thought it was important that we talk so I told him I'd be able to make it out to grab a bite with him. We ended up having some miscommunications in that he didn't have a phone or something and was only able to txt through Skype but I was unaware of that, so after ringing him for an half an hour and sending him a message on Facebook, I suggested to my chauffer for the night (my brother) that we go grab a bite. I chose not to drive myself because I still haven’t replaced my license and am too blind to read street signs.
We ended up eating at Musashi sometime around 9 and although I wasn’t surrounded by people, I was still outside and didn’t spontaneously combust. It felt really good to be outside again for the first time in so long. I missed sushi. Even though I haven’t left since or gotten to the point where I want to be out and about every day I can say that I’m over that fear, which for me, felt like the most daunting task.
Looking forward I’ve set some goals for myself in the long and short term that I think will get me out of this depression. At the top of the list is to get my mother to a place financially where she’ll stop talking about moving out of Vegas because this is my brother’s and sister’s home and we have a lot of family here. I’d like to take some classes at CSN to clear whatever conditions I need to go to a real college and I’m hopeful that that will aide in fixing a lot of other problems that I do have. (Establishing a social circle leads to attaining some hobbies, more confidence leads to getting laid etc.)
Hopefully after I’ve mastered the basics of being a human I can settle down somewhere that’s not Las Vegas for a while. This is my home. I grew up here. My family is here. I truly do love it here, but experiencing another place should be really good for me.
Lastly, I want to fix my whole backing situation. I feel I need some advice here as I don’t think I see eye to eye with my backers. I want to outline the situation as completely as I can so everyones’ perspective can be known. Sometime in April we made a deal for 120k hands from 3/6-10/20. At a later date this was changed to 2/4-10/20 as I was down on the stake early. The deal was originally for heads up, but I was told I could play 6-max at various points in the stake. I had at a max 60k spread across something like 5-8 sites. This made it difficult for me, as a bad day at 5/10 or 10/20 could bust me on any given site. Because of this and a lack of communication (it would take weeks, some instances months to reload accounts, a couple months to get me an account with rakeback on it) it was difficult to get any volume in. For my last 40k or so hands I was playing mostly 2/2 with an unsuccessful shot at higher stakes where I broke stop loss ( I will touch upon this later) At the end of the stake I am down around 45k not including 5k or so that is locked up with Full Tilt.
Since wrapping up the stake, I have said that I felt really bad and suggested that we continue the stake, but in its normal conditions where I play the stakes we had agreed upon. They have said they want me playing lower stakes for awhile and that it would be really bad etiquette for me to leave them now since I had broken stop loss a few times. There were certainly a couple of occasions where I’d bust a 10k or something roll at 10/20 on a fish. In our last Skype convo one of my backers pasted something he had said about me quitting that day when I had lost 6k. This number didn’t stick out to me and the quote was from April. It wasn’t made clear in any sort of formal contract, but I never asked for a clear figure of what stop loss was.
I understand how they feel and asked that I play a number of ‘good faith’ hands where I abide by all rules that will be clearly written out. I feel this is good for me and them so they know I’m not a selfish ******* and that I can be a good horse when things are made clear. I’m sure they thought getting into this I would be a really easy person to deal with and I’d be up a **** ton, but that isn’t how things worked out. However, they did not respond to this idea when I brought it up. Instead they’ve proposed this guideline of buy ins and stakes. SL is stop loss.
Assuming Current Makeup is 50k.
Pkrbt is giving him 57% Loyalty/RB.
My Ideas for going forward effective today.
Playing:
1. HU is the best game to play game selecting. 5 and 6 max are profitable and can be played, but the emphasis still is on HU.
2. To get HU action, more than 1 site is necessary.
3. Another 5k will be shipped to properly roll for 5/5
Current Online: 13k
2. Current stakes 2/2 and 5/5. HU and 6 max for both.
- Number of maximum tables: 4-6 short handed.
- The highest limit you're allowed to play isn't the only for playing. It's still GAME SELECTION.
Limits are according to aggregate balances not including frozen FTP:
DAILY... Not a session stop loss, daily stop loss:
0-10k - 2/2
SL; 2000
10-15k - 2/2 5/5
SL:3000
15k-25k - 2/2 5/5
SL: 4000
25k-40k 2/2/5/5
SL: 6000
40k-50k 2/2 5/5/ 10/10
SL: 7000
50k-75k - 2/2 5/5 10/10
SL: 8000
75k-100k
SL: 10000
100k+ - 2/2 5/5 20/20 5/10
SL: 14000
If there's a super fish , call us for possibility of raising it for extreme circumstances. CONTACT MUST MADE.
Shots when moving up.
You have a 7 buyin threshold at that limit. Clear example would be you have 107k and want to play some 10/20. The MOMENT balances get to 93,000 there is no 10/20
whatsoever. Additionally, you'll have already reached your stop loss for the day.
On Money Now.
-500 Monthly No Matter What.
Additionally:
15% of profits and 15% of total rb shipped monthly.
I have 20k active at the moment and this seems really low and I feel like them not responding to my idea of good faith hands or wanting to refresh a contract of 100k hands, but rather saying no hand limit is just makeup and that the structure of buy ins is really low. The $500 a month is a stipulation they’ve added there to keep me happy as they know of my current financial situation. I would love to continue being backed by them as the original deal is very good, but the lack of communication and speed at which they perform tasks makes it really difficult to work with. I should be able to play 120k hands in 2 months VERY easily I feel. They said they plan on setting up a Skype phone which I’m free to call anytime, but after not being able to meet in Vegas because of not having a phone, I’m not too optimistic on how much communication will improve. What should I do?
To wrap things up I wanna thank everyone who’s made a post in this thread or an effort to reach out to me. I am truly thankful to everyone who sent me PM’s with words of wisdom, and an ear to listen with. I know I didn’t get back to quite a few of you and I plan to soon. Talking about my feelings can be pretty taxing and it’s not something I’m used to doing or want to do.
-db