They definitely aren't for me!! I am not good at casual sex, I am always grossed out by it. But I still get wrapped up in stupid situations because I'm stupid.

I know I can't expect him to be exclusive when I don't want anything serious with him and our relationship is just about sex. I try not to think about it but actually knowing the truth still makes me feel gross.

I'd normally rather not even ask, but I think I did because he keeps trying to "get me to open my heart" and act like he wants something serious and I usually avoid even talking to him about anything and keep it just the sex, but something about that night I guess I asked hoping to hear something I didn't want to hear to have more reason to be disgusted with him. I'm trying to stop being addicted to this guy.

and the facebook thing I saw before I decided I didn't want anything serious with him. I unfriended him when I decided I didn't want a relationship with him.

Haha this guy must have a ten inch dong. I'm still not sure why you think he is a scumbag. Loserish maybe but not scum. Given your relationship status it seems ok for him to lie about his other partners.

Yea, that's the scummy part of it. Guys will often pretend like they want more to get with girls that aren't really looking for something casual. I guess now that you know what he's about, that would make it easier to get over it.

I can sympathize. I've been in situations before where I was with someone who I felt was a little above my league physically, and it's hard to cut that off, especially if you don't really have anything else going on. But trust me, these types of people prey on that. There's gotta be other guys out there; you're a good looking girl.

Lol@ all white knighting going itt. Still havent read a single thing that would confirm that that dude is a scumbag.

Yea, no.

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Ok I will tell you why he is a scumbag. One of the nights my mom was dying in the hospital and I saw some traumatic things, he texted me wanting to see me. This was maybe the 3rd time being together. I told him I wasn't comfortable with that and explained the situation with my mom and how I was crying and not in the mood because I knew he just wanted sex. He asked if I wanted him to come over to hold me. I did, but I didn't trust him and said it wasn't a good idea. He promised he wouldn't do anything. I still felt uncomfortable with it but being extremely depressed about losing my mom, I took the risk because the idea of him actually comforting me is what I needed. He put on a movie and layed with me on the couch, talked a little about his dad dying a little, and started to get sexual. I said he told me he wasn't going to, and he said "it would be insulting you if I didn't" he basically came on my stomach and left.

If that doesn't help, then I don't know what will, but it's extremely embarrassing to post that.

Wow. Sorry. That is scumbag material.

J: I think you are really nailing it in this thread, nice work.

Gorie: after reading your last few posts, the term "self-destructive behavior" is the first thing that pops to mind.

And you still kept going out with hooking up with him after that? How long did this "relationship" last?

Then why are you still fixated with this man? We've told you what to do so do it. You said yourself that you're being illogical, so by definition we can't really argue anymore of our points, it's up to you to sort your problems out. The consensus is that he's at very least a loser who you should avoid. If your response is just going to be "I know, I'm just a stupid Girl" then what is the point of this conversation?

Thanks man. I talk out my ass a lot but I feel I have a pretty good handle on interpersonal relationship stuff.

To be honest I've been guilty of what this guy's doing. It takes a real man to tell a girl upfront what his intentions are, that he's not looking for anything serious, and letting her decide if she wants to go forward with it.

To entertain with my pathetic life? I don't know. To feel less alone with it? I'm obviously still hoping it helps me stop making poor choices.

Not sure what exactly is wrong with you OP, but after reading your last post and given the current situation it seems that you have issues. And I don't think that being "dumb" is one of them.

Like all women she just wants to be loved and told she is beautiful. The problem is she doesn't (by her own admission) know how to develop a good, trusting, loving relationship. So she settles for someone that will just lie to her (so she can keep lying to herself) and she hates herself for it.

Gorie,

Admitting the truth about a situation to yourself is a pretty big first step, and if this thread helps even with just that, it's been a worthwhile thing for you to do IMO. And if not, sweet OOT entertainment anyway!

Last I spoke with him, he said he would help me move my elliptical from the garage to the living room. I asked him for the favor (before posting this thread) because I don't want to get fat over the winter and moved to a city I don't really know anyone so I don't know how else I am going to move it. But I'm pretty sure it's more unhealthy to see him again than to gain weight. I really really want that elliptical in the house though, grrr. So I guess tonight will be a test.

Not sure if you're aware of this new sub-forum but....

House of Blogs?

A gorie life.

It will end with you crying and feeling like ****. But that's what you hope will happen.

Gorie,

You are a smart girl. Please don't act like you really couldn't figure out an alternate way to get the elliptical into the house.

I'm glad I loaded up on yes before the lines shifted

Ok looks like I was wrong about him not being a scumbag...

There isnt a single neighbour that would help you.

Gorie is making some pretty bad decisions regarding this guy, sure...but it doesn't have to be because she's mental...she's probably just lonely.