yeah, but this is also the place where people seek urgent medical advice instead of going to the ER or their doctor. *shrug*

fwiw, I completely believe the OP

of course it is totally possible that he has done this before and a complaint was made to the police. Maybe, like in your case, there was little/no evidence and no charges were brought.

But


If you now report this incident and it turns out there is a similar complaint againt him on record things could start to happen.

The wife could start to believe you instead of him, the police could get a case together against him on the basis of two seperate reports rather than one and this horrible mess could end happily.

You should go to the police now, before your bruise heals

good luck

I remember when OP first joined 2+2, all of her posts give indication that this is true (divorced, living alone, etc). So, either this is one of the best gimmick accounts of all time...

In any case, I consider it impossible that OP is messing with us, really.

DMC, was the husband smoking? How about wearing any cologne?

I believe you are who you say you are. And you seem like a sincere person. I'd really like to think we aren't all getting played here.

LOL

EDIT: Wow, I just read the thread and I can't believe how many of you actually did give good advice.

Didn't see this mentioned. If you decide not to go to the police, carrying pepper spray or some other kind of personal protection is probably a good idea. Just don't assume it makes you invincible and keep observing reasonable safety precautions.

DMC,

you have handled this kind of terribly thus far, and from your comments you seem kind of set on continuing in such a stupid manner.

lol

I'd also like tips on how to get out of it next time I'm in this spot.

First line of the OP: "I am a single middle aged divorced woman."

Good read, Victor. You play 6-max, right?

The first time I read the OP, I thought that DMC was a guy getting hit on by one of his guy friends. It was only in re-reading the post did I notice that she mentions that she's a woman in the very first line.

I'm guessing that it's because so much that is posted on here is crap. As a result, I automatically skim every post I open to see if anything interesting jumps out at me. The nitty details end up getting missed as a result.

Yep, this one's gonna test your friendship.

I'd tell her. No problem. Spell out exactly what happened. Too many other people in this world to hang out with to put up with this crap.

I'd also tell her that's why I will refuse to be anywhere around this A-Hole in the future. Make clear how much he disgusts you, but that you'd still make time for her.

If you're going to file a police report, I'd tell her that the next time(hopefully the 1st time since she's back) that you talk to her. That's something she should probably hear from you before the officer is at their door.

b

I dont believe it because of this...

I can't really explain why, but something about that and just leaving without anything else doesn't seem right. I highly doubt the story would of ended just at that if that really did happen. Something about him chasing after her, screaming or more violence sounds about right. Even if he took a knee flush in the balls (which is doubtful in this case), he wouldn't be on the floor unconscious or anything.

I read 22 replies before realizing that OP is a woman. I sort of just skimmed that first sentence. Then I saw all these, "next time she might not get away" and was like wtf husband obviously preys on dudes.

Man that was a weird 20 minutes.

I don't know about the timing of the calls between you and her, but consider emailing her a link to this thread?

She is your gimmick account right? Otherwise I can't see a point to your post.

J

no, and i am a woman too, so this sounds really odd, and well, scripted. Any woman would just call the cops IMHO.

eh, I dunno. Lots of terrible [censored] happens to lots of innocent women without anything being reported.

Maybe it seems irrational OP doesn't want to call the cops, but the "it's a lot of stress" excuse has a lot of weight. It may not be right, but it's understandable.

The best thing OP can do is tell a third-party friend of hers what happened. Any good friend will say, "Sally, I know this sucks for you, you're worried about your friendship, how much stress this may cause, whatever. But you need to be strong and pick up the phone and tell the police what happened. You'll remember for the rest of your life what decision you made, so do what you know in your heart is the right one."

That stuff works better when told face-to-face from someone who cares about you.

Beleive me, i have had way more than my share of bad things! There just seem to be holes in this story that don't make sense, from my point of view. Seems very dramatic, like OP wanting attention. If i am in fact wrong, then i wish the OP the best. But my gut feelin says this didn't happen, so just my opinion.

People were questioning validity/integrity of OP. I defended OP indicating OP's past posts were consistant in that they were written by a female poster, who lived alone. Thus, I concluded this would have to be an extremly dedicated gimmick account for the OP to be messing with us, and I don't think anyone would put that much effort into a thread. Ergo, I think its impossible that the OP is being less than sincere.

^Did that help clear up my point?

does anyone seriously believe a middle aged women reads OOT, and not only that she comes here to post her problems....people amaze me.

The reasons for filing a police report are less about this instance, and more about the next, I think. And peace of mind for OP. I would probably want to know I did all that I could, and that there was a record somewhere of this.

If it never happens again then that's great. But if it does, at least no one can say "this is the first we heard of it."

uh huh, thats why most rapes go unreported

the fact you believe this makes me believe you arent really a woman

... and get photos of the bruise.
... document the phone records.
... investigate plausbility of assault conviction.
... go from there.

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2) sell to lifetime/Oxygen/WE
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4) $$$