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Originally Posted by MicroBob
Nick - I think the idea right now is not necessarily for you to connect with them...but for them to somehow feel like they click in any way with you. You are willing to go out again with many of the girls you have seen...none of them have been interested in getting back with you.
This isn't about making it better for you to figure them out. It is about making you more likable or more interesting to them to an extent where they will see you a second time.
Yes, I agree 100%.
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Speaking of that stuff (and forgive me if this was analyzed significantly earlier in the thread and I missed it), you've mentioned before that some of these girls you felt seemed like they would be interested in seeing you again...and then never responded to you about that. I think this was brought up a little before but it might be worth a bit more detail. How are you asking them out again? Are you trying to make plans to see them again at the end of the date? (beyond just a casual, "hey, this was fun. Maybe we should do this again sometime"). Do you text them 2 days later? Do you call them? What do you say? Maybe there really is some interest in seeing you again but then the follow-through on how you ask is all goofed up somehow. No idea there. Just curious of that possibility.
Sometimes, I will try to suggest a place for us to go or something to do in the indefinite future if it comes up organically during the date...like if she mentions a restaurant she really likes, I'll say, "well, you'll have to take me there next time". Occasionally, I will try to coordinate a specific day for a second date at the end of the first (usually only if I thought the date went well).
Most commonly, I will send a text about an hour after the end of the first date saying something like "I had a great time tonight...I hope you got home safely, and that I will see you again soon!". If it was clear she wasn't interested, I won't contact her at all.
The only ones that really perplex me are when we go beyond making out on the first date, and the girl still flakes on going out again.