Couldn't you just see her on Saturday, preferably early evening, and if it sucks after 1 drink, bail and see your friends? Not like you're committed to spend the entire night with her if it's not gelling.

If only we could all agree to stop playing it cool over text - it's a waste of everyone's time

Sometimes I actually tell chicks I don’t wanna play the texting game and they usually respond instead in a good way

That was yesterday, so not anymore. Could have done that before but I feel like I was already showing more interest in our conversation and she had basically proposed that I adjust to her schedule, plus if she had agreed to Monday that would have been way better for a number of reasons.

Agreed but I can't unilaterally disarm

Well, that was anticlimactic.

Who knew if you're an old and not throwing money around nobody cares.

I thought we were going to just start there and then head out to downtown bars.

But then there was a shooting,and a stabbing so that kinda fell apart.

So we went back to the titty bar and cuz spent half his stimmy trying to get stimulated.

I thought a 2nd tier club would be more easygoing.

The girls were strictly about the dollars, oh well.

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Matched with this girl on a dating app today and she wrote me that we matched in bumble 2.5 years ago. Guess that’s a good sign lol . I have no clue who she is tho ��

I've got some bad news for you.

You got friend zoned with the hug at end of first date. That was clear signal.

This isn't a hard and fast rule. Last week I had a first date that (barely) ended in a hug, and by the end of the second she was literally calling me Daddy.

She's def an introvert tho, that may have been the determining factor.

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^^^ Guy Incognito is a very attractive dude though so ymmv

So I'd swiped through all the options on Hinge several days back and it pops up the 'expand search settings' message with another button called 'review again'. This morning I clicked 'review again' and it was like the algorithm let me into the sub basement/dungeon.... Just a massive pile of haggardness, I just X'd like a hundred+ consecutive, when I'd probably been running about 50/50 left/right prior to hitting the dreaded 'review again' button.

Interesting to see how much work the algo is actually doing, and how solid of a a job it was doing, I just wish I could apologize to it and beg it to go back to the way things were before

I've never seen either of those options on Hinge, strange. I spend about the same time swiping through Hinge and Tinder each day (unlimited, same age range and mile radius) for the past month, but have run out of people in my area on Tinder so often that they insert Tinder passport women from 300-9000 miles away every 3-4 swipes at this point. Wonder if Hinge userbase is outgrowing Tinder at this point in time (in major cities).

I'm familiar with the Hinge dungeon, it's all I know, so you have my regards. I eventually deleted the app.

There's some definite algorithm work happening on bumble too but I think they're more subtle about it. I've always had plenty of top tier women to swipe but actually matching was tough. Something happened in the last week though, I've had more matches (+ conversations started) in the last few days than the previous month. Many of them I don't remember swiping on so I can only assume I've been in their beeline for weeks but bumble is just now giving them the opportunity to swipe back. Either that or they're sending the bots at me.

In other news I had a good date tonight. I feel like I dropped my standards a bit cause my recent history had me a bit shook so I took on a date that I might have otherwise ignored. She was fairly attractive though, great at conversation, and tolerant of me occasionally not carrying my end of it. I was just going for drinks but she hadn't eaten and I was kind of hungry too so I was like whatever let's eat. Did not bang but post date vibes were great (huge difference from the past few) and I feel like she's got an absolutely wild side that was close to breaking out.

Am I reading this right that your radius is set to 1 mile? I figured I was improving my dating pool by moving to a much closer suburb but if this is common I've probably barely made a dent

Ha, thanks, but you haven't seen me in awhile, I've def aged

My point was that you can't put too much stock into first date impressions. I had the aforementioned chick pegged as a prude, then on the second date she spills that she's been with 38 guys, and a couple of threesomes.

Every year that goes by, I'm more convinced that cuffing season is a thing. I was awash in matches/dates late last year/early this year... then spring hits and bam, it's flake city.

Previously mentioned girl, the power move rejecting her Monday date didn't have her trying to reschedule, so I tried myself and had to hit her with another power move.

Cuffing season is absolutely a thing. It never ceases to amaze me how the matches just drop off in the spring. Maybe you’d expect a small reduction in volume but it just falls off a cliff, at least where I am in London.

It’s frustrating because for me the best time to date is during spring/summer, but apparently girls don’t seem to care about dating then and are solely focused on having fun with their friends.

I wonder if it was always like this and also I wonder if I make my age range a little older I’ll see more success in the summer with women who simply can’t afford to wait around.

I just realized I must be really frickin ugly because the photos I have on my bumble profile are literally the best photos I've taken in my life.

Nah, my radius is fairly generous for living in a large metro area - age range from 10 years younger to 10 years older, 10 mile radius - so that covers at least 2 million if not more

Lol, I feel ya, I never have taken good photos all my life, just not photogenic.

Plus I've been told my body language is not inviting, I appear standoffish.

I almost always have to approach people in real life and let them see that Im friendly before I get any attention.

My upside is that while I'm over fifty, Im in reasonable shape and if I keep my hair dyed, I can pass for 40ish, maybe younger, depends on their eyesight, and how drunk they are.

Downside is that it's still hard to get attention from anything over a 5,but I take what I can get.

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So I extended my max age range to 40 from 37 (I’m 37) and it started showing exclusively women older than me. Is anyone any closer to figuring out the Bumble algorithm? I would guess it’s doing that because these are the people who were the most active recently, but it does seem odd that of 20 or 30 swipes every single one was older.

The script has been flipped. Gotta say no matter what comes of this it's been a fun exercise getting to this point.

I want a full trip report with pics and preferably. A video lol

do text conversations like that ever work? not trying to throw shade since i haven't dated in years but i don't get an 'apathetic in a confident matter' vibe from these posts. if i were a woman (or a man) reading that i would think this guy or girl is trying way too hard to get the upper hand

Out of context ie not sitting on the couch watching Netflix a lot of this stuff is cringey but is actually good stuff. Your emoji game is questionable but seems super strong. One time dealer.

Seems some people like that type of manipulation.

They know they're being pushed and its a turn on.

Note how she claims she never cancels a date then does just that.

I kinda think she might cancel if he does hit her up, if not he's got a shot.

Too hard to tell if she likes the aggression or just likes the attention.

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