Gord,

Fade the clinger, if you want.

uh, you're the one seemingly obsessing about a girl you haven't even met yet.

block her and move on lol

also: is English your first language? holy hell your writing is painful haha

Aren't you 50+? I can't imagine you'd ever get hits on Tinder. You are way out of the target demographics for both sexes.

There are a ****ton of women in my demo on tinder.

But to them it's just another dating platform. There's a ton of bleed over among tinder, pof and okc here. I do well with okc, so it's all I bother with.

Yeah English is my first language. It's bad and I admitted as much repeatedly.

I'm not obsessing at all, but seeing as I'm being fairly relaxed about any dating, she is now only one of two that I am conversing with. It's just a bit annoying and in stark contrast to the other conversation. The other conversation is maintaining itself really well and it's natural for either of us to be in touch. There is hardly any naturalism in this and yet she is pretty relentless. We are seemingly obviously compatible though to her and she's not unattractive. She's 39 and basically I can see she is acting real pressured. Nevermind, it's just that I wish I knew how to deal with the situation better, to see it through and to have avoided actually a few days of messaging so much. She had obviously decided we were great for each other, without us meeting up.

Basically if you see enough warning signs that it's not probably going to be a success meeting up, do you ever cut them?

forget use of Cringe Girl as a name — what's cringe worthy is: "Daddy"… UGH.

Yeah that's kind of what I wanted to know about exactly, this Daddy. I was hoping we could get a clear picture of it from Chip as a scenario to arise from internet dating.

So to refer to my previous small dilemma, I'm talking about now this morning she sends a Tinder asking what my plan is for the day? Shall I just tell her to GTF now? Surely that's a line crossed. Two days in a row starting early first thing, what you doing today !!

jfc just drop her already. Why are you spazzing so hard about it?

Just looking for the line on whether it's pushy?

Sorry not meaning to blow up a small topic. It's a good % of my contacts though in just one individual and had arranged to meet in 1 or 2 days. Thought having arranged to meet up it would relax.

Literally Canni what do you say? That's why I'm ITT

"I'm sorry but you seem too attached for not even having met yet. I'm going to pass on our date. I wish you the best."

Yeah, ****ing blow her off already. wtf? Any lame ass line is fine. "I just got super serious with someone I met yesterday. We're engaged now and she might be pregnant. P.S. I have the Aids. Good luck!"

You don't even have to give her a reason, just say you're going to have to pass on meeting her as you've too much going on right now, I wish you the best in finding somebody.

On Tinder I've ditched "so how does this thing work? Are we dating now?" for a simple "hey" because I felt that even though a large percentage of my matches were receptive, I think some girls don't know how to respond or take it literally.

My question is how do I follow up after they respond to "hey"? I'm good looking so responses aren't an issue it's just that I want to stand out obviously and avoid the boring "how are you?" nonsense.

With the original opener it just allowed the conversation to flow if the girl wasn't an idiot, so maybe I should just revert back to that? I know it's a fairly lazy opener but a lot of girls liked it..

To make it clear I'm a decent conversationlist once the ice is broke

BG - I may have missed something because it's hard to understand your posts, but is she just messaging you how you're doing? Or what's going on? Is this the girl you told you'd get a drink with and she's just following up by asking what the plans are?

Either way if you don't wanna go then just don't go. You're not beholden to anyone for anything

Are you interested in girls that don't know how to reply to that opener or take it literally? It seems like a great way to filter out boring or dumb girls that don't have a sense of humor. Stick with it, imo.

If your goal is just to bang then yeah, you can say pretty much whatever you want since you're good looking.

Sorry !!

Anyway... met younger girl that I was into in terms of conversation last night. She was below expectation in terms of height. We had a couple of drinks and then we went back to hers...

then what happened?

Had sex a coupla times...

Slept and then again in the morning. But can't happen again.
Physical incompatibility

In before I ask for advice on how to cut communication with her !!

Wait, she's too small for you?

Yeah

And a bit not attractive enough...😖

Got a drink later with the bit intense 39 yr old. Can't be f..t but need to see it through !!

Getting a better idea of my range though and ideal is 30-35

respective heights?

Eh I'm 6' and she's like 5-5'2 but kinda chunky 😉. Not fleshy though but solid and it's the Mexican in her. Not really worth talking about too much as it's a no go but dunno whether it was too wrong to do so last night?

She's slept with you on the first night... that's her choice.

Girls like to sleep with guys to get them to like them. Clever trick!