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My Parents Are Passive Aggressive Manipulative Sociopaths/ father is an alcoholic thief My Parents Are Passive Aggressive Manipulative Sociopaths/ father is an alcoholic thief

01-29-2014 , 12:01 AM
dude that cat food dish thing is just wtf crazy. This is not an easy decision but imo your only real choices are to change your name and number and never talk to them again

or

mooch of them until you get a degree and some CASH MONEY and then change your name and number and never talk to them again
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01-29-2014 , 12:14 AM
Move out, once a week dress as a stripper and rob dad to pay da billz
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01-29-2014 , 12:18 AM
Her justification for the cat food thing was that they would panic if they saw the bowl getting close to empty
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01-29-2014 , 12:20 AM
What are you planning on getting a degree in?
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01-29-2014 , 12:22 AM
Poly sci. Law school after hopefully
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01-29-2014 , 12:23 AM
Jesus Christ, I just got back from TJ and banged 5 incredible looking hookers. Are these the kind of whiny bitches I'm gonna have as sons if I get married?
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01-29-2014 , 12:26 AM
depends which hooker you end up with
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01-29-2014 , 01:00 AM
His mom
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01-29-2014 , 01:03 AM
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Originally Posted by wutangpoker
Obviously my mom's an idiot for not divorcing him years and years ago. I've harbored major resentment towards her for not doing so. But recently I started to begin to realize she's been manipulating me as well. I found out that she made a spare key to my apartment after I had been over one day, for one example. But in a more general example, she is constantly passive aggressive towards me. Knowing how much I hate my dad, anytime I do something the least bit annoying to her (for example, if I tell her I can't meet her for dinner on a given night), she will make a point of letting me know how much like my dad I am.
Wow. She just up and took your keys to a cutter without your knowledge, and made a copy? Creepy.
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01-29-2014 , 01:06 AM
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Originally Posted by wutangpoker
I still feel some obligation to try and make things work with them. And I certainly don't want to feel like I'm mooching off them
Fine. Try to make things work and do household chores while you mooch off of them.
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01-29-2014 , 01:18 AM
OP,

About twenty years ago, I had a very, very similar experience. Similar details include alcoholism by parents, plans to go to law school, shady financial behavior by parents (fraud directed at me and others), having to move back home, etc.

I don't care to share all the details in this thread, but if you are curious, send me a PM. I'll tell you my experience and give you any advice I can. it took me more than a decade, but I eventually ended up with a semi-functional relationship with one parent.
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01-29-2014 , 02:10 AM
Is it common knowledge what having security clearance means? Because I do not know.
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01-29-2014 , 02:23 AM
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Originally Posted by Bighurt52235
Is it common knowledge what having security clearance means? Because I do not know.
It means that his father has a job that allows him to deal w/ sensitive (secret) matters. There are different levels of security clearances.
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01-29-2014 , 03:11 AM
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Originally Posted by Gabby Hayes
Jesus Christ, I just got back from TJ and banged 5 incredible looking hookers. Are these the kind of whiny bitches I'm gonna have as sons if I get married?
May I have your life?
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01-29-2014 , 03:19 AM
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Originally Posted by wutangpoker
I don't currently live with them. But I'm so broke at the moment that I might have to move in at some point. Mother is pressuring me to do so
How about getting a part time job? I know a couple of poors who do this.


Edit: How are you supporting yourself?

Last edited by Banned4lyfe; 01-29-2014 at 03:31 AM.
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01-29-2014 , 03:32 AM
If you don't have a friend to crash with for about 2-3 months ( get part time job to build some $ to move on your own) then move in with the parents, halt on school for a few months, work full time ,save $ move out and continue school.

I personally would rather find a room to rent on Craigslist or something and absolutely work my ass off-50-60 hour weeks /no social life for a couple months so I could get my own place and resume school.
There would be zero chance I would live w my parents,to top it off I wouldn't even have the audacity to talk **** about my parents while they are helping me in any way ( school / phone ).. I could not/ would not accept anything from parents like this, but ima Samurai.
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01-29-2014 , 06:01 AM
Wu,

Do you still have your cycling scholarship? If so, how much does it pay for?
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01-29-2014 , 06:56 AM
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Originally Posted by El Diablo
Wu,

Do you still have your cycling scholarship? If so, how much does it pay for?
No. I lost it freshman year when I tried to be a poker player
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01-29-2014 , 06:57 AM
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Originally Posted by Banned4lyfe
How about getting a part time job? I know a couple of poors who do this.


Edit: How are you supporting yourself?
A couple days a week of waiting tables
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01-29-2014 , 08:30 AM
A couple other things of note:

My mother either is, or pretends to be, completely oblivious to how intensely I dislike my father. She cried a begged and pleaded me to drop off and pick him up at a knee surgery today like it was a reasonable thing to expect after everything that's happened between us. Her favorite guilt trip line is "it's part of being a family," which she'll repeat tens of times, sometimes accompanying tears, anytime she's trying to get me to do something. My father at least seems self aware of our schism, but he occasionally tries to give me "fatherly advice."

They both seem to be driven largely by appearances. My mom consistently says "what will the neighbors think" or something to that extent when I pressure her to divorce my dad. My dad, similarly, upon being threatened with divorce in a now standard run in said "but we were planning on having an Oscar party next week."
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01-29-2014 , 09:00 AM
It's not really up to u whether they get divorced or not, a divorce can be a long drawn out, and bitter ordeal not to mention the daunting financial aspect, plus your mother probably doesn't want to be alone especially as she's been ill previously. As long as they are paying for your stuff and allowing u the opportunity to move in with them then u should let them sort their own stuff out and focus on your own life. U can't have your cake and eat it.
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01-29-2014 , 11:09 AM
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If you do this, the likelihood that you will ever go back to college is very, very low.
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Originally Posted by Didace
This is not true.

I have no idea what the stats are, but I left college for two years, worked, and went back and graduated.
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01-29-2014 , 11:29 AM
Another thread with a made up story.

Standard for OP.
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01-29-2014 , 11:32 AM
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Originally Posted by microbet
I have no idea what the stats are, but I left college for two years, worked, and went back and graduated.
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Fewer than 5 percent of those who dropped out two or more times, however, succeeded in getting a four-year degree.
http://www.reuters.com/article/2013/...9B80EB20131209
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01-29-2014 , 11:41 AM
So students who stop going to college are less likely to graduate. I'm shocked. And students who stop going to college more than once are even less likely to graduate. Head explodes.
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