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01-28-2014 , 08:20 PM

#26

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Originally Posted by wutangpoker

It wouldn't be impossible to imagine that my dad is a 2+2 user. He was a big loser on UB, Party, Full Tilt, Pokerstars, Paradise, and others between 2003 and 2010

That excludes me then.

This sucks btw. Come moved into my house. Full room and board $200/month as long as you're in college full time. Plus we have some of the best cycling in the world.

ez game.

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01-28-2014 , 08:23 PM

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Originally Posted by waterwolves

That excludes me then.

This sucks btw. Come moved into my house. Full room and board $200/month as long as you're in college full time. Plus we have some of the best cycling in the world.

ez game.

Moving from one dysfunctional family to another is not a good strategy imo.

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01-28-2014 , 08:27 PM

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waterwolves

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Well throw that in my face.

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01-28-2014 , 08:27 PM

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It's a completely valid point.

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01-28-2014 , 08:30 PM

#30

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Originally Posted by wutangpoker

Would you guys postpone school, get a full time job, and cut off ties till financial independence if you were me?

I would be thinking the opposite. Can you get a degree that lands you a good job? If yes, I would focus everything on doing that - even taking on a little more debt if necessary.

What does your Dad do to behave like he does abd still bring home $100K+? can he get you any contacts that would help your career?

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01-28-2014 , 08:30 PM

#31

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Originally Posted by waterwolves

That excludes me then.

This sucks btw. Come moved into my house. Full room and board $200/month as long as you're in college full time. Plus we have some of the best cycling in the world.

ez game.

What are the chances I can go to the tennis tournament with your wife and her coach?

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01-28-2014 , 08:32 PM

#32

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I'm really regretting making this thread tbh because of his job. He has a security clearance... But he's an engineer

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01-28-2014 , 08:34 PM

#33

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What are the chances I can go to the tennis tournament with your wife and her coach?

100%

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01-28-2014 , 08:35 PM

#34

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100%

I'm in

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01-28-2014 , 08:35 PM

#35

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I'm really regretting making this thread tbh because of his job. He has a security clearance... But he's an engineer

I feel less bad because he's apparently retiring in three months

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01-28-2014 , 08:41 PM

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I'm really regretting making this thread tbh because of his job. He has a security clearance... But he's an engineer

That's amazing to me that he has a security clearance considering all the stuff you said he does.

My dad worked as an engineer with a security clearance in the 70's and 80's and we sometimes had neighbors come over the house and tell us that "some men" where asking around about him. Mostly stuff about drinking and his marriage, etc.

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01-28-2014 , 08:43 PM

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What does your pop do for a living?

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01-28-2014 , 08:45 PM

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Wu, you cycle? I'm planning to get back into it

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01-28-2014 , 08:49 PM

#39

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The first time he got arrested, he told work what happened and they let him stay employed. Afaik he has not told them about the second time he got arrested, and he's just trying to retire before they audit him.

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01-28-2014 , 08:51 PM

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Wu, you cycle? I'm planning to get back into it

Got a scholarship to school for it. Was trying to be a pro for a while, that's still at the back of my mind now

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01-28-2014 , 08:52 PM

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Got a scholarship to school for it. Was trying to be a pro for a while, that's still at the back of my mind now

Are you a road cyclist? I'm looking for a bike now but have a max budget of about 900. Probably gonna get something used

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01-28-2014 , 08:56 PM

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Would you guys postpone school, get a full time job, and cut off ties till financial independence if you were me?

Never. If one good thing is going to come out of the ****ty sutaution you fi nd yourself in, it's a degree.

Getting that piece of paper gives you far more independance than taking a crap job pre-graduation will.

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01-28-2014 , 09:01 PM

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I've changed my mind. OP, you should consider embracing the degeneracy: Move back in, have parents pay for school and take dad's gifts and if you're 21 go along w/ him to the strip clubs and get as many lap dances as he's willing to pay for. Might as well give the hookers a try as well.

Move away when you get your degree. That's the smart play, imo.

Clearly the best solution. Milk 'em for all they're worth, get your degree (and a few lap dances) and then bolt.

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01-28-2014 , 10:18 PM

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Out of curiosity, why are you posting about this now and not any other time in the past?

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01-28-2014 , 10:50 PM

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Out of curiosity, why are you posting about this now and not any other time in the past?

I house sat for them while they were in Florida. When they got home today, I was watching TV in their house. My mom said some ridiculous crap like "I guess you were just watching our tv the whole time!" and she started yelling at me immediately about the cat bowls being empty (even though there was still good in them). I just realized how much I dread interacting with them.

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01-28-2014 , 10:55 PM

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lol, wrong thread, we can do them here tho too

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01-28-2014 , 11:16 PM

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Would you guys postpone school, get a full time job, and cut off ties till financial independence if you were me?

Mate, you need to cut all ties with them. Period. Get out of that house. I havent read through the thread but do you still live with them? If yes, then go out and get a job man. And have nothing to do with them for a 1 year minimum break. You can re-evaluate after that period.
They are highly dysfunctional and its going to seriously affect you mentally if it hasnt already.
I know 100% what your going through.
Cut them out of your life. They will only drag you down. Sorry to say but you cant chose your parents. But your 20 now so you can go fully independent.

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01-28-2014 , 11:23 PM

#48

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I don't currently live with them. But I'm so broke at the moment that I might have to move in at some point. Mother is pressuring me to do so

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01-28-2014 , 11:49 PM

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I don't currently live with them. But I'm so broke at the moment that I might have to move in at some point. Mother is pressuring me to do so

I was only half kidding w/ my 'embrace the degeneracy' bit. If you are SO broke that you might have to move in w/ them later you might as well do it now and let them foot the bills. Since you've decided that you really hate them then that parts over and you don't have to try and fix them nor do you have to try to love them and that might lessen the pressure on you. Go on, take advantage of them, it won't be forever.