That guy had his **** absolutely together. Great job, well-dressed, smart...and when we went out he absolutely doted on me. He acted like everything I did was hilarious, brilliant, adorable. You'd have thought the 30 mins a day we'd chat on the phone was the best 30 mins of his day..
..and he did that ALL without ever being self-deprecating or insecure. He was absolutely, no questions, in charge. He liked himself without being vain or arrogant. His good opinion was something worth having.

I wish I knew how to explain what that was like better...but it was ****ing sexy. There was something amazing about someone you respected finding your inevitable mistakes--we're only human--adorable, or patiently teaching you another way.

And then, in private, he was a total dom. I mean total. There was nothing weak, beta, or powerless about the things he chose. He had absolute control of the "who, what, where, why, and when" of sex, without EVER being degrading. Just the opposite...he was...idk proud, I guess. He adored me more for wanting to make him happy.


So here's what I hope you'll take from this:

1. You think you might be a sub, or want a Dom woman, but you need to spend some time thinking about if that is something you really want, or if you're just on some sort of unhealthy, self-hating, downward spiral.

2. You can absolutely treat a woman well and still be powerful.

3. You REALLY need to spend some time sorting your **** out and getting comfortable with who you are.

4. A small dick is not the end of the world. If you're average length/circumference like you said, you're fine and need to stop worrying about it. Foreplay, kink, and lifestyle will be more than enough to bridge the "Great Sex" gap. I swear to God. That guy and his below average peen still checks in every 6 months to a year to see if I'm single or swinging, and, even though I'm 100% trustworthy, monogamous, and value integrity, I have a physical reaction every time. Peen size matters, but not in any way that is not easily negated.