Getting close to people with power is what 3rd world people are about as it's very concentrated in SEA.

If you're at the bottom you're the scapegoat for the crimes of the upper classes. When the former king of Thailand shot his brother guess who took the fall? Peasant worker staff that got executed.

Flight attendant, server at a fancy hotel / restaurant / hipster cafe is the way that lower class women hope to become a mistress or moving into a cushy job by putting out.

The western guy is generally the stepping stone for financing the necessary schooling / bribes.

Yea less risk if you are her first or second bf but still you would be naive to think that she won't change from traditional to westernized after working ~1 year as a flight attendant.

Never checked about data until today but not surprised:

https://www.her.ie/life/people-work-...partner-315779




As soon as she told me that one day she would like to be a flight attendant I told her straight that for me I don't want to have a flight attendant gf, there is no way, I didn't bullshit her. Then, her life her choice, if she really wants to follow her dream, she can break up with me for that, I won't get mad about it.

Nothing wrong with avoiding high risks of getting cucked by not dating for example girls who work in bars/nightclubs, kind of girls who will meet A TON of new guys every month in their daily life. The more girls you meet everyday the higher the chance that one day you will find a better version of your actual gf then update to your new gf v2, it goes both ways ofc, it's not hard to understand. You can call me beta if you want, for me I am just realistic, no rewards for taking this high risk spots in a LTR.

If we just accept the hypergamous nature of females, and have the woman be a compliment to your life, rather than the focus, it will lead to lot fewer mistakes. One cheat code is to find a young religious girl that hasn't yet been corrupted by modernity or hedonistic teachings.

As soon as a female wants me to pay for things or talks about traveling with me like i'm there to just feed her resources i end it real quick. My current gf always tries to make me spend less money on her. To her $20 is a lot of money and thinks it's insane to spend that much at a restaurant. The other week when i took her to a rooftop bar in Saigon and ordered her a mocktail (she doesn't drink alcohol) and I ordered a couple voda redbulls the bill was $25. When she saw the bill she was like wtf and had a bad conscience and told me she doesn't want to go back there.

One interesting "tell" i have found that is 100% accurate is when a female asks you to pay for her taxi. Literally run for the hills because it's guaranteed that she's a low quality gold digger.

I hate to break it to you but SEA is corrupt to the core from the policeman shaking down people to big gov at the top. Most girls that go for westerners are either ugly by local standards, straight up crazy (includes real or imagined rape victims) or belong to the peasant class and hope to upgrade their social status for themselves and their family. The social status upgrade is sually less through you directly but through your money (if they believe you have some). Lots of wannabe hi so thais have middle aged white backers that they prefer not to mention / show at all and once it becomes convenient the guy gets the boot.

A smart responsible guy has a talk to figure out what's up. Too many crazy women that could end your life or cause severe disruption when she goes into vengeful mode.

Every girl / woman wants something, whether it's marriage, moving to a western country or short term gains and may or may not have realistic ideas what you will bring to the table. Something for nothing is a very childish idea and just going with the flow while there are hidden unspoken expectations is a bad idea in SEA.

Women generally absolve themselves from any responsibilities everywhere in the world, even in the modern strong empowered femnazi environment, which means it's up to you to set her straight up front, make sure she has realistic expectations etc. preferably over the course of multiple dates in locations far away from your place of living.

seriously guys, you'd be a lot happier if you didn't invent all these coping constructs

there's a lot of truth in what you're typing out but when you make it your mantra that's just going to lead to a sad an unfulfilled life

i also think you're conflating a specific career with a general class, she's still the same person regardless of whether or not you "allow" her to work as a stewardess, you're already ok dating who that person is but you got some real insecurity hangups that won't be solved but rather swept under the rug temporarily by forbidding a specific line of work - what's next she can't go out with friends unescorted if males could be present?

seriously guys

Funny how you apply heuristics when you want but shame others for doing the same.

Also, my gf actually isn't into foreigners, she's the type that's into asian guys. I just got lucky.

If she's not into foreigners and you are a foreigner, then why is she with you? You think you got lucky, you didn't think she's with you for the $$$?

Thus far she has shown zero signs of being with me for the $$$. She pays for her own travel and actually buys me gifts (and she's only 18). Only because you have a certain type doesn't mean you don't end up with someone outside your type because you have a good connection.

I know nothing of this girl, but if she's a good girl with good family traditions then I guess it's nothing to worry about. Just thought it was a weird thing to read.

Believe me, it was also weird for me to write. I was just a bit irritated that iLiveInAsia just assumes that white guys only date falang chasers or dirt poor gold diggers etc etc. It's like jesus christ i've lived in asia long enough to really tighten my calling range and it's f-king embarrassing to be reading that stuff like I'm some uber noobie who just moved out of my parent's basement.

He does have a weird view of Asia, I don't think you can just put everything in box like that, surely people are way more complex and rather it being so black and white it's more grey.

Are there women who seek to take advantage of men, sure! Are there gangsters who run towns, sure.
Are some cops corrupt, sure.

Does that mean that every Thai or Asian person is the same?

To a degree but can we at least all agree that every SEA man that sees a foreign guy is fantasizing about brutally robbing and killing him?
Beyond that every person of course has a little nuance.

I'm in no position to speak as I don't know any Asian guys personally but from all the videos I have watched, I'd say no not really.

Srs question, why do you seek a super young(wouldn’t mention but you seem to mention 18 as a good thing) LTR, is it just for consistent sex? If so why does being Christian/honourable family matter? I’m assuming she can’t be mentally stimulating or challenging, what about this relationship makes it better from some slag?

Didn’t read some but in regards to ilia, I think as humans we are hardwired to try to move up in society, don’t think that is a SEA thing. If you happen to be on the lower rung, it seems like injustice but there isn’t much you can do about it.

Women with high notch counts are more likely to have personality disorders.

I personally wouldn't date any girl over 23, has been with more than 4 guys, or has divorced parents. And definitely no single mothers.

Actually we really vibe off each other. The first time we had a phone call together we spoke for 2.5 hours straight.

I mean if you’re intellectually challenged by a 18yr old girl speaking her 2nd language, then so be it, I will listen to the video if it will enlighten me more so than that.

You have to be pretty naive if you believe that men should even bother debating women about politics or philosophy. If you're doing that you're wasting your time.

Forget Ukraine or whatever other countries you were thinking about. I think you need to strongly consider Saudi Arabia as your next destination. Also hear Kabul is super cheap these days.
Oh, Christian, that's right. Mississippi? No online poker there, damn. Hmm...
Having a hard time thinking of somewhere that takes these religious values so strongly yet at the same time allows a god fearing man to make a living by outwitting people out of their money as opposed to actually adding value to their community.

Egypt, like 10% of the country are really hardcore christian and they also have a lot of the women shouldn't be seen nor heard life philosophy

it's truly terrifying how many people willingly embrace that men going their own way because they can't accept the fact they can't attract a model with a phd

I'm not a Christian. Sarcastic remarks also add no value to the community, then again value is subjective and that's just my opinion.

It's scary to think that you believe a woman with a phd automatically makes her opinion valuable. Oh, and trying to find an exception only proves the rule.

lol you missed the point entirely chobo

whether you realize it or not, you're not seeking a partner, you're looking for a pet and it's probably not going to end well

I'm sorry that you're stuck in this feminine outlook on the world where both men and women are the same.