What type of Visas do you all have? Are they tourist visas where your always applying for extensions and dong border runs or w.ever or do people who live there for a while have a type of visa that allows you to live in the country for "x" number of months or years or w.ever?
most are here on tourist visas. it is not that big of a hassle in the end
with one entry you get stamped for 60 days when you arrive and you can extend it for further 30 days for 1900 at any immigration office. after the 90 days total you have to do a border run.
i am not sure how bkk people do these usually but from phuket i usually fly to kuala lumpur. from departure to landing(phuket to phuket) it takes 5 hours so about 8-9 hours door to door.
you can get a non-immigrant visas too for various reasons like being married to a thai, have a child with a thai or for learning thai for example. they are usually valid for a year but you still have to leave the country every 90 days