Nonzero chance the code thing is just a ruse to distract us from the chicken wing calorie hilarity.

*rouge

So you're saying there ain't no thing but the chicken wing?

Agreed, let's move on.

The softball thing is him telling me where my place is and how much of his time i get to have. It's him driving home the fact that he will never be committed to me and doesn't want to be.

If his brother, sister, or mom want him to do something with them on a weekend it's an instant yes and cancelation with me. If I want him to do something during the week, it's a hard No, and an argument that I even asked. I'm allowed Friday and Saturday nights, no exceptions.

It's an hour game at night, so it's not like he will just be miserable. And, it's him supporting me in something. It was the same damn argument last year. He finally came to one game and then just mad fun of me and my teamafter I told him how important it was for him to support me in something.

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And I think the reason he doesn't want to leave his mom's early is because he doesn't want to say he is going to see me. I think he has still kept it hidden the last 2 years that he is with me and doesn't want anyone to know. He is still ashamed to be with me and hiding our relationship.

And I was holding his hands inside and looking up at him and wanted him to tell me he loved me. He said, "you aren't leaving yet". He will never look at me in the eyes ane say it. He doesn't want to do.anything that's too "loving" or whatever.

M,
What would Ockum's Raiser say the explanation for Code's behavior is?

MLYLT,

Back to using present tense I see.

That he really doesn't love me.

Pay dat man his manies

Indeed.

MLY,

You need to stop seeing things as you want them to be and start seeing them how they actually are. As many ITT have told you literally hundreds of times over the last few years, it's quite clear that he doesn't want any relationship with you beyond weekend sex, and hasn't for years. Maybe this will be the time it finally sticks, but I doubt it.

Welp, I guess now that MLYLT has made a finalized decision about code there is no real need to dwell on the matter.

GRUNCH:

mly,

How's quitting smoking going? It's a good thing you don't have anything super stressful happening in your life now like relationship problems or extra responsibility at work. That would make things A LOT more difficult!

M, what kind of stuff are you planning on doing in Galveston this weekend? I googled the place and it looks kinda interesting.

Mlylt,

You have a lot of very extreme things you try and do and even more extreme failures.

If you focus on being a reliable worker without an attitude problem toward your boss, never eating fast food, logging accurately, and being a great mom to your daughter that should (based on what you've shown on 2+2) take up all of your mental and physical energy.

Focus on that, allow yourself to be without a man and commitment, work on yourself (stop ****ing smoking ffs) and when you have become the best you, then find someone at your peak, who will be awesome.

Which scenario will result in husband-material:

A) I'm quitting smoking, I weigh 230 on a bad day, I just got out of a toxic relationship, I fight with my boss at work, etc.

B) I haven't smoked in over a year, I weigh 160 as a former athlete and bring the thicc, I'm a strong single mother with a great career as an engineer, which supports myself and daughter and we go on vacations together sometimes.

In scenario B you could find a really great dude who will have virtually everything you want and will treat you right.

In scenario A you are gonna find some low life who is willing to stick his dick in crazy.

You are literally 1 year of focus, hard work, and determination from setting yourself up for a successful LIFE.

Everything you have been through, the mistreatment you have put up with, the lack of self-respect, poof it's gone.

You can have the ****ing world if you can focus your mind on a longer term basis and not the donut/cigarette/burger that's within reach.

I mean you have been posting as Babs Jr. for literal years now. If you can be an adult and set some serious long term goals for yourself you will be in a sweet situation in as little as 12 months.

Just ****ing do it already.

Smoking is going okay, still a few a day.

I'm not sure yet. I'll have to see what all there is to do. My daughter has been begging to go to the beach...with code3 and I

My sister and her 2 kids that are around the same age as my daughter and my older niece with her 2 small kids want to come as well. We will have our hands full with the kids.

M, if i was being cynical and overwhelmingly negative, I’d suspect you’re bringing your daughter up to make code feel guilty - which has happened before - but i won’t think that.

Okay. Thank you.

MLYLT,

When was your latest (direct) communication with code?

And it begins... Don't use your daughter as an excuse to do something you know you shouldn't. That's the same bull**** you did last time you were supposedly taking a break from Code.

Larry,

Great post.

Like Larry said, small, manageable, incremental goals leading to progressive achievement are the key to success.

No. I'm just hoping she doesn't ask about him and I can not get upset in front of her. She is still young, hopefully she can forget about him pretty easily and it won't be an issue.

I wonder if it would have been easier two years ago?