I dislike spacing out the 'date setup' ----> 'actual date' so far like that on the 1st date. She will generally cool off / feel less attachment, second guess herself, and overall flake more IMO. Hell, I would prob even forget what she looked like after 5 days if not for facebook. Be sure to be actively hitting on girls and setting up other dates in the meantime.

As played, I assume you've already facebooked her. Prob send her a playful message 36-48 hours later and go on from there. It would be better to under-contact her then to be up in her grill too much.

go out with her, she wants you. She initiated and asked you on a date. Girls usually don't do that.

>Thin brag on car

Feeding,

You are still a man if you want to cuddle afterwards. You don't have to seek our approval.

On the slim chance you are serious...since she came all that way just to satisfy you, the correct play is to offer her a bed. One that not yours...perhaps your parent's? That would be a nice touch. Tell her you have to work tomorrow and you can't sleep with another person in the bed. Then bang her again in the morning when you wake up and take her to the train station, or if you are really baller, order a stretch limo to to take her to the train station. This will confuse her. Not only will you increase the total amount of hilarity and confusion in the universe, you will have a willing **** buddy no matter how badly you treat her afterward.

Here's an idea. Maybe she thinks sex is fun, thinks your hot, wants to **** you, and could give two ****s about the train/leaving. :P

If she wants to stay afterwards, let her stay. If she wants you to drive her home, explain that it is out of your way blablabla you'd rather do it tomorrow, or whatever. Just explain if you hit a conflict.

lol. have fun trying to F this one up. Whatever you do, just remember she has feelings.

FYP, she is a ginger remember.

What's the correct play with a girl you talk to online and live in the same town, but never hang out? I met this girl 6 years ago, but only hung out once due to gfs being in the picutre, jealousy thing, etc. Eventually I hope to actually meet up with her. Do you:

a) handshake
b) hug
c) kiss cheek
d) kiss top of hand
e) none of the above?

Feel like all of them are odd, but hate doing nothing. Think a) is just weird and only for people you've never met, c) is way too personal, d) is too movie-esque and more for a different situation...so i guess b)? FWIW, she knows she's on my "bucket list" basically, but have a gf currently.

Secondly, what would you do if you always wanted to date the girl, but always seem to be in a relationship? It's one of those things like you like the girl you're dating, but can't really dive deeper in it yet due to uncertainability in career path, as well as always wanting to date this other girl. I don't know if she would for sure ever date me, but hate to just break it off with one to try and get with this other, when the relationship is good now with the gf.

I have no idea what you'd do if you were from Kansas, but in Europeland it's fine to kiss on the cheek (my problem is that I never know which country/region do 1, 2, 3 or 4 kisses). Do Americans find this to be so personal?

You really can't do d) by the way, unless it's the 17th century and you're a courtier.

A hug would be normal and should not at all feel weird.

I see older people do it, but don't know how old you have to be to have it considered "normal" lol..

I would be infinitely more likely to kiss a stranger's cheek than hug them. Though an old female friend would likely get both.

High 5 her

Hey guys,
I have posted in this thread before and gotten some very good advice and a situation came up this weekend and I need some help to help me figure out if i have a play and what the correct play is.

Was at a friends cabin for 2 days this sunday/monday and 1 of his cousins was a girl a few years younger then myself. 25, she is 22. Anyways, I did not get a chance to talk to her very much as there was a large group of people up there and she mainly hung out with her brothers and friends, while I hung out with my friends and stuff. Anyways, when our groups would be together she would also seem to engage me, and when we would see each other she was always looking at me etc, basically I think she is interested.

She told me she goes to school by me and the restaurant she works at. Below are the best 3 plays I have come up with. BTW my friend doesn't hang out with his cousin much so hanging around him trying to hang out with her isn't really an option.

play 1. go to restaurant and run into her. Obv don't tell her I came just for her, tell her that I wish we would of gotten to know each other more over the weekend and see if we can hangout.

play 2. Friend her on FB. Once she accepts and doesn't message me, message her same thing as above. Obv if she messages me, I'm in. Yes this play has worked before as I friended a girl I just meet and she messaged back with number

play 3. wait for her to fb friend me and I message her. Obv don't really care for this play.

play 4. No friend just message. This play worked for a buddy of mine. idk how I feel about it.

I'm leaning towards #2. And so what would you message girl when she accepts, something like.

It was nice meeting you this weekend, its too bad we didn't have more of a chance to hangout. Lets go out sometime for drinks.

Also i realize that this can basically only result in 2 ways, 1 a date or 2 comes off as extremely creepy.

friend her on fb, then ask for her number and go from there. i definitely would not go to her restaurant as it might seem creepy even if you weren't "there just for her" and it might be difficult to interact if she's working.

Eughhhh fml, my ex is n POF...

What a horrible feeling seeing her, aren't I supposed to be over her by now? (4 months almost after 4 years).

Everytime I search now I see her face ffs.

lol

Agreed.

what is POF?

If she's on Plenty of Fish, it means she's doing very badly at meeting men. Women who have self respect or real life dating opportunities don't use it. If you want to get back with her, this is good thing IMO.

Well strangely it did make me feel good, and bad at the same time. Good that she obviously isn't with anyone else, bad that I have to see her picture all the time.

I do agree it's like 95% skanks from what I've seen, but match.com has like 5 people in my area that are <23 so it's impossible to get a date there.

I don't want to get he back, our relationship was OK but only way I would is if she made some serious changes which I doubt she ever would. Plus it's dumb to think I would be with my 1st serious gf forever.

I might just message her. Creepin her at the restraunt is too weird. Take whatever route is quickest from talk to her->ask her out. Anything else is lame.

Also all this planning is lame. If you see her regularly ask her out then. Care less would you. Many fish in the sea.

Four years is a long time and I would say it owuld be weird if you were over her already.

What's the usual time frame?

I hate human emotions.

it varies, but after me and my gf of 3 years broke up because she wanted to move to Italy, it took me probably 8 months to really get totally over it.

banging other girls will def help speed up the time too.

Ok so i wish I'd never gona on POF now. I decided to message my ex, just being friendly cos it was her bday recently and I knew she'd be seeing me on there etc.

I just said hi and happy day etc and asked how she was. I said i hope she doesn't meet any weirdos off her and meets someone nice.

She replies with something like 'Oh thanks I got pushed into comin on here! I actually did meet someone a month after we split, we dated for 3 months then he dumped me because his business was failing'

So that set me off, worst feeling in the world.. I just said why would you ever tell me that? I didn't ask who she had been ****ing since we split just how she was.

Now I'm just saying how I think it's BS how we split so fast etc and she's acting like she has a stone heart and doesn't even care...