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Originally Posted by thebigeasy59
I've been in touch with a girl over the last month or so after asking her out at the end of last semester. We've been messaging back and forth since then but haven't hung out in person yet due to exams and christmas break and such. I messaged her today with something along the lines of "Let's get together sometime this week. I'm planning on going to open mic on Wednesday if that's your scene. If not that, I'm going to [location] to see my friend doug and his friends' band play a gig thursday night if you're interested in that. (and then said other stuff that isn't so much on topic.)" She answered back with "Oh I'd get all cranky if I went to open mic. way too busy for me. Let's check out your friends' concert tho."
Now for the Q and A-
1) I drink fairly heavily. If she's not a bar person then there could obv be some kind of effect, but is this ever really a deal-breaker?
2) this concert my buddy is having costs $3. pay her way or no? if it was dinner or w/e then I most likely wouldn't pay, but this is a $3 event that I invited her to.
3) is a 1-on-1 thing better here, or should we hang out with my other friends who are also going? Most/all of these friends are also girls if that makes a difference.
4) Ideally I'm looking for a spot as far from the band as possible, where we can talk as opposed to actually paying attention to the band, right? When I suggest we go see this band, she's not expecting that we actually go to listen to the band, right?
TR-
Stopped by her apartment just after 6, and she accuses me of being late, but jokingly and with a huge smile on her face.
"Wat? I said shortly after 6" I say, and pulled out my ipod to show her that it was ~6:10. I'm actually fairly surprised how excited she appears to be to see me. She asks if we're in a rush, to which I obv reply that we aren't, so she says that she wants to stop by campus to pick up her other shoes (she was wearing really funny sneakers at the time fwiw).
We get to the place where we're eventually going, and our table happens to be right beside my roommate and her boyfriend's, which isn't really a big deal I suppose.
I mention that I had Subway at like 3 and that I'm not incredibly hungry, but we decide to order food anyway. (I got a ****ing burger for some reason and regretted ti immediately when I saw the size of it. This thing was ****ing massive. I immediately got scared that I was going to look like a goat trying to eat the thing.)
Over the ~3.5 hrs that we were together, I think I stopped laughing like twice. My face actually really hurts from smiling so much, and she was smiling and laughing just as much. I really thought things were going well. As we were leaving, we run in the guy that I know who was playing and he tells us a really funny story and I almost piss myself, and as I'm walking her home we talk about him and how I know him and such. I'm not done talking by the time we get to her place, so she suggests that we continue just walking around randomly. (Brag? I mean she could have just said "okay I'm home, bye!" but she didn't) We walk around aimlessly for another half an hour for whatever reason, talking about nonsense.
When we get back to her place I ask her to put her number in to my phone, but she replies that she doesn't have a phone. She's just barely weird enough that I believe her. I'm so thrown off be the fact that someone can actually not have a phone in this day and age that I'm pretty much silenced for the remainder of the exchange.
I give her my phone number and tell her that I enjoyed myself "and would like to get together again" to which she replies, and I quote: "Mmmm, perhaps." Body language didn't really match what she said at any point when she was joking around earlier or w/e, and I just got a really weird vibe completely different than what I was getting for the other 3.49 hours we were together.
Cliffs:
girl wears funny shoes, but gets different shoes so as to have regular looking shoes.
Eat without being hungry for some reason.
We both laughed our heads off.
She wants to hang out a little while longer, though she doesn't invite me up.
I suggest we get together again and she seems meh about it.