Had a chance to hook up with a couple different rando's last night who were both pretty hammered and I wasn't. One had a tounge ring and I thought of some bs line that would have worked to make out with her but I didn't pull the trigger probably a good thing though. My second head wishes I would have but my first head is glad I didn't lol

If shes pretty hammered than i doubt you actually need a line to hook up with her, unless there is no dancing t the party in which case..lol

Nah there wasn't really any dancing going on, it was kinda a small party. But its not like I needed a line I just thought is was kinda funny. Looking back on it though I think not hooking with her was the right move.

why?

I wasn't really drunk enough to not care and she was really drunk. Plus My group was getting ready to bounce and get food and they were leaveing to.

I've hooked up with a couple of "DUFFS" lol since I have moved so I am trying to go for more attractive girls/relationship material girls I guess

Actually, quick question.

I'm going home next weekend and fully intend to hook up with N if possible (now that I'm single). The problem is I really haven't talked to her in about a month since I've been involved with M and that seemed dodgy to try to keep a hookup on the back burner at home while I had a gf.

Ideas for re-connecting?

FWIW when I was home 4 weeks ago (right before M and I went official) we went out for drinks and she pretty much threw herself at me. I denied her at first and then gave in.

Just text her that you're going home and want to meet up with her/do stuff as you had fun last time. Can't see why that wouldn't work

Went out with a group of friends tonight to a comedy thing. I end up sitting to a girl who I don't know near the edge of the group. Turns out she's boring, doesn't drink doesn't really do much and is really really quiet and impossible to hold a conversation with. >.> Usually I'm the one who can easily talk for days with people but it was impossible with her.

So temped to go the lazy route and just hook up with a less attractive girl at the moment, just because its easier and I haven't had any while. sadface.

@ILM agreed with what fb said. Just text her and see if she want to get together and go out.

@fb yeah its always tough when you sit next to a girl and try and make good convo and she just responds with one word answers.

Also I lol'ed at the lazy route. If the girls is coming on to you pretty strong its hard to say no especially if its been a while.

How is facebook im > facebook message? Isn't the former way creepier since you're basically stalking them waiting for them to come online?

why haven't you uploaded the picture of aforementioned chick's ass yet?

yeah but they don't know that

this

Message > IM

I think I'm leaning towards this as well.

Really for facebook? I think instant messaging them has a much greater potential for showing off your wit and humor. A one off facebook message can be pretty easily ignored or forgotten unless you have already built significant attraction.

time. lots of time. id tell you youll eventually forget about her, but i would be a hypocrite.

I do actually agree with the message sentiment as well, although both are FAR from optimal.

Aces, work on yourself. If you're not already awesome, figure out why not and make a plan to become awesome. The rest takes care of itself.

Though I agree, this can backfire.

Depending on his personality and such, "working on yourself" as in giving yourself time to figure everything out in your head, might be terrible. At least for me it can be. I can expand if wanted.
But, yeah the best would be to just get your head high, get out there, go to parties with buddies, meet a few new people, maybe not even play the "game" as people refer to it here, just party with good friends and have some good fun and let time pass instead of fighting your mind/feelings.

this post says absolutely nothing in a lot of words

explain what "working on yourself" is?

working on yourself usually always means working out, dressing better, and acquiring more currency

I don't think you read what I wrote quite right.

Work on yourself =

(1) Get in better shape
(2) Become better with people
(3) Become more interesting
(4) Take up new hobbies
(5) Go out
(6) Hang out with friends
(7) Make manies
(8) ????
(9) Profit


To be added --> Dress better, switch up your cologne, get a cooler haircut, whatever. There's a laundry list of ideas but they more or less boil down to getting better at things that make you attractive.

Alright well to explain myself I guess, I was looking at the more mental aspect(in some regards), because people tend to "think" themselves to death when they are in situations like he is.

I know I've been there, though I move out of it quickly, if other people have that problem too it leads to depression, etc.

And what is this "figuring it out in your head" bs. There is almost never anything to figure out.

For example, I just broke up yesterday. Albeit a very short relationship, I didn't spend time "trying to figure it out" in my head. I talked to the girl, figured out why I was incompatible with her, took mental notes of what to look out for as warning signs in the future, and went out and hit on new girls. You can't make yourself get over someone, and some people are better at it than others, without a doubt.

Conversely, there are actions you can do to facilitate the process. IME, the best thing to do is immerse yourself in so much other **** that you simply don't have time to waste thinking about her. This purpose is twofold in that it also helps you become a more attractive version of yourself in the future, which brings new options onto the table, which makes getting over the old one a cinch.

I agree with what your saying but its not as easy as just doing it for some people

There are people out there who just want to be alone once they figure out that they miss somebody

obv im playing devils advocate and kinda feel like a chick just saying ^ but w/e