fly bear, it sounds like she is trying really hard to tell you something. You need to figure out what that is. Just my opinion, though.

So things are looking up: taking a road trip tomorrow through Cali up the west coast. Tips for mackin around San Diego/LA beach towns/SF/Portland? I'm traveling solo, planning to stay in hostels and couch surf when I can. Lots of people say girls in hostels are easy, but I've never seen evidence except for this fat chick that ****ed the guy on the bunk above me in my hostel in Prague when I was sleeping in the middle of the night. That sucked.

I heard Santa Barbara has the finest girls in the whole world and it's a must see. Confirm/deny?

Towny lives in Santa Barbara, and he dates Kara Scott, soo.....

gocubsgo i'm in sac if you come through there. PM me you're # if you want and if there's any parties or kickbacks while you're in the area i'll let u know

ok so im flying back early enxt week and im gunna facebook message groom's sister. very much regret that i forgot to get her # at the wedding. oh well. fb message good enoguh.

however im not juts sending a "let's hang out if you want to?"

rather i'd like to come at her with a very specific activity for us to do when i get back. any ideas? something taht isnt stupid please

Reading Phillies game

not bad actually

bowling tho

give her a kit kat

the candy or an animal

play poing though....o wait youi dotn fuc fir;lgs yopu arte gay i get it////gl with findingh **** to **** karak...you are so gay

almost 1am and i'm still home. gotta wait another 15-20min to get the car and then gotta drive like 15-20min to a place on the absolute bare minimum of directions.

me and a friend were only invited and we have another like 5 ppl showing up so hopefully it's not a problem. the girl i'm "seeing" now is there. should be bringing her back to my place where i'll pound town and fall asleep cuz i'm already tired. wokeup at 8am today when i usually wakeup at like 4pm

candy

I have this friend that can always seem to go home with a girl, and he makes out with them, and even sleeps in their bed sometimes, but can never close the deal because I think he's too big of a pussy. And then the girl's stop talking to him. I told him that girl's can quickly read that he's a virgin (he might be) and they don't wanna deal with him anymore. He says, "lol there's no way a girl could get a read like that." He says that he doesn't want to go all the way with a girl he just met because they might accuse him of rape. I told him that he's nuts. I'm not sure what else to tell him. I know with me personally, I just try to be somewhat aggressive, but not overly so, and go all the way unless the girl tells me to stop; in which case I would gladly stop. But in general, I don't find closing the deal to difficult. So what's wrong with my friend?

he's probably gos

wait what?

Reminds me of the Louis CK bit that LKJ linked to earlier

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=za7jQ1s1BV0

It's kind of counter-intuitive, but being assertive and even mildly aggressive in the situation helps for two reasons:A) it gives her some assurance you know wtf you're doing and B) girls actually tend to feel less attractive if a guy doesn't attempt to sleep with them. TBE59 has a great example of this in his blog where he mentions walking home with a girl after the bar and her clearly stating there was no way they were sleeping together that night. Needless to say that wasn't the case. Girls like and want sex as much or more than guys but realize that they lose a lot of value if they don't at least try and be a challenge.

TR from last night cuz no one ever makes TR now-a-days:

had 2 of my friends and 3 girls drive 20minutes to the party. right when they get there the people we know there say they're leaving. so they all go home, i assume really pissed, but i didn't talk to them for the rest of the night. i was still at home and wasn't planning to leave for another 15minutes.

girl i'm seeing says they're going to this guys house kinda by me to hangout. she says to come then her friend calls and says don't bother. so i call the girl i'm seeing and she doesn't seem very into it. in the back of my head i'm like wtf we're dating this is weird. i hangup and start texting two girls that are potential bootycalls when i get a call like 15minutes later from the girl saying to come.

i go and it's wack. i can't really drink cuz i'm driving and don't even have a license so i drink a beer and tell her lets walk around. we walk around the apartments and talk about random ****. we end up leaving her friends and going back to my place. the plan is to drink there and i'll drive in the morning. well when we get there things change. she now says she doesn't want to drink anymore and she's sitting across the room from me. we then have this kind of long convo about how she doesn't think i'm serious about the dating thing since i just randomly asked her out and that she thinks i just did it to have sex (which is pretty true but i also like going on dates and stuff).

we end up making out and like feeling but it doesn't progress. i think it's ridiculous but i can't blame her she's smart and rightfully has her doubts about everything. i had been up for like 24hrs by now with little sleep the night before so i'm sure lines i was saying weren't very convincing. i end up taking her home, well to her friends house since she stays in a different city, at 6am. i get the ultimate breakfast at mcd's on the way back and pass out as soon as i hit my bed.

edit- wrote this while on the toilet and my leg fell asleep. now i can't even get into the shower it feels to weird to move

btw i ended up sending that girl a short, but funny message that offered her options of things she can do with me when im back in town and asked her to pick one and text me her answer

will post results later

QFMFT!

I almost want to get this tattooed on myself.

hey i'm back. idk if any of you guys remember me but i posted a lot here back 5 months ago when i was totally clueless with women and was desperate about not getting any. well i got lucky one time, but then unfortunately i got bogged down with classes and trying to maintain a good gpa, reverted back to my introverted self, and stopped being social and going to parties.

anyways, the reason i'm posting here isn't about girls. its about both guys and girls. at my freshman dorm i screwed up my social value. i'm moving to a different dorm next year where i know not too many people, and i'd like to NOT screw this up again. essentially i would like to stop being thought of as a loser and instead create a good reputation for myself and get a circle of friends of guys and girls. then, once i've created a good social circle, maybe I'll begin thinking of hooking up at parties and/or getting a gf.

i am determined that this time i won't end up a weird antisocial loser like i did last time. so since i'm basically getting a mulligan to start over, any advice on how to create a good rep for yourself and create a good social circle would be much appreciated.

Though I don't think that I'm quite as introverted as you from your description, I'm fairly introverted and had to start a social circle from scratch when I moved to a new state last year.

In short, be friendly and outgoing to anyone and everyone. Don't discern, just try to relate to everyone you come across. You can separate the wheat from the chaff later, just try to befriend as many people as possible first.

It sounds like it won't come naturally to you to be outgoing, but **** it, force yourself. I had to do that to some extent. This is one area where "fake it 'til you make it" totally applies.

GG are you the type to date multiple ppl at once? is that the std / am i a pussy for not doing so?

GG is actually James Bond in disguise. At the young age of 17 (which is like now, right?) he's dated 15 supermodels and won over 500,000* playing baccarat. He doesn't even try to hide women 1, 2 and 3 from women G, Z and Y. He actually kinda rubs their noses in it.

However, he drinks his martinis stirred, which actually puts him a step over Bond in my book.