Roommate?
Just like the workplace,not a good idea.
Especially judging from your first paragraph.

I leave in a week so it's fine. Should have made that clear.
Not sure what you mean with first paragraph. I meant getting acquinted, showing the neighbourhood std stuff

I think she would have been super stoked if you made a move.

@mana, you had nothing to lose by making a move, if you weren't moving out in a week i would have waited it out a bit till you 2 went out again then made a move. but since you're leaving in a week you should have at least tried imo. hopefully there will be another opportunity where you 2 are alone

The actual science is that men and women are different hormonally and you don't need a PhD to know that's going to cause them to think and behave differently.

The not so obvious concept is that men and women's brains are different, and that requires actual research to conclude this as shown in these articles:

http://www.scientificamerican.com/ar...ly-than-women/

http://www.forbes.com/sites/daviddis.../#ee65c131d0c0

Nothing in the two articles you posted backs up this statement. They don't post any numbers about how large the difference is between the sexes. They even refute some of what you've claimed:

Scientific American

"Currently, scientists can't quantify how much an individual has male- or female-like patterns of brain connectivity. "

Forbes
"An additional caveat — this study has also come under fire by statisticians who looked at the numbers and agree that while the results do show a difference between the number of cross-hemisphere connections between male and female brains, the outcomes are not as substantial as originally interpreted. Indeed, when reanalyzed, one of the striking outcomes of this study seems to be how much overlap exists between neural connections in female and male brains."


I think most people would agree that there is a difference on average in emotion/logic between men and women; everyone is just arguing on the degree of difference, and I don't know how anyone here can answer that except anectdotally. Also, something to think about is how we can be biased by the men and women we hang out with. We choose our male friends almost completely based on personality(I'm assuming). It seems like everyone on here values logic, so the males that we're around most of the time will likely have more logic than the rest of the male population. But when thinking about the women we want to be around, we have to add in how much we value their attractiveness. We're more willing to be around women with less logic if they are more attractive. There would be less of a difference in our world view if we only sought out women based on their personalities like we do with men.

Reasonably attractive.

Would you consider that a great compliment?

So you're mildly attracted to her,she's your roommate.

Your only out is you're leaving soon.

So it's casual sex,might want to make it perfectly clear to her.

None of those statements you just quoted refute what I said. The articles are proving the different "wiring" in the male and female brain.

Why would I care what an individual person has? It's going to vary from person to person, and that's why not every male thinks the same way and not every female thinks the same way. We are talking about a large population here, not a specific individual.

How substantial was it as originally interpreted? How much difference is there really? And even if it is quantifiable, how do we know how big of a difference it will make?

Just because there is a lot of overlap, doesn't mean there aren't big differences. The DNA between chimps and humans is somewhere between 95-98% the same. We have similarities, but there are also a lot of differences.


All that being said, these articles still fail to address the huge issue of hormones. That alone could be the difference between how women and men think and behave. There's a lot more research to be done, clearly, but it seems the evidence is leaning towards a difference. Then you can throw in tons of damning anecdotal evidence. I still stand by my original point in strongly disagreeing with kaby. When it comes to daily life, I don't really think it is that close. When it comes to dating and relationships, then yes, I think emotions can consume some people, and the gap narrows. There are just too many stupid people who can't think logically and really can only think emotionally. I think if you took an intelligent man and intelligent woman, the gap will still be obvious. If you took a stupid man and woman, there probably isn't much gap, if any, as they are probably going to be mostly emotional people in relationships and daily life.

Fair enough, I shouldn't say refute...it's more that they don't back up your claim. Again, no one's arguing that there aren't differences between the sexes, but there doesn't seem to be any proof whether that difference is "large" or "small"(How would this even be quantified?) other than personal opinion/anecdotes.

Not this couch **** again.

Fair enough. My character is easy-going/relaxed but also because of that a bit passive which sometimes hurts me with girls. I flirt/get flirted with a lot so if I had more of GGesque type aggression I would do much better, something to work on.

Anyway she won a bet that drunken night whih means I have to go to a bar and do some shots so I will just use that to set up new plans to go out and take it from there. Thanks guys

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Eey,

Yeah think I covered that by mentioning me and some other girl will go out of town and spend night at a hotel tonight so she knows it would be just casual.

She asked me why I didnt invite that other girl I am currently dating to the drinking night with my roommates (Lol why would I do that) which was a bit of a tell though.

COUCH GIRL

hahah blast from the past. Need LKJ to pop in

I have asked quite a bit of advice about sealing the deal. This time it's a more practical problem.

I been dating this Chinese girl I mentioned before. Completely my type (asian, big boobs), but traditional.

She never had sex but really wants to tonight. So we try to but the problem is, she is asian and a virgin. While I am 6'4 European

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So I put a finger in but that is already a bit painful. Takes a few minutes then I try 2 but it is really hard and takes a lot of time. At this point my dick gone soft. She gives bj go get it hard and so I put on a condom (not helping..). At this point she is like a clam again so i still have to use fingers first.
Try this a few times.. But no luck

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Anyone have experience with asian girls/virgins that can help? Positions that make it easier? First time asian and first time with a virgin for me.
We gonna try again tonight.

Sounds like vaginismus,really hard to treat,maybe her having a couple of drinks or a muscle relaxer could help.

She can be totally willing but the muscles around the vagina are tensing up or spasmodic.

Had a girl I dated that had problems with penetration,it took forever to get her to relax,no matter how eager she was.

No real good advice,except be patient and understanding.

Don't want to jinx it but my friend's birthday is tonight and he usually has a ******ed good ratio of girls to guys so I was already looking forward to it, but decided to take my shot at the two girls I like the most right now and haven't done anything with either.

Both have the same stereotype of me that 2p2 does so they're def coming for the party not a date, but the fact I invited both into a house with presumably a bunch of other girls, some of whom I've hooked up with, is going to be interesting.

One I invited on Tuesday and we didn't talk about it again, so today I invited my #1 crush (bathing suit pics girl) thinking she'll probably say no but at least the invite is cool, like I screenshotted the fb invite that has 100+ ppl going. Surprising she said yes I'll bring a gf but I can't stay out late I have work.

Then original girl text me today saying is it cool if I bring 5 girlfriends?

Hnnnggg. I wouldn't be surprised if the other one bails so I'm glad I did it. Only way this goes bad is if the party is weaker than it seems like it'll be.

I'm doing my best though, Hawaiin/beached themed, we got ppl cooking, I'm bringing a small pool to put beer in and a bigger one either with sand or water I haven't decided. I bought two animal pool floaties I'm blowing up just as decoration in the house.

Also bought a treasure chest piñata and filling it with little baggies of flour, but then splitting a gram of real coke into a couple of the bags as well.

I'll try to snapchat stuff a lot. Hope I run good and it goes smoothly

Be cool.

If he always has a good girl to guy ratio I probably wouldn't invite any girls, but that is probably why you crush and I'm in a relationship. It just sounds like a good opportunity to meet new people.

The piñata idea make me laugh.

My thinking behind that is like if there's a lot of girls don't invite the 6/10 you're trying to hookup with. You'll handcuff yourself into that all night for someone you're not that into and if there's a girl you like she'll assume you're completely taken and think that's the only quality you can get.

If there's more guys than girls don't bring your 9/10, the guys will put a lot of pressure on it, the 9/10 will be very aware of how much she's standing out.


So the girl I invited is probably an objective 7.5, I think I like her more than some ppl would. I'll DM the photo on twitter to let LT5, Custer, or whoever is on there and they can weigh in. Can't post her on here, at least now. More so than that rating, I like really wanted it to be something so you can skew the rating higher for the example.

So I wanted guys to be distracted with other girls around her and us just be able to enjoy the party. I also don't want to have to worry about me walking away from her and her being swarmed or uncomfortable.

I think a lot of ppl have th opposite line of thought when it comes to women, not saying I'm right but ya I've had success with playing it like that.

Any ways I'm going to post about the night in the next post but she came with 4 friends who were all even hotter than her and they were definitely the most attractive ones at the party

so me and my ex gf (feels weird to say that lol) broke up, just thought ild let yal know. Feeling sad atm but im sure ill get through.. feel like it was the right move everything considered. cant wait for lucid to chime in and tell me all about it.

did you go round 2 howd it go?

anyway if not imo for the first few times until you feel like shes loosening up enough just finger her and lick her out to get her more comfortable. Then when you think shes ready a lil alcohol and lots of lube. It gona hurt her tho no way round that i don't think.

Sorry to hear but breaking up sounded for the best. Now just explore and enjoy freedom

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Yeah she stayed over last night. First got a nice spiel about how she should go home. Few hours later she gets her tooth brush out her purse and asks if I have tooth paste .. LOL girls

Anyway was not super enjoyable. Had sex but was meh so went back to bj etc. She was less tight tho. It was emotional for her and not super pleasant for me so I just cut it short

Shout out to Eey. Always solid advice thanks man. Appreciate it

Also Life tip for china visitors: Chinese condoms are nut-low so stock up big time

Sorry to hear. What else is there to say...kids in their early 20s break up, I'm not gonna ring the alarm.

Breaking up is rarely easy,not much you can say except learn from it.
Take responsibility for your part in it,don't beat yourself up about it,do better next time.
Don't feel like you have to get in another relationship right away...don't try to bang everyone with a pulse...
Kinda simple really.

Thanks for the kind words mana,I just hope my two cents helps every once in a while.

Swoni,my last breakup involved her wrecking the car I bought her,she did it in front of me out of spite.

So it can always be worse.