Difference between a long term gf and one of a couple months. I spend zero on coworkers and love who I work with. I'm not cheap at all. My last gf I spent $400 on her bday in fact. But a couple months? ****, I have multiple of those a year. Not wasting my money on middle school relationships.

That feel when no girlfriend

You have multiple Christmases a year too?

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I get it if you're official GF/BF but if you're just randomly dating for 2 months, do you really get them something significant for xmas ? Seems like a waste.

Fellas. Looking for a play here.

I work at a casino that obviously employs hundreds of people and a high amount of dealers as well. I've noticed another dealer that I find to be, well let's just say, pretty effin hot and a lot of guys would say so. Nah no pics sorry!

Any girl I've dated I have met online honestly, since I don't drink and go to many social places often enough to seek that way. I'm actually texting a girl I met on a dating site, but we have yet to meet in person, though we are planning it since she is just in a rough finals week and with Christmas coming up she is going to see her family.

Anyway, back to the hot co-worker . . . she has probably caught me glancing at her a time or two, but I have undoubtedly noticed her glancing at me. Tonight at work, she actually sat right by me while I was eating on one break and again when I was chatting with another dealer on the following break. The glancing I didn't think much of, but there are dozens of seats available in our break room, so when she sat next to me, I'm thinking there is something to this glancing. :-/

I'm just an average looking guy, who has had moderate success with women, and while everyone I've been with has been pretty good looking I'd say, none have really ever been a bombshell, and I don't feel like one that is would really give me the time of day, you know? This is the type of girl she can pretty much get any guy she'd want, so here's my river decision . . .

Do I not act on her clear signals, maybe even trying to pick up more of a read on this situation that I could be dead wrong on, and/or continue to talk to Ms. Online?

-OR-

Do I go after this chick that would be the nuts if I were to get with her? If so, what's the best way to approach her, since I have her on my Facebook page (she's got over 1k friends, so that's why this might not be as easy of a call), and asking her at work is pretty hard since it is hard to really be alone with anyone.

Thanks, buddies!

How about talking to her?

We have made small talk about work, the standard. But again, there's always people around. We just happened to be on the same breaks today, which normally isn't the case since there are 3-4 different break cycles. It's just hard ot get a good minute alone with really anyone at work.

Yeah I like your rule Custer. I usually spend about 100 on family. So ill spend a bit more than that on her.

Also I should've clarified. I meant fake red hair. Like really dark red hair. With tan skin. Massive hnnnnnggggg

I said screw it and made a hero call. She said we could get a group and go to the place I recommend we go. At least I am not drawing dead yet, as perhaps she'd want to go with friends to make it more comfortable instead of 1-on-1 and all awkward seeming? I don't know. She is a confident woman though, so I feel like I'm a dog in this situation. Progress to come. Thanks for all your help (lol).

Good luck. Hopefully you use less poker analogies when you are hanging out with her then you do in your posts.

Even by student standards significant means more than a couple of hundred dollars.

The bolded parts are things you really need to change about your life.

You also set it up like going after this girl and talking to online girl is a binary situation -- it isn't. Normally if pursuing multiple girls you should continue to do so. The reason you should stop talking to online girl is that having a texting conversation with someone you have never met and will not meet for some time is a waste of time.

I have no idea if she is interested or not as you haven't said much and it would be hard to trust your evaluation even if there was more information. Talking to her is the correct play. That being said even if she thinks your cute and has some interest I think you're dead in the water here until you make significant changes.

Make yourself feel like she is the dog, else its probably not going to work out.

Any word on the randomly dating for 2 months ? Should I be getting her something ? I was thinking cheap and thoughtful, not even sure she is getting me something. Does this change when we dont actually hangout around xmas, if so how many days is the spread ?

I agree that $100 should be the minimum one should spend on a girlfriend. Thankfully no gf at the moment cause we some broke boys eating Raymen noodles

Lol sounds depressing

Why are you not working part time then?

Honestly, I dont understand why people not just work more. I couldnt live on a budget where $100 would make an impact.

It's not depressing and I do have a part time job but they are f****** everyone over with labor cuts cause they hired too many seasonal workers. Was getting enough hours until now.

I could spend $100 on a gift now but there's no point since I'm single and not like most of 2p2 Ballin from poker or having masters in math by 20

@spur
Im sure you could and have, it was probably just a different stage of your life.

Yes, but I was a teenager then. We are talking college students.
I would work 2-3 jobs if I needed to.

Also, people need to learn relevant skills so they have a USP. Doing manual labor is not the way to go.

Who said anything about manual labor?

I've worked up to 30 hours a week while going full time school so I know wtf to do but I can't control corporate bs with hours. I'm looking for other work projects while on winter break but **** doesn't happen over night

I agree with the point you're making, but to be nitty - manual labour is the same kind of category as office worker. You can specialise a lot in either category. I know a welder who makes ~$250k a year, for example.

I am making a general point. Not talking to you specifically, although you were the reason I brought this up.

You need specific skills for that. So yeah, manual labor meant basic manual labor. If you are a highly specialized construction worker (for example), you are earning more than most college grads ever will.

This is some privileged ass **** right here

Care to elaborate?