why not? i hate having tonnes of random facebook friends. just cause they're female, they get a pass on being deleted?

Don't add them and that isn't an issue.

Deleting a girl because she rejected your advances is pretty weak.

went out with aforementioned okc girl today. met at 3 to go for a hike in the park, which was nice. then we went to get burritos and margaritas at this good fast casual place, and the conversation got better with some liquor. i asked her if she wanted to come over and she said sure. on the way there, she asked me about my political beliefs and i said i'm pretty liberal but really the only thing im black and white about is being pro gay marriage.

somehow, she's not on board. she put together some horrible arguments about traditional families and how important it is to have a mother and father and that the point of marriage is children. so obv i was like well then we have to ban divorce and ban infertile couples from being married. and obv kids are much better off in orphanages than having two gay parents (she's very against gay adoption she said). i wasnt rude but eventually she was like maybe we shouldnt talk about it.

even though we both probably knew at this point that things were done, she came over. we watched a netflix movie and she cuddled up on me but didnt really reciprocate my rubbing her shoulder or aynthing. at the end of the movie, i kissed her bc she looked hot and why not and she kind of pulled back after a second. i said ok ill walk you to your car, and did. oh well.

Don't talk politics with girls. Maybe if you shared the same views, you could get away with it, but it's just asking for trouble, and most girls aren't interested. Even then, I would attempt to redirect the conversation immediately.

Lesson learned the hard way.

um, she asked me what i thought. it was our fourth date and her beliefs are entirely a deal-breaker. so why would i not want to know at that point?

if you hate anything about fb then you spend too much time on there. should be used for the bare minimal stuff imo.

you just dnt want to be the guy who 'deletes' ppl off of fb if they lose contact or w/e. its just easier to keep them added and have no contact, leaving ur options open.

you should probably go get a gay marriage now just to show her how wrong she is

Agree with the latter, but i think youve got the first part reversed. I hate watching tv so i dont do it

Because at the end of the night you weren't against having sex with her despite her views. This isn't a big deal since it isn't like not getting laid one night is the end of the world.

Knowing her position on the issue was useful because you could disqualify her as serious potential or even as someone you'd want to see again. You could have noted that position and changed the topic such that the night was not ruined.

Further, while this is a pretty big deal the problem with discussing politics is that differences on much more minor issues can also end up ruining an evening. If they want to talk about politics fine since that is information you can use to judge compatibility but don't divulge much of your position or allow them to see your reaction. This applies less to the big issues were you suddenly realize the person is repulsive but even then you are not going to change anyone's views so just end the date and get go for a drink and see what is out there to salvage the night.

If I spoke honestly about my politics I think my success with girls would have been greatly reduced.

I disagree. If you don't want someone on facebook then delete them. There's a lot of annoying people that post mindless **** so its easier just to delete them. If he wont contact her again why would he want to see what she posts?

I think it's more about the intent. Deleting a girl because she rejected you/turned down a date/etc is incredibly immature and she will think that if she notices the defriend. Deleting someone because you never expect to have contact again is fine IMO (I go through my friend list every year or so and delete people). No real ill will towards the people I'm defriending though.

And you can hide people from your news feed so deleting is unnecessary if your sole intention is not seeing their mindless posts.

Didn't realize it was date number four, but Henry's strategy is so much better. Don't argue for gay marriage; it isn't going to change her beliefs and obviously it ruins the night. Let her do all the talking and try as best as possible not to disclose your views. It's possible she just really hasn't thought about the issue, but in this instance, you could've gotten her to reveal why she is against gay marriage and not argue against her.

Deleting people because they are annoying is different than deleting people because they rejected advances. It looks really bad.

With annoying people you can just make them not appear on your feed. That is built into FB but there are apps that even give you more control so that you can just have all posts by X about Y not appear which is great to get rid of annoying posts from people who are active in something or the guy who posts every time he goes and returns from the gym.

HAH

Agree. I would justify not being forthcoming with my contrary beliefs as putting myself in a position to create the most happiness for the girl without even necessarily trying to have sex with her. You're not going to be in as good a position to be a friend if you start exposing the rift that stands between you. I always avoid politics, religion, dieting etc because nobody budges on these topics and they create rifts/disharmony. Even if I found her repulsive I know stuff like gay marriage is **** people don't budge on and there's no reason to try to change anybodies mind on it. How obnoxious of her to try to make a traditional family argument. She was just probably just **** testing you, bro. I can't believe anybody would go anti gay marriage on a first date. You could just indicate your feelings with a look of disgust and never have to explicitly expose that rift.

oh I didn't know this was about a girl that rejected him. and with annoying people i prefer just to delete them rather than hide their posts if i rarely see them irl. The only time i wont delete someone annoying is if we bump into each-other regularly.

With all this talk of the importance of Twitter, I clearly should put stock into this woman I met through a friend after my show, got her number, asked her out for drinks, she said she was busy for a few weeks, but followed me on Twitter at 3am the other night, right?!

I don't think anybody is talking about Twitter.

lol

I blocked yeotaexwife from Facebook after more drama had gone down (obviously, lol)... Did it because I didn't want her to have the ability to to see what I was up to.

bringing grouper girl to a champagne, wine and cheese event at my friend's law firm tonight. view right over the white house from the roof deck. gorgeous day. and best of all, it's free. should be a pretty sure thing...

That's completely different than removing a girl because she rejected you.

If a girl asks if I have Facebook, I usually just say I do, but I don't ever use it. Most girls seem fine with that. I don't think it has ever hurt my chances to say that, but generally only the younger girls ask.

In the past I always wondered why I had great conversations with some girls, yet ridic boring ones with others. My explanation used to be that I'm sometimes simply not in the right mood for good/fun convos, which may be partially true but now I realize that the main reason is that many girls are simply put boring. I failed to understand this for so many years and it had me second guess way too many situations.

This leaves me wondering, how average looking guys pick up hot (often boring) girls - obv for non-relationship purposes. If someone isn't interesting to me I seem to have no way to make them attracted to me. I always end up with the fun 5-7s and I wouldn't know what to do to improve on this.

Go for the fun 8-10s instead?

Expand on what you mean by interesting.

I also agree with n00b590 that your association between fun and less attractive is odd and I think telling.

As a guy and a girl you each reach a certain point of attractiveness that you can't top. I feel like I've topped out at 7s/7.5s. If you are average looking as a male there is no reason for a really hot girl to date you or hook up with you when she can go for a much better looking male. The same principal holds for males in regards to females. It's ultimately a looks contest. I rarely see any non-congruent couples in terms of looks.