nah none really. Havent had the opportunity. I like to think something will eventually happen but im just kinda w/e atm

gl dude you sound similar to the way I was a few years back. You can actually do really well with some girls if ur a little shy-but sincere as you come off as being genuine as opposed to the GGs of this world who will get shutdown by a good percentage of chicks as coming across too strong and playerlike. You just need to not be shy of initating and going for it.

not sure if sarcasm but the team we played was undefeated. we're actually one of the more athletic teams but it's our first year. the last inning with no outs i caused a double play by not tagging up. the girl always bunts so i ran on contact. somehow she tried to bunt it but it popped up a little and pitcher caught it and i was ****ed.

i don't really have epic failures. it's hard to tell what's a failure and what turns into something down the road. and any failures are short lived and moved on. i'm sure i offend someone and then they're forever turned off by me but i don't really notice. and getting offended in life at like almost anything is genuinely a personality trait i'm not interested in dealing with. i'm not a player imo. i never lie but i also don't see sex as anything more than just an early step in getting to know each other. a perfect example of this is my most recent TR. we're actually not sexually compatible. i like sex multiple times a day when first dating. she's already struggling with it. it's pretty rare to not be sexually compatible since it doesn't take much but this is why i wouldn't form a relationship before having sex.

8.44/10 from the bar never texted back. girl from st paddy's day didnt text back. happens all the time. girl i met last wednesday at a bar hasn't texted back. the last two actually asked for my number so sometimes it makes no sense. girls are busy and have a bunch of guys on deck though.

it's like baseball except you play with a big red ball and kick it as the batter instead of hitting.

Good answer I was just curious.

Something that popped into my head recently that has been discussed in the thread several times I think is the reforming of someone's life. Usually at least involving Henry there have been discussions here (or it might also have been in the EDF thread) of 'grooming' someone into a ladies' man. Has such a project ever come to fruition?
I don't think I've ever read about it, but I must admit that I have not read a hundred percent of the thread. (Nor do I have LKJ's memory.)
I think it would be a good read if it ever happened.

The reason I bring this up is because for the second time in not too long I have the chance to reinvent myself because I'm going to be dropped into a completely new environment with a new job. The first time, while I have improved, has not gone as well as I hoped. It would be fun if I could read about others undergoing this process, since while I have some vague goals it is hard to define them, and I barely have an idea how to reach them.
Now that I secured a job I am happy with for the next 4-5 years it is the perfect time to work on other things. If there is any interest, I might even be willing to take concrete thread suggestions and implement them into my life. You all know I pull some weird (sub-optimal) **** sometimes in between my successes, so I'm open to mostly anything.

Thanks if anyone can help me find back these thread tangents, if there are any.

I've been working on something like this as well... I'll probably be starting for real once fall starts, but I'll likely be posting under a gimmick because this account is too tied to my real name.

this may be known already to the regs, but mind giving a quick summary of your current life, why you want to change, what you want to change, etc? idk if i'd call it reinventing myself but i've been making a conscious effort the past several months to improve myself with things like working out consistently, eating healthier, dressing better, trying to be more outgoing and care free, etc so i'm interested to hear what you're doing.

if you started a blog like that I'd read. Go for it.

Really interested in this, would love to have Henry chime in.

There is a pretty big difference between a socially competent person in a new environment and someone socially awkward.

Depending on your city, job, social skills etc it's going to vary what you need to do. The best chance for improvement is to start a blog type thing or at least some info and then a bunch of TRs.

I have it scheduled for fall as well as that is when I will be relocating and starting my new job, but I just heard the news and might as well prepare beforehand. Do you have any concrete plans of what you're going to do?
I will not start a gimmick though, I am not intending to give out my full name but would be willing to divulge large parts of my life to make it a more interactive story for SL if there is interest.

I originally thought of just chronicling my progress in this thread, but a blog might be a nice idea. I'm afraid it might lose most of the interactivity then however and that is my main goal for sharing it, I wouldn't write it to be read, I would want to get comments and discussion about it.

I've never written a full backstory here I think, but that might be pretty important. I'll give a short summary on which I can expand later if necessary.
I got diagnosed with Asperger's late in my teens and it's pretty explanatory of my life. I'm high functioning because I'm going to have a pretty good job academically speaking. However, up until my 2nd year of uni I hadn't really had any meaningful relationships with anyone.
That was when I met one of my still best friends, and together with him I started going out, drinking and experiment with general debauchery. However, there is no middle road ever for me (very important point, this holds true for everything in my life) so I took it way too far, so I basically burned through liters of vodka and energydrink per week and was never home. Here I also lost my virginity to a one night stand, I was always out and random chance dictates it has to happen sometime. Raw numberswise I did pretty well during that time, but they were purely only one night stands, as I never actually felt anything for them, but it was marginally better than going home alone. I also never felt like I orchestrated a seduction, it was always just me being at the right spot and just not ****ing up. It was never my choice from the beginning.
Last summer I binked an awesome internship, moved to the US for it, rebooted my entire sleep schedule, fixed my eating and lost 20 pounds (out of the 40-45 I want to lose total). I also go out a lot less (1-2 times per week instead of 5-6). I perform well at work, and put in about 70 hours/week. Outside of that I don't have anything to do though, no friends to speak of here.

What I want is to pick up a sport again to get in shape, pick up one of my instruments again and maybe play in a group casually, and find one or more girls that I actually care about instead of just use as fleshlight that talks back at me.
I'm not sure if it is necessary but I'm willing to go to rather extreme measures for this. I've been thinking about throwing out ~90% of my clothes, but I don't know what to replace it with. I'd love walking around purely in suits but that is not suitable for my work as it's not practical. This is a point I'd appreciate help with. I'd even accept input on what kind of apartment I should get if the reasoning is sound.
I'd also just need to go to more social gatherings, but if I don't have anyone telling me to do this or go there my standard MO is to drink at home because it's just so much easier. That is why my best friend back home played such an instrumental role in my life, but I can't depend on him on the other side of the world obv.

I'm not socially awkward, but I'm not proficient either. I'm good enough to be thought of as normal, but not skilled enough to attain what I want usually.
I will be in Boston, and my job will be the equivalent of a grad student (but not actually enrolled in a program) in one of the top labs in my field.

Since you're the second one who mentions a blog, I might do that. I just wanted to check in the thread first because that's a more informal way, to at least gather some info. As mentioned before though, I'm afraid that would lose the interactivity, and my initial idea for this was a collective choose-your-own-ending adventure as an SL girl thread.

I thought you've said in the past that you have Asperger's. Or is that 2+2 Asperger's?

Approximately 78% of 2p2ers have been diagnosed with Aspergers.

I'm not sure this is exactly what slick strawberry was talking about but i just wrote this out

Opportunity-

When it presents itself say yes. Things in life don’t just magically happen. Even if you’re getting invited out every weekend while in college by your friends there’s still those guys putting in the work to find the parties in the first place. Those glory years fade so take advantage of it while you can. Everyone has responsibilities you’re not different or special. You don’t have a harder work load or anything. That’s just rationalizing not going out. If you keep turning down invites the invites stop coming.

Example: Last week a friend invited me to a bar for pong tourney. I knew my ex gf would be there which scares me a little. I was going solo not knowing anyone besides my friend, she’s well into the scene and hooking up with guys there. I was afraid of not looking good. I went and found a girl to sign up with in pong and enjoyed my night. Got that girls number, talked to her and other people. Everything went better than expected.jpg. I took the shot. There will be bumps in the road and some nights things don’t work out but that’s part of it.

Not only should you seize opportunity you should also create it yourself. Go out even when you’re scared it’ll end like the last two times, with you going home alone. Find events to go to and invite friends. Any decent size city has stuff going on every weekend if not day. You want to be the guy who people ask what’s going on this weekend.

Example: I found a 21+ sports league in my area. It runs monday-sunday so anyones schedule can find one day a week to join a sport. The season is a week from over and I’ve hooked up with two girls from there league and made some really solid friends I can hit up anytime to go out with now.

Changing who you are-

A lot of people struggle with how to change. Most generally know the end result they’d like to achieve. It’s usually getting an intelligent and attractive girlfriend but it could be anything everyones different. However, most are not sure of the process to get there or what to even work towards. If you’re confused the easiest way to simplify it is to realize what intimidates you. What you fear in life is what you deep down inside want to become. For whatever reason you burry it deep inside of you and sometimes even talk **** about it. Imagine this scenario: you’re in a room with a girl you have a crush on. Now imagine the one guy walking through the door that would make you the most uneasy and insecure. What guy intimidates you? Now you have the frame work of what you want to become. If you find yourself thinking I’d hate to become that guy, he’s a douche, isn’t sensitive to others, whatever you’re coming up in your head, it’s probably you adding that to him because deep down you want to be him and hate that you never did. Take the positive attributes you imagined and there’s your foundation for goals to set for yourself.

Example: I was always intimidated by the tan, muscular, tight shirt wearing, short hair cut looking dudes. Most of my intimidation came from physical attributes since I’ve never really struggled with saying funny/interesting things and I’m still young so careers don’t play a huge role right now. So I cut my hair, started teeth whitening, tanning, buying medium to large instead of XL, buying vnecks, button ups, etc and working out.

People also inevitably will give you **** about changing. Or back handed compliments such as i don't know why you never did that to begin with you look way better than before. Yet they weren't there supporting you to begin with. I have no idea where it comes from. I think maybe they're afraid you're moving on or what but they'll give you a hard time at first then compliments inevitably come.


Goals-

You have to have goals. Biologically it’s what makes us work for anything. Constantly keep adding goals to life. That day, that week, that month, that year. If someone asked you want you wanted to accomplish in a certain time frame it shouldn’t be hard for you to come up with an answer. At first this could take a lot of soul searching and it could be hard to realize that you’re not close to accomplishing anything you truly want to in life. It can be tough to swallow but you have to be honest with yourself.

Whatever your thoughts are dedicated to is what you will achieve. In your off time, day dreaming, etc. whatever you’re thinking about is what you want. The things you only think about at 1am when you can’t sleep is clearly not what you’re working on. Take the goals from before and make that what consumes your thoughts.

This video called the strangest secret kind of touches on the idea of having your thoughts consumed with your goals to achieve them. It's pretty long and not even something I strongly agree with so if you're going to skip anything in this post make it this
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=plhYVd2MgtA

Safety Nets-

Remove your ****ing safety nets in every aspect of life. Keeping that ex girlfriend around to go to when lonely is not helping you achieve your goals. Only going out if you have all your bros with you isn’t helping you meet new people.

Example: I bought tickets for a concert in San Francisco (creating opportunity) and I invited my friend. I also invited my ex gf because i thought worrying the whole time about finding a girl by the end of the night would make me not enjoy the whole experience of the concert I was seeing. I TR’d the night but a random girl initiated me at the bar and we made out then I lucked out and met up with a girl I used to know who moved out there and hooked up with her. None of that would have happened if my ex was there.

Not only does this work socially but financially as well. Don’t think you can move out of your parents house? Get kicked out and watch how you magically make it work.

Balance-

Do things with a balance in life. Money is a tool in life not the end all be all. Treat it like that but realize not having that tool makes it almost impossible to achieve the general goals people have. Working out helps a lot with attracting women and in general feeling great, but neglecting other aspects of life for it is just as bad. Reading a ton and having interesting opinions on current events, politics, sex, whatever is valuable. Neglecting your physical appearance for it is not a net positive. This can be said for video games or anything.

The War of Art-

In short this book changed my life completely. It's a super short read anyone can finish in a day or two. It's about fighting resistance we all face in life. Whether you want to lose weight or draw more it'll be a burst of inspiration and was what really initiated me working on myself. The day after I finished it I went and got my hair cut to the short look I was always intimidated by. Coincidentally I let my friend borrow it who is a black guy with long dreads and he cut his off right after. He was overweight and was hiding behind his dreads. Someone in skype chat found a pdf version so here it is for free:
http://hnguyen.files.wordpress.com/2...pressfield.pdf

I had a few other sections I was going to add but since I don't remember any of my gimmick SN's/passwords I'll just leave it at that.

Just my opinion but I think it'd work better itt as opposed to a blog for the reasons you stated slick. Either way, gl and I'm looking forward to following it.

Also, I'm sure there are some SLers around Boston, a 2p2 meetup could be an easy way to meet some guys in the area.

omg ygos

GG = GOAT

ha thanks. if it wasn't for that reply i would have thought i just wasted time writing that out

It was a great post, lots of very important information that everyone should consider. Those two links were excellent too, keep posting gg.

good post gg

Great post GG, bit more theorycrafting than what I was looking for, but it'll help me define exactly what I want to change in, I'll have to give it some time to think over, and definitely going to read the art of war. Always wanted to, never actually did, thanks.

I have said that, and I said it here again. However, that is not an excuse to be a dick. I start off with a social disadvantage, but I'm smart enough to compensate for that and move up to at least competent. It's harder because I can't read subtle social cues usually, but you can just 'learn' to recognize most facial expressions, plus that a lot of social situations are common and similar, so for a few years I basically memorized a script for things that occur often. After a while those just get internalized, and while I won't be the most witty guy I have a sort of flowchart in my head that I can draw from for most conversations to appear at least normal if not better.

This makes it horrible to be put in new situations however because I usually have no clue what to do/say, so I usually stay relatively silent.

Yeah, I intended it for this thread as well. I might keep up a blog that's a bit behind in time though as a sort of summary, I think that could be a good resource.

And yeah, I'd gladly meet up with any 2p2'ers in Boston or in the area (I sometimes go weekends to NYC as well) if anyone would want to. Could be lots of fun.

I'd definitely read your blog if you made one Slick.

You're a very interesting and smart guy. I think a lot of people would enjoy a blog.

slick it's "war of art" not art of war. author is Steven Pressfield. It's awesome and you'll get more out of it then the book by sun tzu.

I've been getting healthier, dressing better, and working on other various appearance issues to where in a few months I'll finally be close to comfortable after a long journey of that ****. I'm going to be moving into essentially a frat house in Austin, TX with one of my best friends and a couple other dudes I know well. I am not worried about my social life in general, and I should have a ton of opportunities, but I'm still relatively inexperienced with da fly honeyz so my early efforts will likely be entertaining at the least.

What's the total weight loss at now JP? Impressive stuff.