hi dk

Isn't the right answer Henry & xbeatax combined? Henry first, for all the reasons he said, and then if she doesn't get the message you can be a little more explicit (without being overly harsh obv).

The count is now at six guys who have had issues thanks to Facebook this Valentine's day. Facebook is horrible for single guys.

Henry nailed it. If I ask a friend of a friend out and she doesn't respond then there's at least still the hope of the dynamic returning to a semblance of its prior state.

A girl I'm attracted to just posted yesterday she's 'Single' (coming out of a LTR- nice timing guy!).

She's in my classes.

Yep, I don't like it lol.

These are are guys who are dating multiple girls who have had one or more of the girls publicly post about V-day stuff and thus jamming them up with the other girls they are seeing.

Yeah I wish that was a big problem for me.

I guess you could restrict your wall posting to just you, but that might not be optimal.

time to....

Re: beata's comment

If you don't respond and she drunk texts you one night, the drunken ONS is still open.

(doesn't work for friend of friend).

Girls who announce that they are single tilt me. If you're "talking" to one of these girls who does this she's clearly just stringing you along to get her fix of attention. Also, it just sounds lame to announce that.

its perfect timing, you always want to dump before valentines, her bday, or xmas so you arent out an extra gift

I'm fairly sure FB does it for you. If you change your status it broadcasts it to the world.

oh ya. but i mean i've also seen where people announce it in their own statuses, not like... the auto update.

I think I will conveniently attend the industry networking night she is helping put on for her student association.

Facebook is truly awful. It has some positive aspects when used correctly but as Henry said for a single guy it is almost entirely negative.

Not to mention the fact that the vast majority of girls cannot resist using it in passive-aggressive and attention-whoring ways. Actually lots of guys do this too and it's pathetic. Girls will break up with their boyfriends and tell their friends to take tons of pictures of them grinding/kissing guys and overall going wild on purpose. Then declare in their status "I'm a free bitch" etc. Then the guy will passive aggressive make a status about how his ex is a whore and they will indirectly respond to each other via their own statuses while friends cheer them on.

Provides solid entertainment value imo

i just use facebook to play time-wasting games, occasionally post witty status updates about sports that the same five or so people like, and look at pictures of girls.

I feel like this is a relevant and appropriate time for a lurker to introduce himself to the thread.

24y male - 5 year relationship ended ~6 months ago. "Studying" game I guess - lol - trying to figure out wtf I am doing in interactions w girls and watching some pua dudes youtube speeches some of which are pretty cool.

Deleted my facebook ~2 months ago mostly because I was constantly sooo tilted by 90% of comments on the news feed. Considering firing it back up with very limited content (ie get rid of wall, pics, etc) just as a way for people I'm not real close with to get in contact w/ me if they really need to.

Anyway, hopefully I can add value to the thread..

My advice for anyone who breaks up with their girlfriend is to hide her and all her friends on all social media unless you want to deal with nonsense.

Future,

Don't know how much you've been 'studying' but #1, don't call it 'game' (I know you said it tongue-in-cheek partly).

Look up David Wygant on YT (no I don't work for him or earn any income from his ventures). There may be better people, but he's one of the better marketed ones so I found him first. Henry et al would call it common sense (I agree), but getting the fundamentals down is good for someone rusty like you.

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In the FB thread in OOT it seems like most people have blocked at least half their news feed. All OOT posters are male. I have such gained more confidence that FB is for females, uncultured males and adolescents from both genders.

This is incredibly childish. The last time I saw this happening was via ICQ away statuses years ago.

While this happens, those people are ****ing pathetic.
I doubt this is a North American thing only (because nothing really ever is, there is not a big difference between Europe and NA), but this never happens with people I regularly go out with.
If it would, I would drop those people immediately from my friend list. It surely isnt a contra argument to Facebook. Also people should use the god damn ignore button.

Good point Henry, I guess in a sort of social circle it would be better to give the situation a chance to get back to as it was before. I was thinking of it more from my perspective ... I'd prefer if girls told me outright if they're not interested rather than this one word reply or no reply at all **** ... it's such a waste of time. And actually, I tend to lose respect for people who do it. But maybe that's just good ole picky me.

I like the ignore button. I mean, I really like it.


Not sure what to make of a girl entering the thread. New perspective? In any case, this is the only thread I post on on 2p2 anymore whilst clearly you are better known. However, welcome

Awesome gif

So there is this girl that was my "date" for NYE the last two years, we have "hooked up" several times, hung out quite a bit over Winter Break and have been on 4 or 5 dates (dinner/drinks) in the last 4-5 months and talked about possibly being in a relationship. Our schools (I just finished school) were like 15 hours apart so we decided not to pursue anything relationship wise at least until she finishes school this Spring. Since she went back to school about a month ago we haven't really talked at all and when she came home the weekend after she went back she said she was just home for "family stuff" and then going back a day later so I kinda took this as her not wanting anything. In the past for holidays she has initiated with "Merry Christmas" or "Happy Thanksgiving" etc. Should I text her a "Happy Valentines Day" or not? I dont want to come off as needy but at the same time I still would like to pursue something with this person...

I don't see the harm in sending a happy valentines text in a friendly sort of way. However. it depends on how well you know her and how you think she'll take it. The fact that you're asking for advice might indicate that you already know the answer which suits you best ... I think that's often the case with yes/no advice questions.

Please keep in mind though, I'm a fool. Paging more experienced regs.